Category: Personal development (page 1 of 22)

A collection of blog posts about personal development. Here, Zamai Banje writes and discusses personal development and how it affects young individuals.

Environment is Destiny

The skills and abilities that you possess won’t be useful if you’re not in the right environment.

You can be the most disciplined, talented, well-intentioned person in the world. But if your surroundings don’t support your goals, you’ll always be swimming against the current.

Think about it:

  • You sit down to work, but your workspace is cluttered. Your brain, too, becomes cluttered.
  • You want to grow wealth, but everyone around you spends faster than they earn. You’ll eventually start doing the same.

We like to believe that “willpower” can overcome all this. But willpower is a weak soldier in a toxic environment.

The truth is that your surroundings shape your choices long before your mind gets a say.

Why Your Environment Matters More Than You Think

Your environment isn’t just background noise.

It’s the director of your life’s movie. Your environment shapes habits, opportunities, and even your mindset without you noticing.

There are four major reasons the environment matters more than most people admit:

  1. Money
  2. Opportunity
  3. Family
  4. Standard of living.

1. Environment Creates or Limits Money

Money doesn’t flow evenly; it follows opportunity.

A talented young designer in Lagos might earn ₦200,000 monthly, but the same person in London could earn £3,000 doing the same work.

Same person. Same skills.  Different environment. Different destiny.

The currency you earn in, the industries available to you, and the market rates for your skills are all environmental factors.

Environment is Destiny

Environment is Destiny

That’s why people migrate, relocate, or switch industries. They’re not always running away from home. They’re running toward abundance.

2. Environment Determines Opportunity

Opportunities aren’t equally distributed.

They cluster in specific environments. Every environment has a “room” and a “ceiling” for opportunities.

For instance, if you want to work in tech, Silicon Valley, Austin, Berlin, or Lagos (with its growing tech scene) offer exponentially more opportunities than a small town.

If you’re a footballer, playing in Europe beats playing in the Nigerian league for visibility and development.

Your environment determines who you meet, what doors open, and what possibilities you can even see.

You can’t take an opportunity you don’t know exists. You can’t network with people you never encounter.

If you’re surrounded by people who are satisfied with mediocrity, you’ll unconsciously settle too. But if everyone around you is striving for more, you’ll be pulled upward by default.

3. Environment Shapes Family and Relationships

Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.

This old saying is true because your environment includes the people in it.

Ever noticed how kids raised in high-trust environments grow up more confident? Or how families in chaotic neighbourhoods tend to stay in survival mode?

Environment is Destiny

Environment is Destiny

The people in your environment set your reference point for what’s possible. They either expand your vision or limit it.

Change your environment, and you often change your family’s destiny too.

4. Environment Defines Your Standard of Living

Even if you earn well, living in a city with bad roads, poor power, or unsafe neighbourhoods can drag your quality of life down.

Your mental peace is also part of your wealth.

So when you see people moving abroad for “a better life,” it’s not just about the money.  It’s about the right environment for peace, growth, and potential.

A better environment means less friction in every aspect of life. It means spending less energy on survival and more energy on growth.

These are the 4 major reasons on why your environment matters so much. Before we talk about changing environments, let’s define what we mean by destiny.

What Exactly Is Destiny?

Let’s clear something up. Destiny isn’t fate.

Fate is what happens to you.  Destiny is what you’re capable of becoming.

Destiny is not pre-written in the stars; it’s written in your choices, which in turn are shaped by your environment.

It’s the full realisation of your potential. Destiny is becoming the best version of yourself and achieving the goals that matter to you.

Destiny is your highest self expressed under the right conditions.

Think of it like a seed. Even the best seed won’t grow if planted in dry, infertile soil. But place it in rich, nurturing ground, and it blossoms effortlessly.

Your environment is that soil. That’s why people say, “That guy changed when he moved.”  Of course he did. The new environment permitted him to become who he always was inside.

The Invisible Link Between Destiny and Environment

Here’s something worth remembering: You don’t rise to your goals, you fall to your environment.

  • If you want to be disciplined, make discipline easy.
  • If you want to build wealth, make wealth visible and accessible.
  • If you want to stay consistent, make inconsistency inconvenient.

Your destiny doesn’t emerge from motivation; it emerges from design. And the smartest people design their environments to make the right actions automatic.

That’s how James Clear put it in Atomic Habits: “You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.”

These systems live in your environment.

How to Rearrange Your Environment to Rewrite Your Future

The beauty of this truth is that you can design your own environment.

You don’t always need to move countries or quit your job immediately. Sometimes it starts with micro-shifts that compound.

Let’s break it down.

