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Technical Superiority: Why Intuition Can’t be Found in Books

If you think reading more or taking additional courses will give you all the answers, this story will change your mind.

In 2020, Netflix dropped a brilliant mini-series called The Queen’s Gambit, centred around a quiet but formidable orphan named Beth Harmon who rises through the male-dominated world of competitive chess.

An encyclopaedic knowledge of chess fuels Beth’s rise, yet she repeatedly faces moments where raw intellect isn’t enough.

In those moments, she doesn’t play the game by convention. Beth plays it by instinct.

And as she climbs the ladder, beating seasoned grandmasters in smoke-filled rooms with nothing but her calm glare and lightning mind, you realize something:

Beth isn’t just memorizing chess patterns. She’s seeing them.

In The Queen’s Gambit, Beth Harmon’s chess mastery did not come from memorization alone, but from moments where she closes her eyes and feels the board.

But there’s a painful story before she fully mastered chess.

The Short Story of Beth Harmon

You see, Beth was orphaned at a young age, after which she was placed in an institution where she first discovered chess.

Later, she was adopted by Alma Wheatley, a kind woman who recognized Beth’s extraordinary talent and supported her chess career despite knowing little about the game herself.

As Beth plays more professional chess, she begins to rely heavily on study and technical preparation, developing an obsessive relationship with perfection and channelling it to her games.

While Beth rises to the top of the chess world and reaps the financial benefits of her success, her performance worsens because of her increased dependency on drugs and alcohol.

However, Alma had been watching Beth’s journey and understood that true mastery required more than just technical knowledge. Or reliance on substances and alcohol abuse.

Alma had also learned something that all the chess books and training couldn’t teach and tried to pass this wisdom to Beth throughout their time together and this fell to deaf ears.

You see, Beth disregarded Alma because she didn’t really know much about chess.

But as Beth grew older and faced increasingly difficult opponents, she began to understand what Alma had been trying to tell her.  A full mastery of chess will only come from the source of technical superiority.

I will come back to technical superiority in a bit.

Eventually, as Beth faced increasingly sophisticated opponents, she discovered there was something missing from all her preparation. In her final breakthrough moment, Beth recalls Alma’s words which makes her rethink everything she thought she knew about mastery.

Her adoptive mother Alma, watching her obsess over strategy books, once told her: “Intuition can’t be found in books.”

Pause and let that sink in.

When its meaning dawns on you, keep reading.

Now let’s talk about technical superiority.

Technical Superiority

In football, technical superiority is what happens when a player has mastered the basics to such an elite level that they can create space and time out of thin air.

Regardless of pressure, system, or opponent, these football players execute the fundamental techniques of the game with precision, control, and consistency.

Technical superiority means having better ball mastery, allowing for more creative, efficient, and confident play than opponents.

The best football players in the world have this trait.

It’s why Messi can weave through defenders not just with speed but with minimal touches.

Technical superiority is why Iniesta always had three passing options even in a 2-square-meter box and dictated the pace of their football games.

It’s how Cristiano Ronaldo had a consistent ability to strike from distance or volley with both feet.

Technical superiority is not just about skill.

It means doing the basics so well that they become weapons.

It’s about that rare combination of feel, timing, and instinct that can’t be drilled into you.

You either sense the opening, or you don’t.

Now apply this to your life.

Think of the moments you got stuck in analysis paralysis because you didn’t trust your instincts.

The relationship you stayed too long in because the logic made sense… but your heart felt trapped.

The job offer you took because the pay was good… but your chest tightened every morning you had to show up.

How many times have you ignored the quiet whisper inside you because you couldn’t explain it yet?

How many times have you delayed the right move because you couldn’t find it in a manual, a course, or a quote from a Harvard business review article?

Apply Technical Superiority to your Life

 

Don’t confuse knowledge with knowing

We’ve been raised to believe that mastery is only acquired through accumulation.

Read more books.

Watch more tutorials.

Take one more course.

But the truth is… There comes a point when more information blinds you.

Where you’ve read so much theory you can’t hear your own thoughts.

You’re academically sound, yes… but spiritually deaf.

What Alma, Beth’s adoptive mother said wasn’t just a warning.

It was an alarm.

A code-red for the overeducated, overinformed generation who confuse knowledge with knowing.

Intuition can’t be found in books.

You can’t Google it.

You must live it.

You must sit with yourself in silence.

Feel your own patterns.

Watch your own mind.

And eventually, you’ll start to see the board.

Not the one they taught you in class.

The one that only your eyes can see.

And when you do…

You’ll stop playing by memory.

You’ll start playing by mastery.

This life is not a textbook.

It’s a chessboard. It’s a football game.

And no two games are ever the same.

Stop trying to memorize every outcome.

Instead, trust that feeling.

That strange but familiar sense that something is either deeply right or unmistakably off.

Train and hone this feeling by practicing what you have learned and consistently execution

The algorithm can’t teach you that.

Only you can.

Play Life to hone and master your technical superiority

So please, whatever story you’re living through right now…

Don’t search for all the answers on someone else’s page.

This is your move.

And now, once and for all, let the books serve their purpose and trust what they cannot teach.

Remember Alma’s words: “Intuition can’t be found in books.”

Now go show the world how your game is played.

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Obsession: 5 Steps to Peak Performance

Obsession is your most powerful lever for achievement, when it’s wielded with intention.

