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High Agency: The Most Important Quality When Improving Yourself

You know that moment when life hits you with an unexpected problem?

A sudden emergency expense. Broken plans. A door of opportunity completely slammed shut.

Most people freeze.

They wait. Some of them complain. They hope something external shifts.

But a small group reacts differently.

They lean in. They ask, “Alright… how do I solve this?”

This mindset is called high agency.

And it’s the single most important quality for self-improvement.

Everything else — discipline, intelligence, connections — means nothing if you don’t believe you can actually move the needle.

If you want to grow fast in today’s world, you need this trait more than ever.

Let’s break it down.

What Is High Agency (And Why It Matters Now More Than Ever)

High agency is the fundamental belief that you can shape your world, not just react to it.

High agency is the difference between someone who sees a locked door and walks away versus someone who tries three different keys, picks the lock, or builds a new entrance.

Think about a child who sees a chocolate bar on the kitchen shelf.

They want it. The child climbs or drag a chair. They improvise.

That’s raw agency.

You were born with that drive. Everyone was.  But as life goes on, many people let it die under layers of excuses, fear, and conditioning.

High agency is simply taking back that original state.

It’s the belief that:

  • You can shape your life.
  • You can solve your problems.
  • You can figure things out even when you don’t know how yet.

In today’s society, this quality isn’t just useful. It’s survival.

The World wants to stop your High Agency

The World wants to stop your High Agency

We live in a world where the rules change fast.

Technology evolves daily. Opportunities appear and disappear overnight.

The people who thrive now are the ones who adapt quickly, learn fast, and take responsibility for everything they touch.

High agency is the conviction that you are an active participant in shaping your life, not a passive reactor to external events.

The Five Imperatives: Why You Must Develop High Agency

Developing a high sense of agency isn’t optional for becoming your highest self; it is the prerequisite.

Here are five major reasons why you must cultivate this quality now:

1. Nobody is coming to save you

If you rely on government, family, friends, or luck to rescue you, you’re done.

High agency kills the fantasy that someone else will do the work for you.

2. Problems don’t disappear; they compound

Avoiding responsibility doesn’t pause consequences; it multiplies them.

High agency forces you to confront things early while they’re still fixable.

3. Skill acquisition demands ownership

You can’t develop mastery with a passive mindset.

High agency pushes you to teach yourself, study on your own, and stay curious.

4. Your environment can’t be controlled, but your actions can

Life is unpredictable.

High agency gives you the ability to respond intelligently instead of reacting emotionally.

5. It creates momentum in every area

Once you start acting with high agency, everything speeds up: your learning, career, relationships, and opportunities.

People trust you more because you get things done.

These five reasons are the backbone of everything else in this newsletter.

The 5-Step Framework to Build High Agency

Let’s connect each reason to an actionable step. This is the part you’ll want to save.

STEP 1: Take responsibility immediately

The moment something goes wrong, claim it. Even if it wasn’t your fault.

Here’s what I mean.

If you say, “It’s not my fault,” you’ve surrendered all power to fix it. The problem becomes someone else’s job.

High agency begins the moment you say, “Okay, this is on me. Now what do I do about it?”

STEP 2: Identify problems early

Don’t let issues grow roots.

High agency people scan their life like a pilot checks instruments before taking off.

Ask yourself weekly:

  • What’s broken?
  • What’s slipping?
  • What’s uncomfortable that I’ve been avoiding?

Solve small issues before they become life-changing ones.

STEP 3: Become a self-teacher

High agency people don’t wait for perfect conditions.

They Google. Some of them watch videos. They experiment.

High agency people fail and try again.

If you want agency, stop waiting for someone to show you how. Learn the skill yourself.

Every skill you gain increases the number of problems you can solve.

STEP 4: Control your controllables

You can’t control the economy, but you can control your output.

People can’t be controlled, but you can control your standards.

Bad luck is unpredictable, but you can control preparation.

High agency is about focusing on your levers, not the world’s randomness.

