Category: Personal development (page 1 of 26)

A collection of blog posts about personal development. Here, Zamai Banje writes and discusses personal development and how it affects young individuals.

Find Your Way: The Right Path for Lifelong Skill Building

Have you ever felt lost in a world that only cares about quick results?

You spend hours on social media, jumping from one trend to the next. You chase certificates and promotions, hoping they will bring you peace. But deep down, you feel empty.

This is the silent crisis of today’s society.

We focus on the finish line and forget the path.

This is the modern trap.

We learn skills to get a job, not to grow our spirit. This robs us of true joy and purpose. But there is an ancient answer.

It is called Dō, or “The Way.”

This philosophy transforms simple skills into a path to your highest self. Imagine finding deep peace in your daily work. Picture growing wiser with every task, big or small.

This is the power of Dō.

The Modern Trap: How Short-Term Thinking Holds You Back

Today’s world is obsessed with speed.

We want fast food, quick fixes, and instant results.

This mindset has poisoned how we learn. We see skill-building as a race. The goal is to collect certificates, get a promotion, or beat the competition.

We learn just enough to get the job done.

Once we have the title or the paycheck, we stop growing and this is a huge problem. It turns learning into a chore, not a joy. It makes us see our work as separate from our life.

This split harms us.

Professionally, we become outdated. Technology and industries change fast. If you only learn for your next review, you will fall behind. You become replaceable.

Personally, the damage is worse.

You feel a quiet frustration. Your work feels meaningless. You might succeed on paper but feel empty inside.

This happens because we chase techniques (Jutsu) instead of The Way (Dō).

Jutsu is about learning how to win a fight or complete a task. is about learning how to live through that task. We have forgotten the second part.

We have lost “The Way.”

What is Dō? It’s More Than a Road

Dō (道) means “The Way” in Japanese.

It comes from ancient Chinese philosophy (the Tao) and later became central to Japanese culture. It suggests that any skill (whether it is drinking tea, writing code, or fighting) can be a way to reach enlightenment.

They become paths of character. The real goal is to refine your spirit. The action becomes a meditation.

The Way Becomes Everything

There’s an old Japanese story about a young swordsman who asked his master:

“How long will it take me to become the best?”

The master replied, “Ten years.”

The student said, “What if I train twice as hard?”

The master answered, “Twenty years.”

Confused, the student asked why.

The master said, “Because when your eyes are on the destination, you stop walking the path.”

That is Dō.

When the goal becomes everything, growth slows down. When the path becomes everything, mastery follows naturally.

Why Your Life Needs “The Way” Right Now

You might think this is just for ancient artists or martial artists. It is not.

Dō is urgently relevant for your modern life. Why? Because it fights the three great poisons of our time: distraction, burnout, and meaninglessness. When you adopt a Dō mindset, you stop rushing.

With the Dō mindset, coding extends beyond landing a tech job.

It becomes your way of learning logical thinking. To build patience. To create things that help people.

With the Dō mindset, public speaking becomes more than presentations.

It’s your Way to overcome fear. To find your voice. To inspire others.

With the Dō mindset, writing extends beyond newsletters.

It’s your Way to clarify your thoughts. To connect with strangers. To leave something behind.

You find value in the process itself.

Making your morning coffee can become a ritual of care. Writing an email can be an exercise in clear thinking. Cleaning your space can be a practice in creating order and peace.

This changes everything.

Your Path Begins Here: 4 Steps to Practice Dō

Ready to start? You don’t need special tools or a teacher.

You can begin with what you already do. Follow these four steps.

Step 1: Choose Your Way (Find Your “Dō”)

Your Dō does not have to be grand.

Look at your life. What is one small activity you do regularly? It could be cooking, writing code, gardening, organising data, or even listening to your team.

Choose one. This will be your practice ground.

Step 2: Master the Form (Embrace “Kata”)

Every Dō begins with kata.

These are structured practice patterns. Don’t just do your activity. Learn its proper form.

If your Dō is writing, learn the basics of clear structure and grammar. If it’s cooking, learn the fundamental techniques.

