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Personality Tests: The Best Way to Know Yourself

This year, I retook a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test called 16personalities.

It’s an assessment test that categorises you into one of 16 personalities based on a unique combination of your character traits.

On the test, I scored 78% Intuitive on the Mind Scale.

That was pretty high.

Being high on Intuition means I was very imaginative and open-minded.

This can be a great personality trait when talking to people – read between the lines and adjust my approach before misunderstandings occur!

Thanks to this bias, I’ve been successfully able to easily shift my communication style based on subtle cues about what’s working or not working.

But there’s a risk…

As an Intuitive person, if you’re not careful, you can focus intently on adapting to others and prioritise their comfort over expressing your own needs or perspectives.

You over-accommodate and then burn out during extended interactions!

And this is just one of the many things that can happen.

The Hidden Cost of Not Knowing Yourself

Here’s the danger:

If you don’t take the time to know yourself, you end up repeating harmful patterns without recognising where they came from or how to address them.

This makes things harder than they need to be.

You risk spending years, or even decades, slaving away on something that you could’ve figured out if you took the time.

I see this happen all the time with a couple of people:

“I don’t know why I am like this … I’m making progress… but I can’t figure out the next step!”

Usually, they’re working in ignorance…

Struggling to understand themselves…

Spending years stuck – trying to undo harmful patterns.

Some people think their problem is different. Unique challenges that only they are facing. Needing a “one-of-a-kind” personalised solution to be able to grow.

But that’s nonsense.

They just haven’t opened their eyes and looked around enough!

What Self-Knowledge Unlocks

If they just slowed down and found ways of understanding themselves, they’d discover:

  • What energises and depletes them
  • How they take in information
  • Their decision-making skills
  • How to approach the world around them

Think about it this way:

You wouldn’t drive a car without knowing where the gas pedal and brakes are, would you?

Yet most people go through life without understanding their own operating system.

They wonder why they’re constantly exhausted after networking events (hello, introversion).

Or why they keep making impulsive decisions that backfire (perhaps you’re a Perceiver who needs more structure).

The truth is that self-knowledge is the foundation for everything else in personal development.

Without it, you’re building on sand.

With it, you can design a life that actually fits who you are – not who you think you should be.

Why Personality Tests Work

There’s no big secret here.

There are scientifically proven tests to identify your character traits and self-reflect on your strengths and weaknesses.

In fact, the more popular the test, the more accurate the results.

You can discover them yourself by searching online for personality tests.

Or reading about them in newsletters like this.

Here’s what makes personality tests different from casual self-reflection:

They provide structure. Instead of vague musings about “who you are,” these tests give you concrete frameworks and categories.

They reveal blind spots. We all have aspects of ourselves we don’t see clearly. A well-designed test can shine a light on these hidden areas.

They’re based on research. Popular personality tests draw on decades of psychological research and data from millions of test-takers.

They give you language. Suddenly, you have words to describe patterns you’ve felt but couldn’t articulate.

The True Essence of Personality Tests

The True Essence of Personality Tests

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, for instance, has been refined over 70 years with extensive validation studies.

It’s not perfect (no test is), but it’s a powerful starting point.

Understanding the MBTI Framework

For instance, take the 16personalities as an example.

The 16 personalities identified by the MBTI are each represented by a combination of four letters that stand as an abbreviation for certain traits.

ENERGY: Extraversion (E) vs. Introversion (I)

The first letter in your MBTI personality type will be an E or an I for extraversion or introversion.

This distinction helps determine where you derive your energy from.

Spending time with others tends to give extroverts more energy, and they enjoy interacting with others.

They bounce ideas off others to process information.

On the other hand, introverted individuals tend to focus their energies inward.

If you’re an introvert, you’re more likely to prefer spending time by yourself and thinking things through on your own instead of talking to others.

This single dimension can explain so much about why certain situations drain you while others energise you.

MIND: Intuiting (N) vs. Sensing (S)

The second letter in your personality type will be either an N for intuiting or an S for sensing.

These characteristics help explain how you absorb and trust information.

You process information based on possibilities and patterns if you’re intuitive, especially if you’re introverted.

You think more abstractly and analyse situations with your imagination.

Sensing types, however, process information based on specific facts and details.