STEP 5: Build fast momentum loops

Momentum is created through repeated small wins.

Make a habit of taking action within five minutes when an idea hits.

Send the email. Make the call. Start the draft.

Move quickly because the faster you act, the faster life rewards you.

The 5 Step Framework to Build High Agency

The 5 Step Framework to Build High Agency

How To Spot High Agency People and Learn from Them

Once you start building this mindset, you’ll notice something funny.

High agency becomes magnetic. You see it instantly in others.

Here’s how to spot them:

1. Look at their history

Are they the kind of person who makes things happen despite obstacles?

Or do they always have explanations for things not working out?

Patterns don’t lie.

2. Watch how they handle “no”

A low agency person hears “no” and quits.

A high agency person hears “no” and gets creative.

They find another door. Or another route.

Or they build something new.

3. Pay attention to their questions

Low agency asks: “Why can’t someone fix this?”

High agency asks: “How can I fix this myself?”

The question tells you everything.

4. Check their default bias

Do they wait? Or do they act?

High agency people move.

They prototype. The high agency person experiments. They don’t sit around hoping.

5. See how they learn

Do they teach themselves?

Or do they hunt for information? Do they take initiative without being asked?

If yes, that’s the person you should be around.

And here’s the secret:

Agency is contagious. When you’re around people who get things done, you start to rise to their level without even noticing.

Examples of High Agency People Who Built Their Success

These real-world examples are people who took control, acted, iterated, and outworked every excuse.

1. J.K. Rowling

J.K. Rowling was a single mother on welfare, dealing with depression, when she started writing Harry Potter. Publishers rejected her manuscript twelve times. Instead of giving up, she kept submitting.

She believed she could change her circumstances through her work. That agency transformed not just her life but created an entire cultural phenomenon.

2. Thomas Sankara (Burkina Faso)

As President of Burkina Faso, Sankara embodied national high agency.

He refused to accept that his country was doomed to poverty and foreign aid dependency. He launched unprecedented campaigns for self-sufficiency, vaccination, women’s rights, and environmental protection.

Sankara famously urged his people to “produce what we consume, and consume what we produce,” a powerful call for collective agency.

3. Patrick Collison (Stripe)

Collison taught himself how to code as a teenager, built multiple products before 20, and refuses to accept limitations.

He’s the embodiment of “I’ll figure it out.”

4. Tony Elumelu (Nigerian Entrepreneur)

Elumelu is a high agency machine.

He spotted opportunities others ignored, built UBA into a continental force, and created the Tony Elumelu Foundation to develop African entrepreneurs.

Elumelu didn’t wait for the system to change. He changed it himself.

These people didn’t follow a rulebook. They wrote their own.

So, Why Does High Agency Matter So Much?

Because everything you want requires movement.

And movement only happens when you believe you can move something.

High agency is the belief that the world is bendable.

Not easily, not instantly, but bendable if you push consistently.

When you demonstrate high agency, your environment shifts.

People trust you more. Opportunities find you.

You start solving problems others are scared of. And that attracts even bigger opportunities.

This is how teams transform. Businesses scale because of high agency people.

High agency is how you change your life from the inside out.

If there’s one thing you take from this entire article, let it be this:

You are far more powerful than you think.

Agency is your birthright. You had it as a child. Reclaim it now.

Start taking responsibility.

Solve small problems fast. Teach yourself the skills you lack. Surround yourself with people who make things happen.

Start acting with urgency.

The pattern is clear. The locked doors aren’t there to stop you. They’re there to filter out everyone who isn’t serious about getting through.

Be one of the people who finds the key.

High agency isn’t a personality trait. It’s a choice. Make it daily.

And watch how fast your life compounds.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self Newsletter: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

 

Fun is Key: Why Enjoyment Is the Ultimate Life Strategy

You cannot compete with someone who understands that fun is key to maximising life.

Think about it.

The person enjoying themselves has energy to spare. They show up early, stay late. And they don’t count the hours.