Respect the fundamentals. Practice them deliberately, every time.

Step 3: Integrate the Spirit (Beyond Technique)

Now, add the intention.

As you practice the form, ask: What quality can I cultivate here?

If your Dō is listening, cultivate respect. If your Dō is solving problems, cultivate calm focus. The action is your tool to build your character.

Step 4: Make It a Ritual (Consistency is Key)

A Dō is a path you walk every day.

Commit to your practice daily or weekly.

It’s not about long hours. It’s about consistent, mindful effort. The ritual itself (the returning to the practice) is what transforms you.

Walkers of The Way: Real-Life Examples

Many highly successful people live by this philosophy, even if they don’t call it Dō.

Jigoro Kano (Founder of Judo):

Jigoro created Jūdō, the “Gentle Way.”

He transformed fighting techniques (jūjutsu) into a path (dō) for physical and moral education. His goal was “mutual welfare and benefit.”

Jigoro saw practice as a way to perfect the self and contribute to society.

Favour Okolie (Nigerian Entrepreneur & VP):

Favour started a nonprofit to help Nigerian entrepreneurs.

She quickly realised passion wasn’t enough. Favo needed deeper knowledge to truly help others. She said, “If I really want to help others, I need to empower myself“.

Favour Okolie saw her business skill-building not as a career move, but as a necessary path (dō) to fulfil her larger purpose of inspiring and empowering her community.

Bruce Lee (Martial Artist turned Hollywood Superstar):

Bruce Lee blended martial arts into Jeet Kune Do,  a study of movement, philosophy, and self-expression.

He trained obsessively. “Be water” was his tagline — pure Dō flow.

Hollywood stardom was his byproduct.

Neil Gaiman (Legendary Writer & Storyteller):

Neil loved stories long before he became famous.

He didn’t chase trends or quick success. He focused on learning how to tell better stories. One book at a time.

He saw writing not just as a job, but as a lifelong path () of craft, curiosity, and becoming the kind of person who could give stories meaning.

The Ultimate Reason Why Dō Sparks Your Highest Self

So, why does the philosophy of Dō start the journey to your highest self?

Here is the big reason: It makes the journey the destination. When you walk a Dō, you stop asking, “Am I there yet?” You start realizing, “This is it.”

Your highest self is created during the thousands of hours you spend finding “Your Way.”

Every mindful step, every day of practice, is you becoming your best self.  There is no final certificate. There is only the endless, rewarding path of growth.

You are not a fixed person waiting at a finish line.

You are a living process. Dō aligns your daily actions with that beautiful, never-ending process of becoming. It turns your entire life into a meaningful journey.

Start small.

Dō offers a way to walk forever. Walk it with care. You’ve got this.

Your Way is waiting.

Find Your Way with Dō

Find Your Way with Dō

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self Newsletter: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

Ikigai: The Ancient Japanese Secret for Modern Skill Mastery

Imagine waking up every morning feeling excited, rather than dreading the day.

This is the opposite of dragging yourself out of bed, scrolling through your phone for twenty minutes and watching other people live their best lives.

Or there might be times where you went to work, came home exhausted, binged Netflix, and then wonder why life feels so… empty.

There is a better way to live.

It’s called Ikigai. It is a Japanese secret to a long, happy life. Ikigai means your “reason for being.”

When you find your Ikigai, you don’t just work; you come alive. You build skills that actually matter to you and the world.

Let’s dive in and see how it changes everything.

The Danger of Being “Skill-Less”

Many people feel stuck in “zombie jobs and businesses.”

You show up. You do the work. You go home. Repeat.

Nothing changes. Nothing grows. You’re not learning anything new.

This “skill stagnation” quietly destroys your confidence. When you stop growing, you start wondering if you even matter anymore.

Here’s what happens next: you panic. You try to learn everything at once. Spanish, coding, marketing, fitness. All at the same time. Then you burn out in two weeks.

The problem isn’t effort. It’s direction.

To become your highest self, you need a compass. You need a reason to get better every single day.

That is where Ikigai comes in.

What Exactly is Ikigai?

