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Real Happiness: What it Means to be Truly Happy

How can you experience real happiness?

Here are some guidelines on how to go about it. These guidelines are paraphrased from the Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness.

HOW DO YOU DEFINE REAL HAPPINESS

Today, I believe happiness is really a default state.

Happiness is there when you remove the sense of something missing in your life. If you constantly walk around thinking, “I need this,” or “I need that,” trapped in the web of desires – you are not happy.

Happiness is the state when nothing is missing. When nothing is missing, your mind shuts down and stops running into the past or future to regret something or to plan something.

Real Happiness

Real Happiness

HOW YOUR HAPPINESS IS OFTEN DESTROYED

You can literally destroy your happiness if you spend all of your time living in delusions of the future.

For instance, when you crave experiences that will make you be present, the cravings themselves take you from the present moment. A lot of your unhappiness likely comes from comparing things from the past to the present.

The idea you’re going to change something in the outside world, and that is going to bring you the peace, everlasting joy, and happiness you deserve, is a fundamental delusion we all suffer from, including me.

The mistake over and over and over is to say, “Oh, I’ll be happy when I get that thing,” whatever it is. That is the fundamental mistake we all make, 24/7, all day long.

THE ILLUSION OF HAPPINESS

When you’re young, you have time. You have health, but you have no money. When you’re middle-aged, you have money and you have health, but you have no time. When you’re old, you have money and you have time, but you have no health.

So the trifecta is trying to get all three at once. By the time people realize they have enough money, they’ve lost their time and their health.

Here is a short story that perfectly describes the illusion of happiness. It is from the book – The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.

THE SHOPKEEPER’S SON AND THE WISE MAN

“A certain shopkeeper sent his son to learn about the secret of happiness from the wisest man in the world. The lad wandered through the desert for forty days, and finally came upon a beautiful castle, high atop a mountain. It was there that the wise man lived.

“Rather than finding a saintly man, though, our hero, on entering the main room of the castle, saw a hive of activity: tradesmen came and went, people were conversing in the corners, a small orchestra was playing soft music, and there was a table covered with platters of the most delicious food in that part of the world. The wise man conversed with everyone, and the boy had to wait for two hours before it was his turn to be given the man’s attention.

“The wise man listened attentively to the boy’s explanation of why he had come, but told him that he didn’t have time just then to explain the secret of happiness. He suggested that the boy look around the palace and return in two hours.

“‘Meanwhile, I want to ask you to do something,’ said the wise man, handing the boy a teaspoon that held two drops of oil. ‘As you wander around, carry this spoon with you without allowing the oil to spill.’

THE REALIZATION OF THE SHOPKEEPER’S SON

“The boy began climbing and descending the many stairways of the palace, keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. After two hours, he returned to the room where the wise man was.

“‘Well,’ asked the wise man, ‘did you see the Persian tapestries that are hanging in my dining hall? Did you see the garden that it took the master gardener ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?’

“The boy was embarrassed and confessed that he had observed nothing. His only concern had been not to spill the oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

“‘Then go back and observe the marvels of my world,’ said the wise man. ‘You cannot trust a man if you don’t know his house.’

“Relieved, the boy picked up the spoon and returned to his exploration of the palace, this time observing all of the works of art on the ceilings and the walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around him, the beauty of the flowers, and the taste with which everything had been selected. Upon returning to the wise man, he related in detail everything he had seen.

“‘But where are the drops of oil I entrusted to you?’ asked the wise man.

“Looking down at the spoon he held, the boy saw that the oil was gone.

“‘Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you,’ said the wisest of wise men. ‘The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world, and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon.’”

YOUR HAPPINESS IS CONNECTED TO YOUR PEACE

Peace is happiness at rest, and happiness is peace in motion.

You can convert peace into happiness anytime you want. But peace is what you want most of the time.  If you’re a peaceful person, anything you do will be a happy activity.

Today, the way we think you get peace is by resolving all your external problems.