The Power of Micro-Changes: Redesigning Your Immediate Space

Small tweaks can change your behaviour dramatically.

  1. Rearrange Your Home

If your home looks like chaos, your mind will too.

Make your environment work for you, not against you.

  • Keep your reading chair near a window (natural light boosts focus).
  • Keep your phone away from your bed.
  • Place your journal on your pillow so you see it every night.
  • Stock your fridge with the food that supports your energy, not drains it.

The goal is simple: Make good behaviours obvious and easy. Make bad behaviours invisible and difficult.

  1. Rebuild Your Workstation

Your workspace directly impacts your productivity.

The design of your workspace decides how often you get into flow. Have everything you need within reach. Keep visual distractions out of sight.

Even a simple habit like clearing your desk before bed can make mornings feel purposeful.

Your desk should whisper: “Let’s work.” Not scream: “Run away.”

  1. Recreate Your Friend Circle

Your environment includes people, too.

Here’s the truth: You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If those five people are complainers, you’ll complain. When they’re dreamers, you’ll dream. If they’re builders, you’ll build.

To recreate your friend circle, you don’t need to cut people off cruelly.

Just spend more time with people moving in your direction. Join communities aligned with your goals. Attend events where your future self would hang out.

Gradually, your circle will shift. And as it shifts, so will your behaviour and your results.

Macro-Changes: Relocate When Necessary

Sometimes micro-changes aren’t enough.

You can’t stay in a desert and complain that nothing’s growing. If your environment is fundamentally limiting your destiny, you may need to take a bigger leap.

  1. Change Your Workplace

Your workplace environment has a massive impact on your career trajectory.

Your workplace is where you spend most of your waking hours. Make sure it’s pushing you forward, not holding you back.

If your office culture stifles creativity or rewards mediocrity, you’ll shrink to fit in. Find a workplace that stretches you instead.

A good environment doesn’t just pay better; it makes you better.

  1. Change Your City

Cities have personalities and specialisations.

Certain cities are built around certain values. Some value connection, others innovation, others just survival. If your goals don’t align with your city’s strengths, you’re fighting a lost battle.

Yes, moving to a new city is scary and expensive. But staying in the wrong city is costlier in the long run.

Every year you spend in an environment that doesn’t support your goals is a year you can’t get back.

  1. Change Your Country (If You Can)

This is the boldest move. And for many, the most impactful.

When Nigerians talk about japa, it’s often painted as desperation. But it’s really environmental evolution.

They’re not escaping home; they’re simply seeking a soil where their potential can bloom fully.

Migration, at its core, is a bet on your environment.

Real-Life Wins: Success Stories from Environment Shifts

The list is long, but let’s highlight a few who prove this truth daily.

Harry Kane: Tottenham’s star striker, trophy-less for years. He made a move to Bayern Munich in 2023.

Immediate silverware won: Bundesliga titles, Champions League runs. Bayern’s elite setup unlocked his destiny.

Lionel Messi: Argentina’s prodigy, limited by local infrastructure. 2000 move to Barcelona at 13? Access to elite coaches, medical care, and world-class facilities.

Spain’s system nurtured his gift, transforming potential into greatness. Same talent. Different soil.

Vincent Kompany: As Burnley’s manager, he faced relegation woes. Kompany then had a career jump to Bayern in 2024.

Now, his tactical brilliance shines, leading to top-table contention. Environment elevated Kompany’s coaching legacy.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: Began writing in Nigeria but truly found her global voice after moving to the U.S. for university.

Exposure to different perspectives deepened Chimamanda’s storytelling and widened her reach. Her environment expanded her stage, but her talent was already there.

The Japa Success Stories: Every year, thousands of Nigerians relocate abroad and transform their lives. The stories are everywhere:

The nurse earning ₦80,000 in Nigeria who now earns £2,500 monthly in the UK (a 35x increase in real terms.) The software developer who went from an unstable power supply and ₦300,000 salary to reliable infrastructure and $8,000 monthly in Canada.

These aren’t exceptions. They’re the rule. When talented, hardworking people move from limiting environments to enabling ones, they thrive.

The Silent Enemy is Environmental Stagnation

Staying in a dead environment is like keeping a plant in a pot that’s too small.

You can water it all you want. It won’t grow anymore. The danger of stagnation is comfort.

We convince ourselves that “it’s not that bad.” But every year spent in the wrong environment chips away at your potential.

If you feel stuck, drained, or uninspired, don’t just blame yourself.
Ask: What is my environment training me to become?