Ikigai (pronounced ee-key-guy) is a Japanese concept.

It combines “Iki” (life) and “Gai” (value or worth). Ikigai is the sweet spot where four things meet:

  1. What you love
  2. What you are good at
  3. What the world needs
  4. What you can be paid for.

But Ikigai isn’t a diagram. It’s a way of living.

Ikigai is more than just a diagram

Ikigai is more than just a diagram

There’s a famous story about a chef that captures the Ikigai philosophy.

Jiro Ono is a 98-year-old sushi chef in Tokyo. He’s been making sushi for over 75 years. His restaurant has only ten seats and serves a simple menu, yet it earned three Michelin stars (this is the highest distinction a restaurant can achieve)

Here’s the amazing part: Jiro still goes to work every single day.

At 98 years old, he’s not retired on a beach somewhere. He’s in his restaurant, perfecting his craft. When asked why, Jiro said he still hasn’t made the perfect piece of sushi.

Every morning, Jiro wakes up excited to try again.

That’s Ikigai in action. Jiro found work he loves, became excellent at it, serves others through it, and earns a living from it.

Think of Ikigai as the real reason you get out of bed in the morning.  It understands the importance of money while capturing the overall feeling of being useful and satisfied.

The Ikigai Skill Loop: Why Meaning Accelerates Mastery

You might be thinking, “That’s nice for an old Japanese sushi chef, but what about me?”

Here’s why Ikigai is crucial for your everyday life.

First, the world is more distracted than ever.

Social media, streaming services, and endless entertainment make it easy to waste years without developing real skills.

Ikigai gives you a reason to turn off Netflix and actually build something.

Second, careers aren’t stable anymore.

The days of working one job for 40 years are gone. You need skills that matter, and those skills need to connect to something deeper than just a paycheck.

Ikigai stops you from quitting when things get hard.

Third, mental health is declining worldwide.

Depression and anxiety are at all-time highs. But when you wake up knowing your skills serve something bigger than yourself, life has meaning again.

Ikigai creates a loop for deeper skill mastery

Ikigai creates a loop for deeper skill mastery

Ikigai isn’t just about finding a job. It’s about building a life where your daily actions align with who you want to become.

In the modern world, you can learn almost any skill for free online.

YouTube, courses, books. It’s all there. The problem isn’t access to information but motivation.

Ikigai solves this. When you connect skill development to your purpose, learning becomes exciting instead of exhausting.

Four Steps to Find and Practice Your Ikigai

Ready to discover your reason to wake up? Here’s how to start.

Step 1: Discover What You Love

Make a list of activities that make you lose track of time.

What do you do when nobody’s paying you? What did you love as a child before the world told you to be “practical”?

Don’t overthink this.

Write down everything, even if it seems silly. Drawing. Teaching. Cooking. Solving puzzles. Helping people. Writing stories.

Spend a week paying attention to when you feel most alive. Those moments are clues.

Step 2: Identify What You’re Good At (Or Could Be)

The next step requires honest feedback and self-observation.

What skills do people compliment you on? What comes more easily to you than to others?

Here’s the key: you don’t have to be great yet.

Ask friends and family what they think you’re good at. Sometimes others see our gifts before we do.

Step 3: Find What the World Needs

Ikigai deepens when your skill helps someone else.

What problems do you see? What makes you angry or sad about the world?

Maybe you see kids struggling in school. Maybe you see small businesses failing. Maybe you see people’s health declining.

The world needs solutions to these problems.

Your Ikigai might be in serving one of these needs. This step is crucial because it takes your skills from “hobby” to “purpose.”

When what you’re good at involves helping others, everything changes.

Step 4: Find Ways to Get Paid

Now for the practical part.

How can your skills pay the bills? This doesn’t mean selling out. It means finding people who will exchange money for the value you create.

If you love writing and you’re good at explaining complex topics, maybe businesses will pay you to create their content. If you love fitness and you’re good at motivating people, maybe clients will pay you to train them.

Start small.

You don’t need to quit your job tomorrow. Begin by offering your skills part-time. Build proof. Get testimonials. Then grow from there.