If you are sensing, you likely use your human senses to understand your surroundings and situations.

Understanding this can revolutionise how you approach learning and problem-solving.

NATURE: Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F)

You’ll find either a T or an F as the third letter in your personality type, which stands for thinking or feeling.

These help you understand how you make decisions.

If you fall into the “thinking” category, you’re likely more practical and rely on logic to make decisions.

Then you’re more likely to follow your emotions and heart if you fall into the “feeling” category.

Neither approach is better – they’re just different.

But knowing your preference can help you understand why you clash with certain people or excel in specific situations.

TACTICS: Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P)

The final letter in your MBTI personality test result will be a J or a P for judging or perceiving.

This area helps describe how you interact with the outside world.

Judgers often prefer structure and order – They’re well organised and like to focus on one thing at a time rather than multitasking.

Meanwhile, those in the perceiving category are more flexible and adaptable – They tend to keep their options open and absorb information for longer periods of time.

The different combinations of the letters above form the 16 personality types recognised by the MBTI.

My Personal Journey with MBTI

When I took the test this year, I got the INTJ personality type.

This means I am Introverted (I), Intuiting (N), Thinking (T), and Judging (J).

A personality study shows the strengths of INTJ are rationality, thoughtfulness and independence.

If you know me (and read my newsletters), you will agree these traits align with my personality.

Interestingly, when I first took the test in 2018, I got the INFJ Personality Type.

It seems people do change over time, both internally and externally.

This shift from Feeling to Thinking wasn’t random – it reflected real changes in how I approached decisions over those years.

I became more analytical, more focused on logic over emotion in my work.

Seeing this change documented gave me perspective on my own growth trajectory.

How to Get Started

You can take the Myers-Briggs test from 16personalities.com

It is free.

Takes about 10-15 minutes.

Answer honestly – not how you wish you were, but how you actually are.

If you don’t feel aligned with the methodology used by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, there are plenty of other personality tests you can try to help increase your self-awareness.

The Big Five measures openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.

StrengthsFinder identifies your top talent themes.

Enneagram explores nine personality types with deeper psychological motivations.

Take your time to find and validate these results.

Try multiple tests and see what resonates.

Look for patterns across different frameworks.

The most important thing to note is:

Knowing what you’re good at can open the door to more substantial opportunities and help uncover your highest self.

Self-knowledge isn’t vanity.

It’s practical wisdom.

Self-knowledge is the difference between forcing yourself into ill-fitting roles and stepping into work that energises you.

It’s the difference between relationships that drain you and connections that fulfil you.

It’s the difference between years of confusion and a clear path forward.

So take the test.

Reflect on the results.

And start building a life that actually fits who you are.

I hope this helps you, my friend.

Godspeed and Cheers.

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Attention: The Most Valuable Asset You’ll Ever Own

Your attention is being stolen right now.

Every notification. The autoplay videos. Every infinite scroll.

They’re all designed to extract the one resource you can never get back.

While you’re giving it away for free, tech giants are building trillion-dollar empires with it.

Philosopher Simone Weil understood this deeply: “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.”

Yet most of us scatter this precious gift like loose change, unaware we’re trading our most valuable currency for digital entertainment.

The truth is what you pay attention to shapes who you become.

Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are – Philosopher José Ortega y Gasset.

This is your guide to understanding, reclaiming, and mastering this priceless asset.

It’s time to stop paying attention and start investing it.

What Attention Actually is (and How it Became Currency)

Attention is the ability to consciously direct your focus to people, ideas, or experiences.

It’s the mental energy you invest when something matters enough to demand your awareness.

In the digital age, attention has become the world’s most traded commodity.

Social media platforms, streaming services, and advertisers aren’t selling products anymore; they’re buying your attention (they call it data) and reselling it to the highest bidder.

Think about the platforms you use.

Facebook doesn’t charge you money. Neither does Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube.

You’re not the customer. You’re the product.

Your attention is what they’re harvesting and monetising.

Platforms care about one thing above all else: can they hook your attention and maintain it?

  • YouTube tracks watch time.
  • Instagram measures if viewers watch your entire Reel.
  • TikTok monitors completion rates.

Every metric points to the same goal. They want to keep you watching, scrolling and clicking.

Whoever captures the most attention wins.