How to Know When It’s Time to Move

Here are signs your environment is no longer serving your destiny:

  • You’re working hard but not growing.
  • You feel invisible or underused.
  • You can’t find people who challenge or inspire you.
  • You spend more time surviving than creating.
  • You daydream about leaving more than you actually live.

When those signs stack up, that’s not a phase. It’s a message. Your destiny is whispering, “It’s time.”

How to Design an Environment That Elevates You

If moving physically isn’t possible yet, start mentally. Here’s how:

  1. Curate your digital world: Follow accounts that inspire growth. Mute negativity. Turn your timeline into a classroom, not a circus.
  2. Build a virtual tribe: Join communities that share your goals. You don’t need proximity anymore. Just a connection.
  3. Design your routines: Wake up to inspiration, not noise. Start your day in silence, end it with reflection.
  4. Invest in access: Sometimes, the key to a better environment is paying for entry. Attend courses, conferences, and mentorships. These are shortcuts to rooms that shift your mindset.
  5. Let go of guilt: Changing your environment doesn’t mean betraying your roots. It means watering them properly.
How to Design an Environment that Elevates You

How to Design an Environment that Elevates You

The Final Truth

You can’t fulfil your destiny in soil that rejects your roots.

Sometimes, destiny isn’t about discovering who you are; it’s about finding where you belong. Your skills. Your discipline. And your faith. They all need the right climate to thrive.

So, if life feels harder than it should be, look around before you look within.

Your next breakthrough might not be in more effort; it might be in a new environment. You owe it to yourself to plant your life where it can truly grow.

Environment is destiny. Choose yours carefully.

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Good Judgment: Mastering The True Value of Clear Thinking

Good judgment is your ability to make effective decisions by weighing information, considering consequences, and choosing wisely in uncertain or complex situations.

Effective decision-making comes down to two things:

  1. Knowing how to get what you want
  2. Knowing what’s worth wanting

The first point is about making sound decisions. The second is about making good ones.  You might think they’re the same, but they are not.

In life, you experience regret over both things you’ve done and things you’ve failed to do.

But the worst regret is when you fail to live a life true to ourselves. It’s when you fail to play by your own scoreboard.

Each autopilot plays a role in setting us up for regret.

  1. The social autopilot prompts you to inherit goals from other people, even if their life circumstances are very different from yours.
  2. The comfort autopilot encourages you to continue pursuing the goals you’ve pursued in the past, even after you’ve come to realize that achieving them doesn’t make you happy.
  3. The emotional autopilot sends you this way and that, chasing whatever captures your fancy in the moment, even at the expense of pursuing long-term goals that matter more.
  4. And the ego autopilot convinces you to pursue things like wealth, status, and power, even at the expense of happiness and well-being—your own and that of the people around you.
The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

If you give any of the autopilots command of your life, your ultimate destination is regret.

Don’t live life by another person’s scoreboard. Don’t let someone else choose your objectives in life. Take responsibility for where you are and where you are headed.

Good judgment doesn’t come from chasing success but from building character.

Choose Your Scoreboard for Life

A life lived according to someone else’s scoreboard is not a life worth living.

The quality of what you pursue determines the quality of your life.  You think things like money, status, and power will make you happy forever, but they won’t. The moment you get them, we’re not satisfied. You will want more.

This phenomenon is called “the hedonic treadmill”, and everyone has taken a run on it.

Social comparison happens all the time. Sometimes it’s about possessions like houses or cars, but more often it’s about status. You tell yourself that the next level is enough, but it never is.

The next zero in your bank account won’t satisfy you any more than you are satisfied now. The next promotion won’t change who you are. The fancy car won’t make you happier.

The bigger house doesn’t solve your problems. More social media followers won’t make you a better person.

Don’t be part of the “Happy-when” People

Running on the hedonic treadmill only turns you into what we call “happy-when” people.

This set of people thinks they’ll be happy when something happens. The way things are now is the way they expect them to be, and they start taking the good things around us for granted.

Once you join this group, nothing will make you happy.

Good Judgment comes from rejecting the Happy-When Philosophy

Good Judgment comes from rejecting the Happy-When Philosophy

Making effective decisions and escaping the hedonic treadmill requires all the things we’ve talked about these few weeks:

  • The ability to keep the autopilots in check (read full article here)
  • Create space for reason and reflection (read full article here)
  • Using the principles and safeguards that make effective decisions. (read full article here)

But applying good judgment requires more.

It’s more than knowing how to get what you want. It’s also knowing which things are worth wanting and which things really matter.

Good judgment is as much about saying no as saying yes.

You can’t simply copy the life decisions of others and expect better results. If you want to live the best life you can, you need a different approach.