Meanwhile, stressed people are rationing their last drops of motivation, hoarding their energy like it’s the apocalypse.

Most people don’t love what they do. They’re simply pushing through. The average person clocks in at work or business, does the bare minimum and then waits for weekends or retirement to feel alive again.

However, those who rise above average are playing a different game entirely.

They’re not chasing comfort. They’re chasing enjoyment. Because when you’re having fun, you move differently.

You think faster. And you can take risks. You also recover from setbacks quickly.

Here’s what nobody tells you:

Fun isn’t the reward you get after success.

Fun is the mechanism that creates success. It’s not dessert; it’s the main course.

And once you understand this, everything changes.

Knowing Fun is Key is so Underrated

By fun, I don’t mean the mindless “scroll TikTok or Instagram for hours” kind.

In this context, fun is the immersive, fully present kind. It’s the kind that lights you up inside. Having fun is where time disappears, and you forget to check your phone.

Here’s the crazy part: this type of fun is what creates discipline.

It’s what sustains consistency. It’s what keeps your energy high when everyone else burns out. This is why fun is key.

You can’t compete with someone who’s having this kind of fun. Because they’ll keep showing up long after you’ve quit.

Why Fun is Key to the Engine of a Great Life

We often treat fun as a luxury.

Most people still see fun as something we earn after the “real work” is done. This is backwards.

Fun is not the reward for hard work. Fun is the fuel for hard work.

1. Fun is Key because it increases agency

Agency is your feeling of being in control of your life and actions.

When you’re enjoying something, you feel more in control.  You choose to do it. Not because you have to, but because you want to.

This shift from obligation to enthusiasm changes everything.

It’s the difference between dragging yourself to the gym and looking forward to testing your strength. Fun puts you in the driver’s seat. You’re no longer living life by external rules.

By having fun, you’re designing your own game.

2. Fun is Key because it Builds Discipline

The biggest myth about discipline is that it requires constant suffering.

Real discipline is consistent action. And nothing drives consistent action better than enjoyment. True discipline is devotion sustained by enjoyment.

Fun is Key

Fun is Key

Think of a gamer who plays for hours, mastering a level. Or a musician repeating the same chord progression until it’s perfect.

When you find fun in what you’re doing, repetition stops feeling like punishment.

It becomes practice. And that’s how you win.

3. Fun is Key because it Fuels Consistency

When you find the fun in a task, consistency stops being a struggle and starts being a preference.

You don’t force yourself to play a video game or watch your favourite show; you just do it. Consistency isn’t about forcing yourself to do things you hate. It’s about reducing resistance.

If your process feels good, you’ll return to it naturally. That’s why fun is the ultimate hack for long-term success.

4. Fun is Key because it Multiplies Your Energy

Have you noticed how doing something you love gives you more energy than rest ever could?

That’s because enthusiasm generates energy. When you do something you love, you’re not depleting yourself. You’re tapping into a deeper source. I call this “fun-based energy.”

When your life includes fun, you stop living in survival mode. You start to thrive.

The Performance Paradox: How Fun Helps You Achieve Goals Faster

Think of the most productive people you know.

The ones who truly excel. Are they miserable? Or are they engaged, focused, and often, joyful?

Here’s the paradox most people miss: The more fun you have, the faster you grow.

The people accomplishing the most aren’t suffering the most. They’re enjoying themselves the most.

Fun = Faster Progress

Fun unlocks what psychologists call intrinsic motivation.

This is doing something for its own sake. That’s the holy grail of productivity. No reward or threat can match the power of wanting to do something just because it feels good to do it.

Fun makes you generous with your effort.

You give more. Interestingly, you think deeper. You also show up even when no one’s watching.

It’s not about chasing dopamine hits. It’s about finding joy in the process.

Because when you love the process, results become inevitable.

Fun is the Trigger to the Flow State

The pinnacle of performance and enjoyment for work and life is the Flow State.