But there are unlimited external problems. So, do you become peaceful then? Well, you can adopt the advice of the wisest person who ever lived. In his words – When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other. Therefore, no one can discover anything about their future (Ecclesiastes 7:14 -15 NIV)

The only way to get peace on the inside is by giving up this idea of problems.

THE BIG QUESTION – HOW TO BE TRULY HAPPY

Training yourself to be happy is completely internal.

There is no external progress, no external validation. You’re competing against yourself—it is a single-player game. This means you should forget about the world of competition and comparison.

Rather, focus on increasing your happiness over time, and it starts with believing you can do it.

The most important trick to being happy is to realize happiness is a skill you develop and a choice you make. You choose to be happy, and then you work at it.

This is what it means to be truly happy. This is how you experience real happiness.

Corrective Feedback: Give and Receive the Best Form of Feedback

Have you ever worked really hard on something, only to get a shrug or a simple “good job”? This is because most people lack corrective feedback.

We’ve all been there. But what if there was a way to get feedback that actually helps you improve? If you’re serious about rapidly enhancing your skills and achieving your goals, you need the best form of feedback. The kind of feedback that not only points out what you’re doing wrong but shows you how to fix it.

This article will show you exactly how to do that.

You’ll learn the different types of feedback, how to get the best kind of feedback, and how to use mistakes to your advantage.

Corrective Feedback - The Best Form of Feedback

Corrective Feedback – The Best Form of Feedback

The Importance of Feedback

The ability to gain immediate feedback on your performance is essential for your rapid growth.

Feedback is the information that aids in understanding what has happened. Feedback often works best when it provides useful information that can guide your future learning. To be the best at your work, you must be sensitive to which feedback is useful and tune out the rest.

This means you must always seek the best form of feedback when others choose work with little or no feedback at all.

The Best Feedback Starts by Sharing Your Work

Share your work to gain immediate feedback.

By exposing your work to others for inspection, you will gain unique perspective and insights on making your work better.

Now here are the forms of feedback you should know about.

The Three Forms of Feedback

There are three types of feedback depending on the context it was given.

  1. Outcome Feedback (Are you doing it wrong?)

This feedback tells you about how well you’re doing overall but offers no ideas as to what you’re doing better or worse (e.g., Getting an A or F in an exam). This type is often easiest to get.

  1. Informational Feedback (What are you doing wrong?)

This feedback tells you what you’re doing wrong, but it doesn’t necessarily tell you how to fix it. This kind of feedback is easy to obtain when you can get real-time access to a feedback source (e.g., a computer programmer and errors)

  1. Corrective Feedback (How can you fix what you’re doing wrong?):

This is the best kind of feedback to get.

Corrective feedback shows you not only what you’re doing wrong, but how to fix it. This kind of feedback is often available only through a coach, mentor or teacher. And sometimes, it can be provided automatically if you’re using the right study materials.

The best feedback is informative and usable by you when received.

How To Always Get Corrective Feedback

To consistently receive corrective feedback, you can follow these strategies:

  • Seek out coaches, mentors, or teachers: Having a mentor or coach who is an expert in the field you’re learning can be invaluable. They can observe your work, identify areas for improvement, and provide specific guidance on how to correct mistakes and enhance your skills.
  • Utilize interactive learning materials: Look for resources that incorporate quizzes, answer explanations, or interactive exercises that point out mistakes and offer solutions.
  • Participate in peer review or study groups: Join or form study groups or peer review circles where members can provide feedback on each other’s work. This collaborative approach allows you to receive constructive criticism and learn from the perspectives of others.
  • Practice self-reflection and self-assessment: Develop the habit of critically evaluating your own work. After completing a task or project, review it with a critical eye and try to identify areas for improvement. Then, research or seek guidance on how to address those areas.
  • Request detailed feedback: When receiving feedback from others, whether it’s a teacher, mentor, or peer, explicitly ask for specific, corrective feedback. Instead of general comments, request that they point out what needs to be improved and provide suggestions on how to correct it.
  • Implement feedback and track progress: Once you receive corrective feedback, make a conscious effort to implement the suggested improvements. Track your progress over time to see how effectively you’re incorporating the feedback and improving your skills.

