To be a people magnet is to acknowledge that your happiness and success at work can be strongly influenced by how well-liked you are by others.
People that are likable are regularly better at influencing others—whether it’s convincing coworkers, winning over ideas, or boosting team spirit. Stronger, deeper connections with others can also be nurtured by your likability, and this results in sustaining friendships and partnerships.
Here are the four quick ways to make people like you:
1. Smile to make a great first impression
First impression matters.
And the quickest way to make a great first impression is to give a wide smile. Smiling makes you look friendly and approachable.
A smile says to the other person, ‘I am glad to see you. You make me happy. I always enjoy your company.”
The clothes you wear is not nearly as important as the expression on your face.
WHAT ABOUT THE DAYS YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE SMILING?
Force yourself to smile when you are first alone. Act as if you are already happy, and this will make you happy as well. You are only happy when you choose to be happy.
Then smile afterwards. Your smile is a way of expressing your kindness. Everyone who sees your smile will feel happier around you too.
2. Remember people’s names to make them feel important.
Do you know the average person is more interested in his or her own name than all other names combined?
Former U.S. President, Franklin D. Roosevelt confirms that remembering names is one of the easiest, most evident, and most significant ways to win people over. When you remember that name and call it easily, you have paid a subtle and impactful compliment to that person.
The ability to recall names is nearly as crucial in social and professional interactions as it is in politics.
HOW TO REMEMBER THE NAMES OF PEOPLE
If you are hearing a person’s name clearly for the first time, ask – “I am sorry, I did not hear your name clearly, can you say it again?” If the name is not common, ask the person to spell it out. Then write the name on your phone or a piece of paper.
Make the effort to repeat the name multiple times during the conversation and try to mentally connect it to the person’s features, expression, and overall look. This technique was successfully used by Napoleon the Third.
And it works till now!
SAYING THEIR NAME MAKES YOU A BETTER PEOPLE MAGNET
The person’s name distinguishes them from others and makes them special.
This means that when we address situations with the person’s name, the information we are providing or the request we are making assumes a special significance. It puts you at a sharp advantage for them to like you. This is what makes you a people magnet.
Recognize the power of a name and understand that the only owner of this particular asset is the person we are interacting with. No one else.
3. Listen deeply and encourage people to talk about themselves.
This is a simple method to improve your conversation skills.
Many people don’t listen deeply, which prevents them from leaving a positive impression. They don’t keep their ears open because they are too worried about what they will say next. Studies show that the most influential people value attentive listeners more than talkers. However, listening skills appear to be more uncommon than nearly any other positive quality.
It is essential that you give the person speaking to you your whole attention. Nothing else is so pleasing as that.
A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation – Dale Carnegie
HOW TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
Be a focused listener if you want to be a good conversationalist. Be interested to be interesting.
Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Invite them to share about their experiences and achievements.
Even the most violent critic will often become gentler and quiet when they are around a patient, understanding listener.
4. Develop a sincere interest in other people.
By showing genuine interest in other people, you can make more friends in one month than you can by trying to pique their interest in you over the course of a year.
If you want to make friends, you must put yourself out there to do things for other people – things that require time: energy, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness. Being genuinely interested in other people not only makes you friends but also fosters a sense of loyalty if you run a business or building a professional career.
This is also the only means for the other ways to work fine for you in the long run.
HOW TO DEVELOP SINCERE INTEREST IN OTHER PEOPLE
Speaking with someone about the things they value most is the best way to winning their heart.
Mention the interests of the other person when you speak. Look for things you both have in common, like hobbies or life experiences. Ask follow-up questions, nod in agreement, and express enthusiasm in the topics they are talking about.
Always bring the focus of the conversation back to the other person.
Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.” – Benjamin Disraeli.
Greet people with enthusiasm and energy as well.
Also use the same mentality when someone calls you on the phone. Say “Hello” in a tone that conveys your happiness that they have called.
This is a fantastic way to build rapport, make them feel valued, and create a more engaging conversation.