Knowing what to want is the most important thing.

Deep down, you already know what to do, you just need to follow your own advice. Sometimes, it’s the advice we give other people that we most need to follow ourselves.

Key Lessons from a Study that Connects Happiness with Good Judgment

There is a famous study by Gerontologist Karl Pillemer.

Gerontologists scientifically study age, the process of ageing and the specific problems of old people.

Karl Pillemer had seen numerous studies showing that people in their seventies, eighties, and beyond were happier than younger people.

He eventually authored his Book – 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans and here are the most important lessons:

Lesson number one: Life is short!

When elders tell younger people that life is short, they’re not being pessimistic.

Instead, they’re trying to offer you a perspective that they hope will inspire better decisions. The older generation wants you to make choices that prioritise the things that really matter.

Time is the ultimate currency of life.

The implications of managing the short time you have on earth are like those of managing any scarce resource. You must use it wisely.

Manage time in a way that prioritises what’s most important.

Other Important Lessons from the Study by Pillemer

  • Say things now to people you care about; whether it’s expressing gratitude, asking forgiveness, or getting information.
  • Spend the maximum amount of time with your children.
  • Savour daily pleasures instead of waiting for “big-ticket items” to make you happy.
  • Work in a job you love.
  • Choose your mate carefully; don’t just rush in.

The list of things they said weren’t important was equally revealing:

  • None of them said that to be happy you should work as hard as you can to get money.
  • No one said it it mattered to be as rich as your neighbours or peers.
  • No one from the older generation said you should choose your career based on its earning potential.
  • None said they wished they had gotten revenge on someone who hurt them.

And the biggest regret people had?

Worrying about things that never happened.

If there were a way of viewing things from the perspective of our elders, we might have the insight to live better lives. We can see in the way the experts do what really matters and what doesn’t.

In fact, there’s an ancient technique for doing precisely this: start thinking about the shortness of life, and it will help you see what really matters.

The Memento Mori Technique

Shifting your perspective to the end of life can help you gain insight into what really matters.

It can help you become wiser. Memento mori is a Latin phrase meaning “remember you must die.” This phrase serves as a poignant reminder of mortality and the brevity of life.

When you imagine looking back on your life from the end, the worries and wants that seem so important right now fade away. What matters instead are the things that have real, lasting meaning.

Good Judgment comes from not wasting your life

Good Judgment comes from not wasting your life

This shift in your perspective allows you to turn your future hindsight into your current foresight. It gives you a map you can use to navigate into the future.

For many of us, looking at life this way reveals that our current direction isn’t fully aligned with where we want to end up. Seeing that is a good thing!

For instance, Jobs had a daily ritual. Every morning, he would look in the mirror and ask himself, “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”

Knowing you’re heading in the wrong direction is the first step toward getting back on course.

When you get clear on what really matters, you can start asking yourself, “Am I making the right use of my limited time?”

How to Unlock Life Lessons from Death

Evaluating your life through the lens of your death is raw, powerful and perhaps a bit scary.

What matters most becomes clear.

You become aware of the gap between who you are and who you want to be. You see where you are and where you want to go.  Without that clarity, you lack wisdom and waste the present on things that don’t matter.

When you know the destination, how to get there becomes clearer.

When you imagine your older self and what you want your life to look like in hindsight, you stop thinking about the small things that encourage you to be reactive instead of proactive.

You start to see what matters to you. The small things look small, and the things that really matter start to look big.

From this perspective, it’s easier to navigate toward the future you really want. You can see the gap between where you are and where you want to be and change course if necessary.

What seems like winning in the moment is often just a shallow victory.

It seems important at the time, but unimportant when you view it from the perspective of life.

When you’re not going in the direction in which you want to end up, you end up regretting where you end up. And avoiding regret is a key component to life satisfaction.

The True Value of Clear Thinking

Making sound decisions is time-consuming and expensive but making poor decisions will cost you a fortune.

The overarching message of reviewing Clear Thinking by Shane Parrish is that there are invisible instincts that conspire against good judgment.

Your autopilots encourage you to react without reasoning; to live unconsciously rather than deliberately.

When you revert to autopilots, you engage in a game you can’t win.

When you live a life run on autopilot, you get bad results. You make things worse. Sometimes, you say things that can’t be unsaid and do things that can’t be undone.

You might accomplish your immediate goal, but you fail to realise that you’ve made it harder to achieve your ultimate goals.

All of this happens without being consciously aware that you are making these decisions in the first place.

The key to getting what you want out of life

Identify how the world works and align yourself with it.