Lastly, Let Your Mistakes Guide You

Take mistakes seriously, but never personally.

Always be wide open to every bit of information you receive about your work. Then develop the habit of attending to your errors right away. Don’t wince or don’t close your eyes. Look straight at these errors and see what happened, and ask yourself what you can do next to improve.

Your mistakes are the guideposts you use to get better.

Solo Leveling: See How Easily You can Level Up Your Life

The concept of “Solo Leveling” is a brilliant way to learn how to level up your life.

Solo Leveling describes a world where humans with supernatural abilities known as “hunters” must fight deadly monsters to save humanity from certain extinction. Yet, an extremely weak hunter named Sung Jin-woo encounters a mysterious program called the System which gives him the unique ability to level up in strength. And this is what Solo Leveling is about – A guy on a remarkable journey as he fights all kinds of enemies.

Remember what I told you earlier – You are the main character in your story.

Sung Jinwoo - Solo Leveling

Sung Jinwoo – Solo Leveling

 

Like Sung Jin-Woo, you are faced with your battles as well. The good news is Sung Jin-woo saved his world and became so powerful that he could defeat the strongest enemies easily without any help (sorry for the mild spoiler-alert). The supposedly weak hunter of his era transformed to a savior of his universe. And the steps he took in his journey are applicable right now.

And here is how the concept of Solo Leveling can apply in you in real life.

  1. Recognize that You are a “Hunter.”

The modern struggle:

Lone individuals summoning inhuman willpower, fasting, meditating, and exercising…

Up against armies of scientists and statisticians weaponizing abundant food, screens, and medicine into junk food, clickbait news, infinite porn, endless games, and addictive drugs.

– Naval Ravikant.

In Solo Leveling, hunters are human warriors who possess magical powers and use them to fight magic beasts and clear dungeons.

The need to improve yourself. Your constant urge to learn and develop your skills. Your desire to make money. The dream of having a better life. It’s the same as the hunters of Solo leveling.

With the same analogy too, you are a Hunter.

  1. Become a “Player”

Health, love, and your mission, in that order. Nothing else matters. – Naval Ravikant

The System was a magical program that chose Sung Jinwoo as its Player after his first trip to the Double Dungeon.

This Player Mode allowed him to learn more about himself and the world he was dealing with. It granted Sung Jinwoo access to instant dungeons to practice and level up his fighting skills. He learned how to store weapons and keep an unlimited inventory.

This is the same for you.

Learn the rules of the craft you are currently working on. Discuss with friends and family with good values.  This is what it means to become a player.

Evolution of Sung Jinwoo - Solo Leveling

Evolution of Sung Jinwoo – Solo Leveling

  1. Start Small

The important thing is to do something every day. It doesn’t matter what it is. – Naval Ravikant

By starting small, Sung Jinwoo grew up from an infamously weak hunter to humanity’s greatest hunter.

The System gave him lower ranked beasts to improve his strength and fighting skills and he got stronger facing more difficult enemies as time went on.

This is how Sung Jinwoo kept leveling up ceaselessly.

If you set your bar at amazing, it is awfully difficult to start – Seth Godin.

Give up worrying about the ideal approach or the ideal beginning. This keeps you from leveling up and putting in the necessary work. Rather, begin small, optimize, and mature over time.

Just start today.

  1. Fight Daily

There is actually nothing but this moment. No one has ever gone back in time, and no one has ever been able to successfully predict the future in any way that matters. Literally, the only thing that exists is this exact point where you are in space at the exact time you happen to be here. – Naval Ravikant

There is a reason that Sung Jinwoo was able to continually amass strength, eventually growing into the fearsome warrior that he is today in Solo Leveling

Even before he became the Player of the System, Sung Jinwoo spent four years going on dungeon raids to financially support both his sister and his mother. Sung Jinwoo continued to fight daily even though he nearly died on almost every raid he ever went on.