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi coined this term to describe that mental state where you are so completely absorbed in an activity that nothing else seems to matter.

What Flow Actually Is

Athletes call it “the zone.” Artists call it “being in the groove.” Whatever you call it, it’s the state where your best work happens.

And fun is the trigger that gets you there.

Why Fun Unlocks Flow

The key to unlocking flow, especially the autotelic experience (when the activity is rewarding in itself), is fun.

Flow happens when you’re challenged just enough to stay engaged but not overwhelmed. And fun is the emotional signal that says, “You’re right where you should be.”

When you’re having fun, your brain releases dopamine and endorphins. These are chemicals that sharpen focus, boost creativity, and make hard work feel effortless.

You don’t enter flow by trying to focus harder; you enter flow by making the task playful, engaging, and enjoyable.

If you can make your work feel like a game you love, you make peak and consistent performance your default state.

In short: fun is the gateway to flow.

How Fun Unlocks Greater Productivity

Most people try to work harder. The greats learn to enjoy harder.

Fun switches your brain from “survival” mode to “exploration” mode. Instead of obsessing over perfection, experiment and iterate. Take more shots.

Here’s what that does to your output:

  • You start sooner. No dread, no delay.
  • You focus deeper. Because curiosity replaces fear.
  • You recover faster. Mistakes feel like feedback, not failure.
  • You sustain momentum. You don’t need motivation—you want to keep going.

That’s how fun becomes a productivity engine.

Look at software engineers who get lost coding all night because it feels like solving a puzzle. Or writers who forget to eat because they’re deep in flow.

From this perspective, fun is not a distraction, but a multiplier.

Real People Who Made Fun Their Superpower

Look at the people dominating their fields. They’re not suffering their way to the top. They’re enjoying their way there.

1. Elon Musk: The Ultimate Gamer

Say what you will about him, but Musk genuinely enjoys building and scaling businesses.

Whether he’s launching rockets, building cars, or posting memes at 2 a.m., he approaches problems with curiosity, not dread.

 

He treats business like a massive sandbox for experimentation. And that playful mindset is what keeps him resilient despite failures.

2. Richard Branson: The Adventure Capitalist

Branson built Virgin by turning seriousness into fun.

From airline safety videos featuring music videos to jumping off buildings for PR stunts, his leadership philosophy is simple: “If it’s not fun, it’s not worth doing.”

That attitude built an empire and made people want to work with him.

3. MrBeast: Gamifying Content Creation

Jimmy Donaldson (MrBeast) built the biggest YouTube channel by treating content creation like an obsessive game.

Every video is a wild challenge that blends generosity with entertainment. MrBeast doesn’t just grind content. He plays it like a video game, levelling up ideas every time.

That’s why he’s unstoppable.

4. Simone Biles: Playing at the Highest Level

The greatest gymnast of all time doesn’t describe her sport as suffering.

Simone talks about the joy of flying through the air. The fun of nailing a new skill. The game of pushing boundaries.

Even after taking time away to protect her mental health, she came back because she missed the fun of competition and the experience of performing.

5. Don Jazzy: The Playful Mogul

Don Jazzy built one of Africa’s biggest record empires by keeping things fun.

Whether he’s joking with fans online or discovering the next big star, Don Jazzy approaches business like a jam session.

He once said, “I just like to make people happy.”

That’s his business model in one sentence. His curiosity, humour, and open spirit turned Mavin Records into more than a label. It’s a playground for creativity.

From these examples, the pattern is clear.

The ones who see life as a game never stop playing. And because they’re having fun, they can’t lose.

The Path to Enjoyment: Two Roads to Fun

Knowing fun matters is useless without knowing how to create it.

How do you inject fun into your life? First, you have two big choices:

  • Love what you do: Find joy in your current work, hobbies, or routines by changing your mindset.
  • Do what you love: Pursue activities or careers that naturally excite you, where fun is intrinsic, not forced.

A. Love what you currently do (The Mindset Shift)

You might not love your job right now.