Often people think the world should work differently than it does, and when they don’t get the outcomes they want, they try to wiggle out of responsibility by blaming other people or their circumstances.

Avoiding responsibility is a recipe for misery, and the opposite of what it takes to make good judgment.

Improving your decision-making processes is less about accumulating tools to enhance your rationality and more about implementing safeguards that make the desired path the path of least resistance.

Making good judgment about designing systems when you’re at your best that work for you when you’re at your worst. Those systems don’t eliminate the autopilots, but they do help you recognize when they are running the show.

Managing your autopilots requires more than willpower.

Autopilots operate at our subconscious level, so overriding them requires harnessing equally powerful forces that pull your subconscious in the right direction: habits, rules, and environment.

Overriding your autopilots requires implementing safeguards that render the invisible visible and that prevent you from acting too soon.

And it requires cultivating habits of mind (accountability, knowledge, discipline, and confidence) that put you on the right track and keep you there.

The small improvements you make in your decision-making processes won’t be felt until they are too large to ignore.

Gradually, as the improvements accumulate, you will notice that less of your time is spent fixing problems that shouldn’t exist in the first place.

You’ll notice the various parts of your life blending harmoniously together, and you’ll notice that you experience less stress and anxiety and more joy.

Good judgment can’t be taught, but it can be learned.

This is the true value of clear thinking.

P.S.: This was the final part for my summary on the Book – Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Moments by Shane Parrish.

Incase you missed the previous parts, here are the links:

  1. Clear Thinking: How and Why Do People Make Bad Decisions?
  2. High Standards: Building Strength for Clear Thinking
  3. Safeguards: Turning Your Weaknesses and Mistakes into Strengths
  4. Better Decisions: The Hidden Framework Behind Clear Thinkers

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Better Decisions: The Hidden Framework Behind Clear Thinkers

Making better decisions is different from selecting choices.

If you casually select an option from a range of alternatives, you’ve made a choice.

If you react without thinking, you’ve made an unconscious choice.

However, neither of these is equivalent to a decision. A decision is a choice that involves conscious thought.

 

Making Better Decisions

Making Better Decisions

Your decision itself represents the outcome of your decision-making process.

That process is about weighing your options to select the best one, and it’s composed of four stages:

  1. Define the problem,
  2. Explore possible solutions,
  3. Evaluate the options, and
  4. Choose and execute the best option.

If you don’t apply this process, your choice doesn’t necessarily count as a decision.

Stage 1: Define the Problem

The first principle of decision-making is to define the problem clearly.

Defining the problem starts with identifying two things:

  1. What do you want to achieve?
  2. What obstacles stand in the way of getting it?

The best decision-makers know that the way you define a problem shapes everyone’s perspective about it and determines the solutions.

The most critical step in any decision-making process is to get the problem right. This part of the process offers invaluable insight.

You can’t solve what you don’t understand.

That’s why defining the problem is so valuable: it’s your chance to absorb all the relevant information needed for a solution.

Two Principles to Apply when Defining the Problem

The best decision-maker understands the real problem by talking to experts, seeking others’ opinions, hearing different perspectives, and sorting out what’s real from what’s not.

When you really understand a problem, the solution seems obvious.

These two principles follow the example of the best decision-makers:

  1. The Definition Principle: Take responsibility for defining the problem. Don’t let someone define it for you. Do the work to understand it. Don’t use jargon to describe or explain it.
  2. The Root Cause Principle: Identify the root cause of the problem. Don’t be content with simply treating its symptoms.

A handy tool for identifying the root cause of a problem is to ask yourself, “What would have to be true for this problem not to exist in the first place?

How to Safeguard the Problem-Defining Stage

There are two ways to safeguard this stage of the decision process against our defaults: create a firewall and use time to your advantage.

SAFEGUARD 1: Build a problem-solution firewall.

Separate the problem-defining phase of the decision-making process from the problem-solving phase.

Give yourself time to get clear on what the problem is before you jump into solving it. Often, you’ll discover that your first attempt to define the underlying issue is rarely the most accurate.

TIP: Remember that writing out the problem makes the invisible visible. Write down what you think the problem is and then look at it the next day.

If you find yourself using jargon in your description, it’s a sign that you don’t fully understand the problem. And if you don’t understand it, you shouldn’t be deciding about it.

SAFEGUARD 2: Use the test of time.

Test whether you’re addressing the root cause of a problem, rather than merely treating a symptom, by asking yourself whether it will stand the test of time.

Will this solution fix the problem permanently, or will the problem return in the future? If it seems like the latter, then chances are you’re only treating a symptom.

Short-term solutions might make sense in the moment, but they never win in the long term. You feel like you’re moving forward when you’re just going in circles.