Real-Life Heroes Who Found Their Ikigai

Let’s look at people who became successful by following their Ikigai, even if they didn’t call it that.

Stephen Curry loves basketball.

He got exceptional at shooting despite being told he was too small. The world needed inspiration and entertainment. He revolutionised how basketball is played and became one of the greatest players ever.

His Ikigai made him legendary.

Marie Kondo loves organising and creating peaceful spaces.

She got incredibly good at decluttering. The world needed help managing the stress of modern life and too much stuff. She built a global business teaching people to “spark joy.”

Her Ikigai made her famous worldwide.

Hayao Miyazaki loves telling stories through animation.

He spent decades mastering the craft of drawing, pacing, and visual emotion. The world needed stories that felt human, gentle, and deeply meaningful. He created films that reminded people how to feel wonder again.

His Ikigai keeps him creating, even into old age.

Tony Elumelu loves Africa and its untapped potential.

He became highly skilled at investing and building businesses. The world needed strong, profitable African enterprises that could create jobs and wealth. He built Heirs Holdings and helped grow UBA into a pan-African institution.

His Ikigai is fuelling African capitalism.

Do you notice the pattern now?

None of these people stumbled into success.

They all found the intersection of their passion, talent, the world’s needs, and economic value. Then they worked relentlessly to develop their skills within that sweet spot.

Your Journey Starts When You Have a Reason

Here’s the bottom line that changes everything.

Most people fail at self-improvement because they’re trying to become someone they’re not.

They chase money without passion. They follow their passion without developing real skills. They develop skills the world doesn’t need. They help others but can’t pay rent.

Ikigai brings it all together.

When you find your Ikigai, skill development stops being boring. It becomes your purpose.

You don’t need discipline to practice because you’re excited to practice. You don’t need motivation because you have meaning.

You have something inside you right now.

A skill waiting to be developed. It can be a problem you’re meant to solve. Or a reason to wake up excited tomorrow.

The modern world offers unlimited distractions and excuses to stay comfortable.

But comfort isn’t the goal. Purpose is the goal. Growth is the goal.

Becoming who you were meant to be is the goal.

Your Ikigai is waiting. The only question is: will you start looking for it today? Or will you hit snooze again tomorrow?

Find your Ikigai.

Develop those skills. Watch your entire life transform. Your reason to wake up is out there.

It’s time to find it.

Ikigai is a Japanese concept that accelerates skill mastery

Ikigai is a Japanese concept that accelerates skill mastery

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self Newsletter: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

Why You Must Become Stronger

The world is changing fast.

And many people feel stuck today because they have stopped growing. They wait for luck to find them. They hope things will get easier.

However, the truth is that the world doesn’t get easier; you just have to get better.

There is a Japanese phrase that captures this feeling perfectly: Tsuyoku Naritai.

It means, “I want to become stronger.”  This is about gaining strength for your body, your mind, your skills, and your soul.

Becoming stronger is the fuel you need to reach your highest self.

The Danger of Staying the Same

In the modern world, not learning new skills is a recipe for disaster.

Everything around us is moving at lightning speed. Technology evolves. Jobs disappear.

The skills that worked yesterday won’t work tomorrow.

If you don’t grow, your personal life feels empty. You feel like you have no control over your future. This leads to sadness and a lack of confidence.

Professionally, it’s even riskier. Jobs that existed five years ago are disappearing. New technology is taking over.

People have stopped getting stronger

People have stopped getting stronger

If you aren’t “getting stronger” by learning, you become replaceable. You lose the power to choose your path.

You end up taking whatever is left over.

What is Tsuyoku Naritai?

Tsuyoku Naritai (強くなりたい) is a deep, honest cry from the heart.

It is the moment you look in the mirror and decide you are not enough yet. It is often found in Japanese stories (including manga and anime), but it is a very real philosophy for life.

Tsuyoku Naritai is the spark that turns a victim into a hero.

Let me share a story that illustrates this perfectly.

There was once a young martial artist named Kenji who trained under a master swordsman.