That’s okay. But you can find fun in it by changing the way you approach it.

  • Gamify your tasks. Track your daily wins like points. Reward yourself for progress.
  • Learn in public. Share what you’re learning. Turning work into content makes it playful.
  • Find patterns. Treat challenges like puzzles, not problems.
  • Bring energy. Music, coffee breaks. Use anything that makes the day feel lighter.
  • Connect with others. Fun multiplies when shared. Laugh more at work.
  • Inject novelty: Change the order of your tasks, work in a new location, or use a new tool. Novelty sparks curiosity and prevents the “brain-fog” of routine.

B. Do what you love (The Life Design Shift)

While a mindset shift is powerful, a fulfilling life requires aligning your actions with your passions. This is about deliberately carving out time and space for the things that genuinely light you up.

  • Start a small creative project. Painting, coding, journaling. Start whatever excites you.
  • Spend time around people who energise you, not drain you.
  • Revisit childhood interests. You might find clues to your current passion there.
  • Blend work and play. Teach, build, or share around what you love.

Here’s the truth: fun is a skill. The more you practice it, the better your life becomes.

The Secret of Winners

The winners are not waiting for Friday. They’re not grinding for some faraway reward. The winners are having fun in motion.

The game is being played now, and the ones who’ll win are the ones enjoying it

– Donald Trump.

This is the secret that separates the exceptional from everyone else. It’s not talent. The secret is not connections. It’s not even hard work.

It’s that they’re having more fun.

And here’s the beautiful part: fun is available to everyone. You don’t need permission. Also, you don’t need resources. You just need to take it seriously.

Fun gives you flow.
Flow gives you consistency.
Consistency gives you results.

And results, over time, give you freedom.

Fun is not a luxury. It’s a strategy.

The man who loves walking will walk further than the man who loves the destination.

Fun is the love of the process, the game itself. That love builds stamina, resilience, and a spirit that outlasts sheer willpower.

Those who win in life aren’t just the most talented or the hardest workers. They are the ones who have the most fun playing the game.

It’s what separates the fulfilled from the frustrated, the energised from the exhausted, the playful from the pressured.

Fun is Key and Builds Other Attributes

Fun is Key and Builds Other Attributes

So, if you want to go far, having fun is key.
If you want to stay consistent, having fun is key.
If you want to live fully, having fun is key.

Because fun is key. And once you find it, everything else falls into place.

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Clear Thinking: How and Why Do People Make Bad Decisions?

Before you read further, two things must be established:

  1. How you spend our days is how you spend your life. Being Present is all you need to spend yours wisely.
  2. Life is full of challenges. The Solution is to know how to solve problems.

I already wrote comprehensive guides that address the above, but I realised there is still a key missing.

Why do people make bad decisions? Why do some people with the same information consistently perform better than others?

How can you reduce the likelihood of a negative outcome when your life is at stake and increase your chances of being correct?

How can we get better at reasoning?

Finding the Key to Maximising Everyday Situations when Solving Problems

I found a book that answers these questions.

In this book, it states that we need to take two actions to achieve the outcomes we want.

  1. Make room for reason in our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
  2. Consciously use this room to think clearly.

The book is by Shane Parrish (the owner of Farnam Street Blog), and its title is Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Results

This book provides a valuable guide for developing clear thinking skills. You will discover that you have an invincible edge once you have perfected this ability. Clear-headed decisions put you in better positions.

And success will only get better from there.

The Power of Clear Thinking in Ordinary Moments

Your future is determined by what happens in everyday situations.

We are trained to concentrate on significant choices rather than the times when we aren’t even aware that we are making a decision.

However, these everyday occurrences frequently have a greater impact on our success than the major choices. It can be challenging to appreciate this.

Most of the time, the circumstances speak for us.

Because these moments seem so unimportant at the time, we are unaware of it. But as days stretch into weeks and weeks into months, the accumulation of these moments determines how easy or difficult it is to achieve our objectives.