Most times, people choose short-term solutions because fixing something quickly shows others they’re doing something. That’s the social autopilot at work.

It fools people into mistaking action for progress, the loudest voice for the right one, and confidence for competence.

Time eventually reveals short-term solutions to be Band-Aids that cover deeper problems. Don’t be fooled!

Put your Energy into Long-term Solutions

You can put your energy into short-term solutions or long-term solutions, but not both.

Any energy that’s channelled toward short-term solutions depletes energy that could be put into finding a long-term fix.

Yes, sometimes short-term solutions are necessary to create space for long-term solutions. But just make sure you’re not putting out flames in the present that will reignite in the future.

When the same problem returns repeatedly, people end up exhausted and discouraged because they never seem to make real progress.

Extinguish the fire today so it can’t burn you tomorrow.

Stage 2: Explore Possible Solutions

Once you’re clear on the problem, think of possible solutions.

Develop ways to overcome the obstacles and get what you want. Imagine different possible futures to come up with possible solutions. Find out different ways the world could turn out.

Admiral James Stockdale once said, “You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”

Problems Don’t Disappear by Themselves

We all face difficult problems.

The autopilots narrow our perspective. They narrow our view of the world and tempt us to see things as we wish them to be, not as they are.

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

You can secure the outcomes you want only by dealing with reality. This is the often-brutal truth of how the world really works.

The worst thing you can do with a difficult problem is resort to magical thinking—putting your head in the sand and hoping the problem will disappear on its own or that a solution will present itself to you.

The antidote is to leave nothing out of consideration.

The Bad Outcome Principle

Don’t just imagine the ideal future outcome.

Imagine the things that could go wrong and how you’ll overcome them if they do. Leave nothing out of consideration. Nothing should surprise you.

The best decision-makers know that bad things happen, and that they’re not immune.

They don’t just wing it and react. They anticipate and make contingency plans. And because they’re ready, their confidence doesn’t crack.

It’s what the venture capitalist Josh Wolfe likes to say, “Failure comes from a failure to imagine failure.”

The bottom line is that people who think about what’s likely to go wrong and determine the actions they can take are more likely to succeed when things don’t go according to plan.

Another smart way to assess your options is by using the following principle.

The Second-Level Thinking Principle

Ask yourself, “And then what?”

When you solve a problem, you make a change in the world. That change can be either in line with your long-term objectives or not.

For example, if you’re hungry and you eat a chocolate bar, you’ve solved the immediate hunger problem, but that solution has consequences: the inevitable sugar crash an hour or two later.

If your longer-term goal is to be productive that afternoon, the chocolate bar is not the best solution to your immediate problem.

Indeed, eating a chocolate bar once won’t ruin your diet or your day.

But repeating that seemingly small error in judgment daily over the course of your lifetime will not put you in a position for success.

Tiny choices compound. That’s why second-level thinking is needed.

Practice Second-Level Thinking

Inside you, there is competition between your today self and your future self.

Your future self often wants you to make different choices than you want to make today. While you care about winning the present moment today, your future self cares about winning the generation.

Each of these personalities offers a different perspective on problems. Your future self sees the benefits or consequences of the accumulation of your seemingly insignificant choices.

Think of first-level thinking as your today self and second-level thinking as your future self.

First-level thinking looks to solve the immediate problem without regard to any future problems a solution might produce.

Second-level thinking looks at the problem from beginning to end. It looks past the immediate solution and asks, “And then what?” The chocolate bar doesn’t seem so tempting when you answer this question.

You can’t solve a problem optimally unless you consider not just whether it meets your short-term objectives but whether it meets your long-term objectives as well.

A failure to think of second-order consequences leads you unknowingly to make bad decisions.

You can’t ensure the future is easier if you only think about solving the current problem and don’t give due consideration to the problems created in the process.

How to Safeguard the Solution-Exploring Stage

Just because you’ve thought of a couple of solutions, though, doesn’t mean you’ve eliminated your blind spots. Binary thinking is when you consider only two options to solve a problem.

When you first look at the choice, it seems simple: You launch the product, or you don’t. You take the new job, or you don’t. We get married or we don’t. It’s black and white: “do” or “do not.” There isn’t any middle ground.

Most of the time, though, this type of thinking is limited.

Some decisions might seem to come down to a choice between this or that, but there’s often another option.

The best decision-makers know this and see binary thinking as a sign that they don’t fully understand a problem. They are trying to reduce the problem’s dimensions before fully understanding them.

Novices fail to see the complexities of a problem that are apparent to a master. Masters see simplicity hiding in the complexity.