Attention became a currency when the world realised it could be bought, sold, stolen, and monetised.

  • A celebrity is just someone who has more attention than you.
  • A politician is someone who knows how to control attention.
  • A billionaire content creator is someone who has mastered the art of earning it.

And here’s the uncomfortable truth: if you’re not controlling your attention, someone else is profiting from it.

Companies spend billions engineering features to make you check “just one more time.”

Autoplay. Push notifications. Infinite scroll.

These aren’t accidents; they’re weapons in the war for your focus.

Your Attention is a Currency

Your Attention is a Currency

 

Why You Must Reclaim Your Attention and Monitor It Closely

If you don’t monitor your attention, you’re making four critical mistakes.

1. The Identity Cost: Your Attention Determines Your Reality

What you focus on expands.

Direct your attention toward negativity, and your world becomes darker. Focus on opportunity, and possibilities multiply.

Your brain can’t distinguish between what you’re experiencing and what you’re repeatedly thinking about. Scroll through disaster news for hours, and your nervous system responds as if you’re living through each crisis personally.

Your brain literally rewires itself based on what you consistently pay attention to.

2. The Time Cost: Attention Is Your Most Finite Resource

Money can be earned back. Time passes regardless.

But attention is both limited and irreplaceable.

You have roughly 16 waking hours each day. That’s your entire attention budget. Once spent, it’s gone forever.

Every moment you give to something trivial is a moment stolen from something meaningful.

That hour lost to social media doom-scrolling? That’s an hour you’ll never get back to build your business, strengthen relationships, or develop skills.

The opportunity cost of mismanaged attention is staggering.

It’s the book unwritten. The skill unlearned. Relationships neglected. The dream abandoned because you were too distracted to pursue it.

3. The Value Cost: Scattered Attention Kills Your Potential

Deep work, i.e. the ability to focus without distraction, is becoming rare.

And rare skills become valuable. Research shows it takes an average of 23 minutes to fully regain focus after an interruption. Check your phone once an hour, and you never actually achieve deep focus.

You’re operating at the surface level all day.

The people achieving extraordinary results aren’t smarter than you. They’ve simply mastered the art of sustained, undivided attention. They go deep while others stay shallow.

Reclaiming your attention is the first step to producing high-value work.

4. The Peace Cost: You Become What You Pay Attention To

Show me your screen time report, and I’ll show you your priorities.

Show me your search history, and I’ll tell you your future.

Your attention is the steering wheel of your life. Point it toward gossip, drama, and entertainment, and that’s the life you’ll build. Direct it toward learning, creating, and growth, and you transform.

Every moment of attention is a vote for the person you’re becoming.

Why You Must Reclaim Your Attention

Why You Must Reclaim Your Attention

How to Reclaim and Monitor Your Attention

To counter the four reasons above, you need a systematic plan.

This Four-Step Framework directly aligns with the costs of a distracted life, helping you become a master of attention.

Step 1: Create Your Reality Through Intentional Input

Audit every information source currently competing for your attention.

Unfollow accounts that trigger comparison or negativity. Unsubscribe from emails you never read. Delete apps that don’t serve your goals.

Your inputs shape your outputs.

Replace passive consumption with active creation. Spend less time watching others succeed and more time building your own success.

Set boundaries around news consumption. You don’t need 24/7 updates. Check once daily, maximum.

The truly important stuff will reach you.

Step 2: Guard Your Finite Attention Budget

Track where your attention actually goes.

Use screen time reports. You can’t manage what you don’t measure.

Implement time blocking. Assign specific attention to specific tasks. When it’s work time, work. When it’s rest time, rest. No mixing.

Create attention rituals.

Start mornings without checking your phone. End days without screens. Protect the bookends of your day because they set the tone for everything between.

Learn to say no. Every yes to something trivial is a no to something meaningful. Protect your attention like you protect your money. Because it’s far more valuable.

Step 3: Train for Deep Focus

Practice single-tasking.

Do one thing at a time with complete presence. Close all tabs except what you’re working on. Put your phone in another room.

Build your attention muscle gradually.

Start with 25-minute focus sessions. Rest. Repeat. Slowly extend the duration as your capacity grows.

Remove environmental distractions before they remove your focus. Work in notification-free zones. Use website blockers. Create physical spaces dedicated to deep work.