You are in a better or worse position to deal with the future at every moment.

In the end, how you position yourself determines how easy or difficult life will be. Instead of letting circumstances force you to make a decision, a good position enables you to think clearly.

The best people in the world rarely make decisions based on external pressures, which is one reason they consistently make wise choices.

Being in a good position at the beginning is the biggest help to decision-making.

If you can out-position someone, you can outperform them without being smarter than them. When in a good situation, anyone appears brilliant. And when in a bad one, even the smartest person appears foolish.

There are numerous ways to succeed when you are in a good position.

Clear Thinking

Clear Thinking is Key to Proper Positioning

This can be compared to playing Tetris. Playing well gives you a lot of choices for where to place the next piece. But when you’re playing badly, you wait for the right piece.

Many people fail to realise that everyday situations determine your position, and your position dictates your options.

Clear Thinking is the Key to Proper Positioning

You can control your situation rather than let it control you by developing your ability to think clearly.

It makes no difference what position you are in now. Whether you improve your position today is what counts. Every everyday situation presents a chance to either make the future simpler or more complex.

It all depends on how clearly you’re thinking.

The Enemies of Clear Thinking

If you don’t know when to use reason, it’s a waste.

For instance, this is a moment after something triggers you, but before you react. In that tiny window, you have two options:

  1. Pause and think rationally.
  2. React automatically.

The problem is that our automatic behaviour often makes things worse.

For example:

  • Someone criticises your work → you immediately get defensive and argue back
  • You see a scary news headline → You immediately share it and panic
  • Someone cuts you off → You assume malice on their part.

Therefore, the first step in improving our results is to teach ourselves to recognise the right decisions in the first place and to take a moment to clear our minds.

Because it entails resetting our ingrained biological defaults that have developed over many centuries, this training takes a lot of time and effort.

However, mastering the everyday events that shape the future is not only feasible but also essential to success and reaching your long-term goals.

Avoid the High Cost of Losing Control

Any situation is made worse by irrational reactions.

The time and effort you invest in correcting your unintentional mistakes come at the expense of achieving your desired results.

There is a big benefit to focusing more of your energy on reaching your goals rather than increasing your problems.

Because in the end, the person who develops clear thinking skills puts more of their total effort toward achieving their goals than the one who doesn’t.

However, if you are unable to control your automatic behaviours (or defaults), you have little chance of thinking clearly.

Recognising the Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

Many things work against rational thought.

This includes emotions like anger or fear, cognitive biases, social pressure, stress, or simply being in a hurry.

These “autopilots” try to skip that pause and push you straight into automatic reactions.

However, there are four major autopilots.

  1. The Emotional Autopilot: We react based on how we feel instead of what’s true.
  2. The Ego Autopilot: We get defensive when our ego or status feels attacked.
  3. The Social Autopilot: We go along with what everyone else is doing.
  4. The Comfort Autopilot: We stick with what’s familiar with and avoid change.

The “autopilot” metaphor captures how these responses happen automatically, without conscious control. It’s just like a plane on autopilot flies without the pilot actively steering.

Each represents a different way our minds switch to automatic mode instead of engaging our rational, deliberate thinking.

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

These autopilots frequently overlap with one another; there are no distinct boundaries between them. Unforced errors can be caused by either one alone, but when they combine, the situation rapidly deteriorates.

The best outcomes in the real world are obtained by those who master their autopilots. They simply know how to manage their ego and temper rather than allowing them to control them.

It’s not that they don’t have either. They constantly position themselves favourably for tomorrow because they can think clearly in everyday situations today.

The Emotional Autopilot

Even the most intelligent people can become foolish due to their emotions, which prevent them from thinking clearly.

For instance,

  • You can’t act in your own best interests when you’re angry at a competitor.
  • You also act impulsively and cut off your thought process out of fear of missing an opportunity.
  • Sometimes, you distance yourself from possible allies when you become outraged at a criticism and react defensively.

The list is endless.