When you reduce the problem to black-and-white solutions, you need to check to make sure you’re the master and not the novice.

The 3+ Principle

Force yourself to explore at least three possible solutions to a problem.

If you find yourself considering only two options, force yourself to find at least one more. Doing the work to add a third option forces you to be creative and really dig into the problem.

Even if you don’t choose the third option, forcing yourself to develop it helps you understand the problem better.

It gives you more opportunities to align your decisions with your goals, offers more optionality in the future, and increases the chances that you’ll be happier with your decision down the road.

Also note these two safeguards against binary thinking:

  1. Imagine that one of the options is off the table. Take each of the options you’re considering, and one at a time, ask yourself, “What would I do if that were not possible?”
  2. Come up with “Both-And” options. Try to find ways of combining the binary. Think not in terms of choosing either X or Y, but rather having both X and Y.

Recognise Your Opportunity Costs

The real world is full of trade-offs, some of which are obvious, and others that are hidden.

Opportunity costs are the hidden trade-offs that decision-makers often have trouble assessing. Every decision has at least one of them.

Many people focus solely on what they stand to gain by choosing an option and forget to factor in what they stand to lose by forgoing another.

But the ability to size up these costs is one of the things that separates great decision-makers from the rest.

Thinking through opportunity costs is one of the most effective things you can do in business and in life.

The optimal way of exploring your options is to take all the relevant factors into account. You can’t do this without considering opportunity costs.

There are two principles concerning opportunity costs.

  1. The Opportunity Cost Principle: Consider what opportunities you’re forgoing when you choose one option over another.
  2. The 3-Lens Principle: View opportunity costs through these three lenses: (1) Compared with what? (2) And then what? (3) At the expense of what?

TIP: If you’re having trouble assessing opportunity costs, it sometimes helps to put a price on them. For example, putting a price on those extra two to three hours a day spent commuting will make them more visible and easier to assess.

Stage 3: Evaluate the Options

You’ve worked out some potential solutions in detail. Each suggests a course of action that might work.

You now need to evaluate the options and pick the one most likely to make the future easier.

There are two components here:

  1. Your criteria for evaluating the options
  2. How do you apply them?

Each problem has its own specific criteria.

If you find yourself struggling to determine specific criteria, it’s a sign either that you don’t really understand the problem, or that you don’t understand the general features that criteria are supposed to have.

Those features include the following:

  • Clarity: The criteria should be simple, clear, and free of any jargon. Ideally, you should be able to explain them to a twelve-year-old.
  • Goal promotion: The criteria must favour only those options that achieve the desired goal.
  • Decisiveness: The criteria must favour exactly one option; they can’t result in a tie among several.

Defining the Most Important Thing

Not all criteria are the same.

There might be a hundred variables, but they are not equally important. When you’re clear on what’s important, evaluating options becomes easier.

Many people are shy to pick out the most important thing because they don’t want to be wrong.

How to Safeguard the Evaluation Stage

There is only one most important thing in every project, goal, and company.

If you have two or more most important things, you’re not thinking clearly. Often, when we start pursuing an option, we find that we have to rank one criterion above another—even if only slightly.

Most of the time, making your criteria battle is about calibrating shades of gray. It’s a mental exercise that takes you out of reactive mode and moves you toward deliberative thinking.

Once you’ve settled on your criteria and their order of importance, it’s time to apply them to the options.

Doing so requires that you have information about those options that meets two conditions: it’s relevant, and it’s accurate.

Most Information is not Relevant

When it comes to getting information that’s relevant to the decision, remember this:

The Targeting Principle: Know what you are looking for before you start sorting through the data.

 

Make Better Decisions by filtering irrelevant information

Make better decisions by filtering irrelevant information

People who can quickly distinguish what matters from what doesn’t gain a huge advantage in a world where information flows endlessly.

How to Get Accurate Information from the Source

When it comes to getting accurate information, there are two principles you should know: the HiFi Principle and the HiEx Principle.

The first will help you find the best intel possible from within any given situation, and the second will help you find the best intel possible from outside of it.

The HiFi Principle

Get high-fidelity (HiFi) information.

This is information that’s close to the source and unfiltered by other people’s biases and interests. The quality of your decisions is directly related to the quality of your thoughts. The quality of your thoughts is directly related to the quality of your information.

How do you get better information?

If you want to make better decisions, you need better information.

To get this, the person closest to the problem often has the most accurate information about it. What they tend to lack is a broader perspective.

Making Sure You Get HiFi Information

Now that you understand the importance of HiFi information, here are the safeguards for ensuring you always get it.