Embrace boredom.

Don’t reach for your phone every time you feel under-stimulated. Boredom is where creativity lives. Let your mind wander without digital interference.

Step 4: Align Your Attention With Your Identity

Define who you want to become.

Then audit whether your current attention patterns support or sabotage that vision.

If you want to be a writer, are you reading and writing daily? If you want to be healthy, are you studying nutrition and moving your body?

Your attention reveals your real priorities.

Schedule attention for what matters most. Put your most important work during your peak energy hours. Don’t give social media your best attention and your dreams the leftovers.

Review weekly. Ask yourself: “Did my attention this week move me closer to who I want to be?” Adjust accordingly. This practice alone will transform your life.

How to Capture and Maintain the Attention of Other People

This part matters because attention isn’t only something you protect. It’s something you can earn.

And earning attention ethically is one of the most powerful advantages in life.

Let’s break it down.

1. Be interesting before being visible

A lot of people try to build an audience before building a life. This is wrong.

If your life is empty, your content will be too. If your experiences are thin, your ideas won’t land.

People pay attention to people who actually live.

2. Speak with clarity

Confusing messages lose attention instantly.

Say things simply and in your own words. Share your message like a human, not a textbook or AI chatbot.

Clarity cuts through noise.

3. Tell stories

Humans don’t follow data.

They follow emotion, tension, and narrative.

Share what you’ve lived, not what you’ve read.

4. Deliver value fast

The first 10 seconds decide everything.

If you don’t hook people immediately, they’re gone. Front-load value. Say something sharp.

Give people a reason to stay.

5. Be consistent

Attention is a flame.

If you don’t feed it, it dies.

People remember what you repeat.

6. Maintain mystery

Don’t overshare every detail of your life.

Leave questions unanswered. Leave paths half-visible.

A little curiosity keeps attention alive far longer than loud self-promotion.

Masters of Attention: Case Studies in Success

The most successful people in history and the modern era understood the gravity of attention.

They didn’t just chase their goals; they orchestrated a strategy to capture and maintain the world’s focus long enough to achieve massive impact.

Here are five examples of individuals who mastered attention as a currency:

1.      Elon Musk: The Attention Architect

Musk understands attention as leverage.

Every tweet is calculated. Every announcement generates headlines. He’s built companies worth hundreds of billions partly through his mastery of capturing public attention.

Whether launching rockets or posting memes, he keeps the world watching. And that attention translates to investment, talent acquisition, and cultural influence.

2.      Oprah Winfrey: The Presence That Transformed Media

Oprah built an empire on giving others her complete attention.

Her interviews felt different because she truly listened. She made guests feel seen. That presence, that quality of attention, created trust. And this trust captured the sustained attention of millions for decades.

Oprah’s book club recommendations became instant bestsellers. Because people trusted where she directed her attention.

3.      Linda Ikeji: Nigeria’s Blog Queen

Linda Ikeji turned attention into an empire.

Starting with a simple blog, she captured Nigeria’s attention by understanding what people wanted to read. She posted consistently, covered trending topics, and built an audience of millions. That attention translated into advertising revenue, then expanded into a music platform, a social network, and a TV station.

Linda proved that capturing and maintaining attention in your market can transform everything, regardless of where you start.

4.      Gary Vaynerchuk: The Content Machine

Gary Vee recognised early that attention was shifting to social media.

He didn’t just create content; he flooded every platform simultaneously. His strategy was to be everywhere, all the time, with maximum value.

Gary Vee turned his attention to understanding each platform’s algorithm and audience behaviour. That focus on where attention was moving, not where it had been, built his media empire.

5.      MrBeast: Engineering Viral Attention

Jimmy Donaldson studied YouTube’s algorithm like a scientist.

He obsessed over retention rates, thumbnail psychology, and pacing. Every video is engineered to capture and maintain attention. His reward? Over 200 million subscribers and deals worth hundreds of millions.

Mr Beast proves that understanding attention mechanics and respecting your audience’s time creates exponential results.

Your Attention, Your Life

Attention is a currency of life.

You pay attention when something matters to you and demands focus.

The question is: are you spending this currency intentionally, or is it being stolen without your awareness?