Watch out if you find yourself in any of these situations! Most likely, the emotional autopilot is in charge.

The Ego Autopilot

We are prompted by the ego autopilot to defend and enhance our self-image at all costs.

Our ego tempts us into believing we are more than we actually are. It wants us to appear successful rather than being successful.

The ego causes us to prioritise preserving or enhancing our perceived position in a social hierarchy rather than expanding our knowledge or skill set.

When left unchecked, the ego autopilot has the potential to transform confidence into arrogance or even overconfidence.

For instance, after gaining some knowledge from the internet, we become arrogant. Everything appears to be simple. We consequently take chances that we might not be aware of.  But if we want the outcomes we want, we must fight this kind of undeserved confidence.

Undeserved confidence created by the ego autopilot simply rushes us to bad decisions and blinds us to risk.

How the Ego Autopilot Sometimes Affects Us at Work

Having others rely on us for every decision makes us feel significant and indispensable.

This is one reason why people find it difficult to empower others at work. Having them rely on us gives us a sense of strength and necessity. We feel more powerful the more people rely on us.

Nevertheless, this stance frequently backfires. We gradually become prisoners of the conditions we have created. Because when it takes more and more work to remain in one spot, we get closer to the limit of brute force. Things are bound to break eventually with this type of mindset.

The Ego Autopilot Chooses Feeling Right Over Being Right

We are compelled by the ego autopilot to prioritise feeling right over being right.

Nothing feels better than being correct, to the point where we will unwittingly rearrange the world into artificial hierarchies to preserve our beliefs and improve our self-esteem.

Most people live their lives believing that they are correct and that others who disagree with them are incorrect. We confuse the way the world is with how we would like it to be. We assume that the world operates the way we want it to.

Here are some ways to know if the Ego Autopilot is in charge:

  • You find yourself putting a lot of effort into how you are perceived.
  • Sometimes, you frequently feel like your pride is being damaged
  • You read a few articles on a subject and believe you are an expert,
  • At certain times, you constantly try to prove yourself correct and find it difficult to admit your mistakes
  • You find it difficult to say “I don’t know,”
  • You’re constantly jealous of others or feel like you never get the credit you deserve.

Be on guard! Your ego is in charge in these moments.

The Social Autopilot

The social autopilot encourages conformity.

It persuades us to adopt a viewpoint or conduct just because others do. The desire to fit in, the fear of being an outsider, the fear of being ridiculed, and the fear of disappointing others. These are all examples of what is meant by the term “social pressure.”

We are encouraged by the social autopilot to delegate our ideas, opinions, and results to other people.

It’s simple to justify doing something when everyone else is doing it. There’s no need to stand out, accept accountability for results, or think independently. Simply put your mind on autopilot and go to sleep.

The social autopilot also makes us show off our “good” opinions to get approval from others, especially when it costs us nothing to do so.

Disengage from the Social Autopilot to Stand Out

We fear rejection, mockery, and being treated like idiots because of the social autopilot.

Most people tend to accept the social norm because they believe that the risk of losing social capital outweighs any potential benefits of doing otherwise. Fear prevents us from taking chances and realizing our full potential.

Although there is occasionally wisdom in following the crowd, the big lie of the social autopilot is to mistake the group’s comfort for proof that your actions will produce better outcomes.

If you’re doing the same work as everyone, the only way to outperform is to put in more effort than anyone else.

Shamelessness is Necessary for Success.

You could perform worse if you try something different, but you could also completely alter the game. No doubt, you will achieve the same outcomes as everyone else if you follow their lead.

At the beginning, follow everyone else’s lead if you lack the knowledge necessary to make your own decisions. But you’ll need to think clearly if you want better-than-average results. Additionally, thinking clearly means thinking on your own.

It’s sometimes necessary to defy social norms and act in a way that differs from what others are doing. It’s going to get uncomfortable, so be prepared.

Be Different and Be Correct

The fact that other people agree or disagree with you makes you neither right nor wrong. You will be right if your facts and reasoning are correct.