Intensity makes a good story. Consistency makes progress. – James Clear.

This is where Consistency comes in.

Consistency helps you get better at things. When you consistently work towards your goal, you are more likely to succeed. Taking small steps every day leads you towards something big.

Fighting and showing up daily leads to your Solo leveling.

  1. Face Your “Mini Bosses”

For every quantum leap in his skill set, Sung Jinwoo had to defeat difficult beasts who appeared as commanders, kings or monarchs.

In solo leveling, they called them “Dungeon Bosses”. Video games call them ‘mini bosses’, or ‘checkpoints.’ In business, we call them Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) and In real life, we call them life goals or big desire.

Credit: A1 Pictures

Credit: A1 Pictures

If you don’t face your “Mini Bosses”, you get stuck in certain levels for a long time.

For instance, if you look back at any dramatic change you have had in times past, you will realize that you have faced your share of mini bosses. Whether it was passing an exam, a career change, getting a business grant, change of location or surpassing a sales target. You defeated this mini boss on your own or with the help of others.

Just learn to recognize these specific obstacles and understand that overcoming them leads you to your next level.

  1. Have an inventory.

As the story of Solo Leveling goes on, Jinwoo was able to store an unlimited number of items in his shadow.

With this ability, he could now extract any number of those items for his own use at any point in time. Sung Jinwoo stored potions and weapons in his inventory enabling him to always be battle ready.

Do you have your inventory?

To-do lists, Goals checklists, YouTube Playlists, favorite Books, Journals, mobile apps – these are among the things you have in your inventory as you continue to level up in any aspect of your life. The Internet and your devices have even made it easier to store and retrieve any of these items.

Have a list of your favorite power-items you can always use at any point in time.

  1. Create or Join a Guild.

Much of finding great relationships, great coworkers, great lovers, wives, husbands, is finding other people where your values line up. If your values line up, the little things don’t matter. – Naval Ravikant

In Solo Leveling, Guilds are structured collectives of hunters dedicated to raiding dungeons and defeating the magical beasts.

High-level hunters were actively sought after by the premier guilds, which also offer sizeable bonuses based on rank. Being a member of one of these exclusive guilds guarantees high pay along with increased security because of the careful and calculated planning that goes into each raid.

Guilds in Solo Leveling

Guilds in Solo Leveling

These principles of the Guild system are evident in this world as well.

Powerful people will always attract other powerful people. For instance, we have the Paypal Mafia, a group of former PayPal employees and founders who have since founded and/or developed additional technology companies based in Silicon Valley such as Tesla, Inc., LinkedIn, Palantir Technologies, YouTube, and Yelp. Locally, we have the Paystack Mafia, a group of former Paystack employers who have raised millions of dollars in funding or established thriving startups such as Grey, Chowdeck, Mono and GoLemon.

It is like how the proverb says – If you want to go fast, go alone, if you want to go far, go together.

To achieve more success and support from one another, form relationships and work together. Surround yourself with people who share your values and can support you on your journey.

SUMMARY.

To live a Solo leveling life, you must:

  • Recognize that You are a “Hunter”: Understand that you are on a journey to improve yourself.
  • Become a “Player”: Understand the rules of your field, prioritize your health, relationships, and goals.
  • Start Small: Begin with daily actions, no matter how small, to progress towards your goals.
  • Fight Daily: Embrace the present moment and take consistent actions towards your objectives.
  • Face Your “Mini Bosses”: Identify and overcome challenges that act as stepping stones to your goals.
  • Have an inventory: Keep track of your resources that help you stay organized and prepared for any situation.
  • Create or join a Guild: Build relationships and collaborate with others to achieve greater success and mutual support.

By following these seven principles, you can adopt a Solo Leveling mindset and lifestyle that focus on overcoming obstacles, building strong relationships, and improving yourself continuously to succeed over the long run.

Become your own Sung Jin-woo.