The world will constantly try to extract your attention. Algorithms will seduce you. Notifications will interrupt you. Distractions will multiply.

Your job is simple but not easy: decide what deserves your attention, then protect it fiercely.

Because in the end, your life is nothing more than the sum of what you paid attention to.

Spending and investing your attention wisely is how you become your highest self.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self Newsletter: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

Better Decisions: The Hidden Framework Behind Clear Thinkers

Making better decisions is different from selecting choices.

If you casually select an option from a range of alternatives, you’ve made a choice.

If you react without thinking, you’ve made an unconscious choice.

However, neither of these is equivalent to a decision. A decision is a choice that involves conscious thought.

 

Making Better Decisions

Making Better Decisions

Your decision itself represents the outcome of your decision-making process.

That process is about weighing your options to select the best one, and it’s composed of four stages:

  1. Define the problem,
  2. Explore possible solutions,
  3. Evaluate the options, and
  4. Choose and execute the best option.

If you don’t apply this process, your choice doesn’t necessarily count as a decision.

Stage 1: Define the Problem

The first principle of decision-making is to define the problem clearly.

Defining the problem starts with identifying two things:

  1. What do you want to achieve?
  2. What obstacles stand in the way of getting it?

The best decision-makers know that the way you define a problem shapes everyone’s perspective about it and determines the solutions.

The most critical step in any decision-making process is to get the problem right. This part of the process offers invaluable insight.

You can’t solve what you don’t understand.

That’s why defining the problem is so valuable: it’s your chance to absorb all the relevant information needed for a solution.

Two Principles to Apply when Defining the Problem

The best decision-maker understands the real problem by talking to experts, seeking others’ opinions, hearing different perspectives, and sorting out what’s real from what’s not.

When you really understand a problem, the solution seems obvious.

These two principles follow the example of the best decision-makers:

  1. The Definition Principle: Take responsibility for defining the problem. Don’t let someone define it for you. Do the work to understand it. Don’t use jargon to describe or explain it.
  2. The Root Cause Principle: Identify the root cause of the problem. Don’t be content with simply treating its symptoms.

A handy tool for identifying the root cause of a problem is to ask yourself, “What would have to be true for this problem not to exist in the first place?

How to Safeguard the Problem-Defining Stage

There are two ways to safeguard this stage of the decision process against our defaults: create a firewall and use time to your advantage.

SAFEGUARD 1: Build a problem-solution firewall.

Separate the problem-defining phase of the decision-making process from the problem-solving phase.

Give yourself time to get clear on what the problem is before you jump into solving it. Often, you’ll discover that your first attempt to define the underlying issue is rarely the most accurate.

TIP: Remember that writing out the problem makes the invisible visible. Write down what you think the problem is and then look at it the next day.

If you find yourself using jargon in your description, it’s a sign that you don’t fully understand the problem. And if you don’t understand it, you shouldn’t be deciding about it.

SAFEGUARD 2: Use the test of time.

Test whether you’re addressing the root cause of a problem, rather than merely treating a symptom, by asking yourself whether it will stand the test of time.

Will this solution fix the problem permanently, or will the problem return in the future? If it seems like the latter, then chances are you’re only treating a symptom.

Short-term solutions might make sense in the moment, but they never win in the long term. You feel like you’re moving forward when you’re just going in circles.

Most times, people choose short-term solutions because fixing something quickly shows others they’re doing something. That’s the social autopilot at work.

It fools people into mistaking action for progress, the loudest voice for the right one, and confidence for competence.

Time eventually reveals short-term solutions to be Band-Aids that cover deeper problems. Don’t be fooled!

Put your Energy into Long-term Solutions

You can put your energy into short-term solutions or long-term solutions, but not both.

Any energy that’s channelled toward short-term solutions depletes energy that could be put into finding a long-term fix.

Yes, sometimes short-term solutions are necessary to create space for long-term solutions. But just make sure you’re not putting out flames in the present that will reignite in the future.

When the same problem returns repeatedly, people end up exhausted and discouraged because they never seem to make real progress.

Extinguish the fire today so it can’t burn you tomorrow.

Stage 2: Explore Possible Solutions

Once you’re clear on the problem, think of possible solutions.

Develop ways to overcome the obstacles and get what you want. Imagine different possible futures to come up with possible solutions. Find out different ways the world could turn out.