Every day, Kenji practised the same basic techniques. Thousands of strikes, blocks, and movements.

One day, frustrated, Kenji asked his master: “When will I learn the advanced techniques? When will I be strong enough?”

The master smiled. “You misunderstand strength. Strength isn’t reaching a destination. Strength is the journey itself.

Each day you choose to train, you embody Tsuyoku Naritai.

The question isn’t ‘when will I be strong?’ The question is ‘am I becoming stronger today than I was yesterday?'”

That moment changed Kenji forever.

He stopped worrying about the endpoint and started focusing on daily growth.

Years later, he became a master himself. Not because he reached some final level, but because he never stopped wanting to become stronger.

Why “Getting Stronger” Matters in Everyday Life

You might think, “I’m not a warrior, why do I need to be stronger?”

You must know that life is full of invisible battles. Strength helps you handle stress at work. It helps you stay calm when things go wrong at home.

In the modern world, “strength” means skill.

AI is changing how we work. New industries appear overnight. Old ones vanish just as quickly.

In this chaos, one thing separates winners from losers: the hunger to keep growing.

The single word, yet, changes everything about becoming stronger in the modern world

The single word, yet, changes everything about becoming stronger in the modern world

When you commit to being stronger, you stop complaining. You start looking for solutions. You become the person everyone looks to when things get hard.

5 Steps to Adopt the Tsuyoku Naritai Philosophy

Becoming stronger doesn’t happen by accident.

You need a plan. Here are five simple steps to start your journey today.

1. Admit Where You Are Weak

You cannot fix a hole in a boat if you pretend it isn’t there.

Be honest about what you are bad at. Write it down and make it real. Then decide: “Today, I’ll get 1% stronger in this area.”

This is the first step to growth.

2. Find Your “Why”

Why do you want to be better?

Is it for your family? Your bank account? Your pride?

A strong “Why” keeps you going when you want to quit.

3. Practice the “Small Wins”

Don’t try to change everything at once.

Instead, embrace tiny improvements. Pick one skill and work on it for 15 minutes a day.  Small drops of water eventually fill a bucket.

Stack these micro-improvements for months, and you’ll look back amazed at how far you’ve travelled.

4. Seek Out Challenges

Comfort is the enemy of strength.

Stop taking the easy way out. Choose the harder task. Talk to the person who intimidates you.

Strength grows through resistance.

5. Never Say “I’m Done”

The journey of Tsuyoku Naritai has no finish line.

Even when you become great, look for the next level.

A true master is a lifelong student.

Real Examples of Tsuyoku Naritai in Action

Many of the most successful people in history lived by this code. They weren’t born “strong”; they built themselves.

Miyamoto Musashi: He was a legendary Japanese swordsman.

He spent his whole life travelling and learning.

Musashi never thought he was “strong enough,” so he kept refining his mind and art until his final breath.

Arnold Schwarzenegger: He started as a skinny boy in a small village.

He decided he wanted to be the strongest man in the world.

Schwarzenegger used that drive to conquer bodybuilding, acting, and politics.

Aliko Dangote: Nigeria’s most successful businessman didn’t get there by luck.

He focused on building “strength” in trade and industry.

Dangote constantly expanded his skills and his business reach, never settling for “good enough.”

Michael Jordan: He was cut from his high school basketball team.

Instead of quitting, he used that pain to fuel his desire to be stronger.

Jordan practised harder than anyone else until he became the best to ever play.

The Journey to Your Highest Self

The biggest reason to start this journey is simple: it gives your life meaning.

When you strive to be stronger, you discover who you really are. You find out that you are capable of much more than you thought. You shed your old, limited self and step into a new, more confident version of yourself.

Tsuyoku Naritai is the key that unlocks your potential.

It turns a “normal” life into an adventure. It is the beginning of everything great. By deciding to become stronger, you are taking the first step toward becoming your highest self.

Don’t wait for tomorrow. Start getting stronger right now.

Tsuyoku-Naritai is a timeless concept to get stronger in the modern world

Tsuyoku-Naritai is a timeless concept to get stronger in the modern world

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self Newsletter: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.