– Warren Buffett

Doing something different isn’t enough to succeed; you also need to be correct.

You must think differently to act differently. You will stand out as a result, but change only occurs when you are prepared to think for yourself, do what no one else is doing, and take the chance of appearing foolish.

Once you also see that you’ve been following everyone else’s lead, and only because they are already doing it, then it’s time to try something different.

Here are some ways to know if the Social Autopilot is in charge:

  • You frequently worry about disappointing other people,
  • At certain times, you are afraid of being an outsider,
  • You are terrified of being mocked,
  • You find yourself trying to blend in with a crowd.

The Comfort Autopilot

The Comfort Autopilot pushes us to maintain the status quo.

It’s difficult to start something, but it’s also difficult to stop something. Even when change is beneficial, we still oppose it.

Objects never change if they’re left alone. Until something stops them, they don’t stop moving or begin on their own. Human behaviour and our natural tendency to oppose even positive changes can also be explained by this law of physics.

Once our minds are set in a direction, they tend to continue in that direction unless acted upon by some outside force. This cognitive inertia is why changing our minds is hard.

– Leonard Mlodinov

Because we know what to expect and it’s reassuring to have our expectations consistently met, inertia keeps us in unhealthy relationships and unfulfilling jobs.

The fact that maintaining the status quo takes virtually no work is one of the reasons we oppose change. This explains why we become complacent. Building momentum requires a lot of work but keeping it up requires much less.

The comfort autopilot takes advantage of our inclination to stick with tried-and-true methods or norms even when they are no longer the best. The fear that trying something new will result in worse outcomes is another reason why we often resist change.

When it comes to comfort, the “zone of average” is a dangerous place. It’s the moment when everything is functioning so smoothly that we don’t think any adjustments are necessary. We’re hoping for a miraculous improvement. They hardly ever do, of course.

Comfort Autopilot is What Causes You to Double Down when you are Wrong

We must adjust when conditions shift.

However, comfort narrows perspectives and drains the will to change our current course of action. It discourages experimentation and course correction and makes it more difficult to envision alternative approaches.

Additionally, comfort keeps us from doing hard things. It gets harder to do the difficult thing we know we should do the longer we put it off.

Avoiding conflict is comfortable and easy.

But the more time we spend avoiding the conflict, the more energy we use to keep avoiding it.

Avoiding a small but challenging conversation soon escalates into avoiding a big and seemingly insurmountable one. Our relationship eventually suffers because of the weight of what we avoid.

We continue to act in ways that don’t lead to our desired outcomes because of comfort. It mostly goes unnoticed in our subconscious until its effects become too difficult to reverse.

Here are some ways to know if the Comfort Autopilot is in charge:

  • You or your team are resisting change or sticking to a particular method just because it’s how you’ve always done it.
  • You find yourself refusing to share ideas in group settings.

Override to Clarity

We can’t turn off our autopilots, but we can reprogram them.

If we want better outcomes, achieve our goals, and find more joy and meaning in life, we need to learn how to override our autopilots when they’re steering us wrong.

The good news is that we can rewire the same biological tendencies that cause us to act without thinking to work in our favor.

Those who have the best environments tend to have the best autopilots.

Sometimes it’s pure luck, and other times it’s a part of a calculated plan. In any case, when everyone else is acting in a certain way, it’s simpler to follow suit.

Creating an intentional environment where your desired behavior becomes the default behavior is a better way to override your autopilots than using willpower.

Joining groups whose autopilots are set to your desired behaviors is an effective way to create an intentional environment.

Clear Thinking comes from Creating an Intentional Environment.

Clear Thinking comes from creating an Intentional Environment.

If you want to read more, join a book club. To run more, join a running club. If you want to exercise more, hire a trainer.

Your chosen environment, rather than your willpower alone, will help reprogram your autopilots toward better choices.

This is the foundation of thinking clearly to avoid making bad decisions.

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