Admiral James Stockdale once said, “You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”

Problems Don’t Disappear by Themselves

We all face difficult problems.

The autopilots narrow our perspective. They narrow our view of the world and tempt us to see things as we wish them to be, not as they are.

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

You can secure the outcomes you want only by dealing with reality. This is the often-brutal truth of how the world really works.

The worst thing you can do with a difficult problem is resort to magical thinking—putting your head in the sand and hoping the problem will disappear on its own or that a solution will present itself to you.

The antidote is to leave nothing out of consideration.

The Bad Outcome Principle

Don’t just imagine the ideal future outcome.

Imagine the things that could go wrong and how you’ll overcome them if they do. Leave nothing out of consideration. Nothing should surprise you.

The best decision-makers know that bad things happen, and that they’re not immune.

They don’t just wing it and react. They anticipate and make contingency plans. And because they’re ready, their confidence doesn’t crack.

It’s what the venture capitalist Josh Wolfe likes to say, “Failure comes from a failure to imagine failure.”

The bottom line is that people who think about what’s likely to go wrong and determine the actions they can take are more likely to succeed when things don’t go according to plan.

Another smart way to assess your options is by using the following principle.

The Second-Level Thinking Principle

Ask yourself, “And then what?”

When you solve a problem, you make a change in the world. That change can be either in line with your long-term objectives or not.

For example, if you’re hungry and you eat a chocolate bar, you’ve solved the immediate hunger problem, but that solution has consequences: the inevitable sugar crash an hour or two later.

If your longer-term goal is to be productive that afternoon, the chocolate bar is not the best solution to your immediate problem.

Indeed, eating a chocolate bar once won’t ruin your diet or your day.

But repeating that seemingly small error in judgment daily over the course of your lifetime will not put you in a position for success.

Tiny choices compound. That’s why second-level thinking is needed.

Practice Second-Level Thinking

Inside you, there is competition between your today self and your future self.

Your future self often wants you to make different choices than you want to make today. While you care about winning the present moment today, your future self cares about winning the generation.

Each of these personalities offers a different perspective on problems. Your future self sees the benefits or consequences of the accumulation of your seemingly insignificant choices.

Think of first-level thinking as your today self and second-level thinking as your future self.

First-level thinking looks to solve the immediate problem without regard to any future problems a solution might produce.

Second-level thinking looks at the problem from beginning to end. It looks past the immediate solution and asks, “And then what?” The chocolate bar doesn’t seem so tempting when you answer this question.

You can’t solve a problem optimally unless you consider not just whether it meets your short-term objectives but whether it meets your long-term objectives as well.

A failure to think of second-order consequences leads you unknowingly to make bad decisions.

You can’t ensure the future is easier if you only think about solving the current problem and don’t give due consideration to the problems created in the process.

How to Safeguard the Solution-Exploring Stage

Just because you’ve thought of a couple of solutions, though, doesn’t mean you’ve eliminated your blind spots. Binary thinking is when you consider only two options to solve a problem.

When you first look at the choice, it seems simple: You launch the product, or you don’t. You take the new job, or you don’t. We get married or we don’t. It’s black and white: “do” or “do not.” There isn’t any middle ground.

Most of the time, though, this type of thinking is limited.

Some decisions might seem to come down to a choice between this or that, but there’s often another option.

The best decision-makers know this and see binary thinking as a sign that they don’t fully understand a problem. They are trying to reduce the problem’s dimensions before fully understanding them.

Novices fail to see the complexities of a problem that are apparent to a master. Masters see simplicity hiding in the complexity.

When you reduce the problem to black-and-white solutions, you need to check to make sure you’re the master and not the novice.

The 3+ Principle

Force yourself to explore at least three possible solutions to a problem.

If you find yourself considering only two options, force yourself to find at least one more. Doing the work to add a third option forces you to be creative and really dig into the problem.

Even if you don’t choose the third option, forcing yourself to develop it helps you understand the problem better.

It gives you more opportunities to align your decisions with your goals, offers more optionality in the future, and increases the chances that you’ll be happier with your decision down the road.