SAFEGUARD 1: Run an experiment. Try something out to see what kinds of results it yields.  An experiment is a low-risk way of gathering important information.

SAFEGUARD 2: Evaluate the motivations and incentives of your sources. Remember that everyone sees things from a limited perspective.

To get a clearer picture of the concrete reality, consider how each person stands to benefit from the information they give you, and weave those perspectives together.

When you’re getting information from other people, you need to keep an open mind. That means withholding your own judgment as long as possible.

People often undermine the information-gathering process by subjecting others to their judgments, beliefs, and perspectives.

SAFEGUARD 3: When you get information from other people, ask questions that yield detailed answers. Don’t ask people what they think; instead, ask them how they think.

Your goal in decision-making is not just to gather information, but to gather information relevant to our decision.

That requires more than building an inventory of data points; it requires understanding the why and how behind those data points—the principles that good decision-makers use in this area.

Getting at those principles requires asking the right kinds of questions. Here are three recommended questions.

Question 1: What are the variables you’d use to make this decision if you were in my shoes? How do those variables relate to one another?

Question 2: What do you know about this problem that I (or other people) don’t? What can you see based on your experience that someone without your experience can’t? What do you know that most people miss?

Question 3: What would be your process for deciding if you were in my shoes? How would you go about doing it? (Or: How would you tell your mother/friend to go about doing it?)

The High Expertise (HiEx) Principle

The second principle for getting accurate information is getting highly expert information.

Get high-expertise (HiEx) information, which comes both from people with a lot of knowledge and/or experience in a specific area, and from people with knowledge and experience in many areas.

Experts can increase the accuracy of your information and decrease the time it takes to get it. Getting even one expert’s advice can cut through a lot of confusion and help you quickly formulate and/or eliminate options.

Even one expert’s opinion can be more helpful than the thoughts and guesses of dozens or hundreds of amateurs. But how do you recruit one to work with you?

Getting Experts on Your Side

The first thing to understand is that experts love sharing what they’ve learned when they know it’ll make a difference.

Here are five tips on how to approach an expert in a way that will set your request apart and get people excited to help you.

  1. Show that you have skin in the game: When you reach out to an expert, make them aware of the time, energy, and money you’ve already invested in the problem. Let them know you’ve done the work and that you’re stuck.
  2. Get precise on your ask: Be very clear about what you’re looking for. Are you looking for them to review your plan and provide feedback? Are you looking for them to introduce you to people who can solve the problem? Whatever it is that you want, just be clear.
  3. Show respect for their time and energy: Explicitly stating that the person you’re reaching out to is an expert whose time and energy you respect goes a long way to secure their goodwill. You should also demonstrate your respect for them, though. For instance, do not ask for fifteen minutes to pick their brain; instead, ask if they offer one-off consulting sessions and how much they charge for them.
  4. Ask for their reasons and listen: Don’t just ask experts what they think, ask them how they think. Use them as a resource to train yourself in how to evaluate things so that you can start embodying an expert way of operating. You don’t have to agree with what they’re saying, but remember: your goal is to learn from them how to think better, not to have them solve your problem for you.
  5. Follow up: If you want to build a network and make this more than a transactional request, follow up to report on your progress, no matter what the outcome is. Whether their advice helped you in this case or not, following up and keeping them updated on your progress primes them to help you in the future. When they see that you took their advice seriously, they’re going to want to help you again.

How to Tell the Difference Between Experts vs. Imitators

Getting HiEx information requires that you get help from real experts.

SAFEGUARD: Take time to distinguish real experts from imitators. Not everyone who claims to be an expert is. Take the time to know the difference.

Experts are usually enthusiastic about their area of expertise. That’s why they’re good at it: they spend even their spare time mastering and refining their knowledge and skills, and it shows. Imitators are less concerned with being great and more concerned with looking great. That concern makes it easy for the ego to take over.

Imitators can’t answer questions at a deeper level. Specific knowledge is earned, not learned, so imitators don’t fully understand the ideas they’re talking about.

Imitators can’t adapt their vocabulary. They can explain things using only the vocabulary they were taught, which is often full of jargon.

Imitators get frustrated when you say you don’t understand. That frustration is a result of being overly concerned with the appearance of expertise, which they might not be able to maintain if they have to really get into the weeds with an explanation.

Experts can tell you all the ways they’ve failed. They know and accept that some form of failure is often part of the learning process. Imitators, however, are less likely to own up to mistakes because they’re afraid it will tarnish the image they’re trying to project.

Imitators don’t know the limits of their expertise. Experts know what they know, and also know what they don’t know.

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