Also note these two safeguards against binary thinking:

  1. Imagine that one of the options is off the table. Take each of the options you’re considering, and one at a time, ask yourself, “What would I do if that were not possible?”
  2. Come up with “Both-And” options. Try to find ways of combining the binary. Think not in terms of choosing either X or Y, but rather having both X and Y.

Recognise Your Opportunity Costs

The real world is full of trade-offs, some of which are obvious, and others that are hidden.

Opportunity costs are the hidden trade-offs that decision-makers often have trouble assessing. Every decision has at least one of them.

Many people focus solely on what they stand to gain by choosing an option and forget to factor in what they stand to lose by forgoing another.

But the ability to size up these costs is one of the things that separates great decision-makers from the rest.

Thinking through opportunity costs is one of the most effective things you can do in business and in life.

The optimal way of exploring your options is to take all the relevant factors into account. You can’t do this without considering opportunity costs.

There are two principles concerning opportunity costs.

  1. The Opportunity Cost Principle: Consider what opportunities you’re forgoing when you choose one option over another.
  2. The 3-Lens Principle: View opportunity costs through these three lenses: (1) Compared with what? (2) And then what? (3) At the expense of what?

TIP: If you’re having trouble assessing opportunity costs, it sometimes helps to put a price on them. For example, putting a price on those extra two to three hours a day spent commuting will make them more visible and easier to assess.

Stage 3: Evaluate the Options

You’ve worked out some potential solutions in detail. Each suggests a course of action that might work.

You now need to evaluate the options and pick the one most likely to make the future easier.

There are two components here:

  1. Your criteria for evaluating the options
  2. How do you apply them?

Each problem has its own specific criteria.

If you find yourself struggling to determine specific criteria, it’s a sign either that you don’t really understand the problem, or that you don’t understand the general features that criteria are supposed to have.

Those features include the following:

  • Clarity: The criteria should be simple, clear, and free of any jargon. Ideally, you should be able to explain them to a twelve-year-old.
  • Goal promotion: The criteria must favour only those options that achieve the desired goal.
  • Decisiveness: The criteria must favour exactly one option; they can’t result in a tie among several.

Defining the Most Important Thing

Not all criteria are the same.

There might be a hundred variables, but they are not equally important. When you’re clear on what’s important, evaluating options becomes easier.

Many people are shy to pick out the most important thing because they don’t want to be wrong.

How to Safeguard the Evaluation Stage

There is only one most important thing in every project, goal, and company.

If you have two or more most important things, you’re not thinking clearly. Often, when we start pursuing an option, we find that we have to rank one criterion above another—even if only slightly.

Most of the time, making your criteria battle is about calibrating shades of gray. It’s a mental exercise that takes you out of reactive mode and moves you toward deliberative thinking.

Once you’ve settled on your criteria and their order of importance, it’s time to apply them to the options.

Doing so requires that you have information about those options that meets two conditions: it’s relevant, and it’s accurate.

Most Information is not Relevant

When it comes to getting information that’s relevant to the decision, remember this:

The Targeting Principle: Know what you are looking for before you start sorting through the data.

 

Make Better Decisions by filtering irrelevant information

Make better decisions by filtering irrelevant information

People who can quickly distinguish what matters from what doesn’t gain a huge advantage in a world where information flows endlessly.

How to Get Accurate Information from the Source

When it comes to getting accurate information, there are two principles you should know: the HiFi Principle and the HiEx Principle.

The first will help you find the best intel possible from within any given situation, and the second will help you find the best intel possible from outside of it.

The HiFi Principle

Get high-fidelity (HiFi) information.

This is information that’s close to the source and unfiltered by other people’s biases and interests. The quality of your decisions is directly related to the quality of your thoughts. The quality of your thoughts is directly related to the quality of your information.

How do you get better information?

If you want to make better decisions, you need better information.

To get this, the person closest to the problem often has the most accurate information about it. What they tend to lack is a broader perspective.

Making Sure You Get HiFi Information

Now that you understand the importance of HiFi information, here are the safeguards for ensuring you always get it.

SAFEGUARD 1: Run an experiment. Try something out to see what kinds of results it yields.  An experiment is a low-risk way of gathering important information.

SAFEGUARD 2: Evaluate the motivations and incentives of your sources. Remember that everyone sees things from a limited perspective.

To get a clearer picture of the concrete reality, consider how each person stands to benefit from the information they give you, and weave those perspectives together.

When you’re getting information from other people, you need to keep an open mind. That means withholding your own judgment as long as possible.

People often undermine the information-gathering process by subjecting others to their judgments, beliefs, and perspectives.

SAFEGUARD 3: When you get information from other people, ask questions that yield detailed answers. Don’t ask people what they think; instead, ask them how they think.

Your goal in decision-making is not just to gather information, but to gather information relevant to our decision.

That requires more than building an inventory of data points; it requires understanding the why and how behind those data points—the principles that good decision-makers use in this area.

Getting at those principles requires asking the right kinds of questions. Here are three recommended questions.

Question 1: What are the variables you’d use to make this decision if you were in my shoes? How do those variables relate to one another?

Question 2: What do you know about this problem that I (or other people) don’t? What can you see based on your experience that someone without your experience can’t? What do you know that most people miss?

Question 3: What would be your process for deciding if you were in my shoes? How would you go about doing it? (Or: How would you tell your mother/friend to go about doing it?)

The High Expertise (HiEx) Principle

The second principle for getting accurate information is getting highly expert information.

Get high-expertise (HiEx) information, which comes both from people with a lot of knowledge and/or experience in a specific area, and from people with knowledge and experience in many areas.

Experts can increase the accuracy of your information and decrease the time it takes to get it. Getting even one expert’s advice can cut through a lot of confusion and help you quickly formulate and/or eliminate options.

Even one expert’s opinion can be more helpful than the thoughts and guesses of dozens or hundreds of amateurs. But how do you recruit one to work with you?

Getting Experts on Your Side

The first thing to understand is that experts love sharing what they’ve learned when they know it’ll make a difference.

Here are five tips on how to approach an expert in a way that will set your request apart and get people excited to help you.

  1. Show that you have skin in the game: When you reach out to an expert, make them aware of the time, energy, and money you’ve already invested in the problem. Let them know you’ve done the work and that you’re stuck.
  2. Get precise on your ask: Be very clear about what you’re looking for. Are you looking for them to review your plan and provide feedback? Are you looking for them to introduce you to people who can solve the problem? Whatever it is that you want, just be clear.
  3. Show respect for their time and energy: Explicitly stating that the person you’re reaching out to is an expert whose time and energy you respect goes a long way to secure their goodwill. You should also demonstrate your respect for them, though. For instance, do not ask for fifteen minutes to pick their brain; instead, ask if they offer one-off consulting sessions and how much they charge for them.
  4. Ask for their reasons and listen: Don’t just ask experts what they think, ask them how they think. Use them as a resource to train yourself in how to evaluate things so that you can start embodying an expert way of operating. You don’t have to agree with what they’re saying, but remember: your goal is to learn from them how to think better, not to have them solve your problem for you.
  5. Follow up: If you want to build a network and make this more than a transactional request, follow up to report on your progress, no matter what the outcome is. Whether their advice helped you in this case or not, following up and keeping them updated on your progress primes them to help you in the future. When they see that you took their advice seriously, they’re going to want to help you again.

How to Tell the Difference Between Experts vs. Imitators

Getting HiEx information requires that you get help from real experts.

SAFEGUARD: Take time to distinguish real experts from imitators. Not everyone who claims to be an expert is. Take the time to know the difference.

Experts are usually enthusiastic about their area of expertise. That’s why they’re good at it: they spend even their spare time mastering and refining their knowledge and skills, and it shows. Imitators are less concerned with being great and more concerned with looking great. That concern makes it easy for the ego to take over.

Imitators can’t answer questions at a deeper level. Specific knowledge is earned, not learned, so imitators don’t fully understand the ideas they’re talking about.

Imitators can’t adapt their vocabulary. They can explain things using only the vocabulary they were taught, which is often full of jargon.

Imitators get frustrated when you say you don’t understand. That frustration is a result of being overly concerned with the appearance of expertise, which they might not be able to maintain if they have to really get into the weeds with an explanation.

Experts can tell you all the ways they’ve failed. They know and accept that some form of failure is often part of the learning process. Imitators, however, are less likely to own up to mistakes because they’re afraid it will tarnish the image they’re trying to project.

Imitators don’t know the limits of their expertise. Experts know what they know, and also know what they don’t know.

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