After interviewing ultra-successful individuals for decades, Joe Rogan observed a single trait in all of them. Everyone who is good at something is obsessed with it. They think and talk about that thing all the time. Obsession is the only way you can be great at something.

In simple terms, fleeting enthusiasm rarely moves the needle.

The Problem:

Most people are comfortable, making casual efforts which bring out casual results.

In a world full of distractions, they will always find plausible reasons to scroll, snooze, or switch tasks. This means they stop when things get inconvenient, not when the job is done. Even if they “finish” things, these tasks don’t matter.

Plenty of people work hard but few of them leave a mark.

Marc Andreessen has a famous quote on how to tackle this problem.

“The world is a very malleable place. If you know what you want, and you go for it with maximum energy and drive and passion, the world will often reconfigure itself around you much more quickly and easily than you would think.”

The Solution is Obsession

Become obsessed with whatever you are working on.

You risk being mediocre in a world that rewards obsession. Here is what happens you don’t have obsession:

  • Your goals take longer to achieve or never materialize because you are not obsessed to make consistent efforts.
  • If you’re not deeply engaged, your work will lack excellence or innovation.
  • Habits like distraction or avoidance become ingrained in your life over time.

Obsession

The key isn’t vague motivation but a clear, five-part framework you can put to work today:

  1. Define a compelling mission that pulls you forward
  2. Build routines and environments that lock in focus
  3. Establish a deliberate learning system to sharpen your skills
  4. Anticipate and overcome the pitfalls that derail most people and
  5. Measure your progress to keep the momentum alive.

Follow these steps, and you’ll turn raw enthusiasm into a structured, sustainable obsession that drives real results.

I will explain these steps in detail below, but you must first understand why obsession is important.

Why Obsession Matters

Firstly, Obsession doesn’t mean burnout.

There’s a difference between a healthy obsession and its destructive counterpart. Healthy obsession can mean 90 – 120 minutes of laser focus with two 5-minute breaks. Meanwhile, destructive obsession states you constantly need to skip sleep and social life.

Obsession doesn’t mean you ignore your family, health, or rest.

It means you care deeply. And you show up consistently for what matters most. Obsession is having intense focus during work periods while maintaining boundaries and other life priorities.

There are so many famous people who adopted this form of obsession and stayed at the top of their fields.

CASE STUDY #1: Serena Williams (Obsession with Excellence)

Serena won 23 Grand Slam titles, the most by any tennis player in the Open Era.

From age 3, Serena engaged in training drills for hours. Even during pregnancy, she trained and returned to win Grand Slams. Yet she openly prioritized motherhood and rest, setting boundaries around her career.

Obsession made Serena unstoppable.

CASE STUDY #2: Steve Jobs (Obsession with Simplicity & Design)

Steve made Apple one of the most iconic companies in history and transformed consumer tech forever.

He cared about every detail. From fonts, colors, to packaging. Yet, Steve took long walks to think, set clear boundaries with staff, and valued zen simplicity.

With obsession, Steve Jobs created insanely great products.

CASE STUDY #3: Marie Curie (Obsession with Scientific Discovery)

Marie won two Nobel Prizes in Physics and Chemistry for her work on radioactivity.

She worked with extraordinary dedication in her laboratory, often for 12+ hours daily in dangerous conditions. Marie still balanced this phase with her family life, raised two daughters and maintained close relationships.

Obsession made Marie Curie successful in science and family.

CASE STUDY #4: Jesus Christ (Obsession with His Mission)

Jesus was laser-focused on His divine mission: to seek and save the lost.

He worked from dawn to dusk healing, preaching, and mentoring his disciples. Yet Jesus regularly withdrew for prayer, and maintained close friendships. He also took time for meals and rest with his inner circle.

With obsession, Jesus changed the course of human history and built the most enduring spiritual movement.

Develop a Healthy Obsession

Now that you see how legendary figures harnessed obsession, let’s break down exactly how you can build the same momentum in your own life.

Five Steps to Obsession

To have obsession is to develop intense focus during your work periods while maintaining broader life priorities.

And once you become obsessed, you can reach the top of your field.

This leads to step one.

Step 1: A Compelling Mission

Obsession begins with Clarity.

Choose a goal that excites you deeply, emotionally charged and meaningful.

Jesus had the “Kingdom of God.” Musk has “multi-planetary civilization.”

Why obsess over something if it doesn’t truly matter?

Write down what you want and why it deeply matters.

An example can be: Having 100,000 Dollars in investments to achieve financial freedom and build stability.

Step 2: A Designed Routine

Obsession shows up in your calendar.

Block out specific, distraction-free time daily or weekly for deep work on your mission.

Serena Williams cut non-tennis activities during training seasons.

Also, build rituals. Make it as simple as possible.

Use the same time, same place and the same tools.

An example can be: Every Sunday evening, do a quick budget review to track income, expenses and progress towards your mission. Use 2 Hours every morning to develop your highest-leverage skill

Step 3: A Learning System

Obsession thrives on mastery.

Create a method for continuous skill development within your focused time.

Kobe Bryant watched hours of game footage. Chimamanda Adichie studied great writers.

This can be deliberate practice routines, regular feedback from mentors, tracking specific metrics. Or it can be studying the work of masters in your field.

Build a system that makes learning inevitable. Books, podcasts, mentorships, courses. Stack them around your goal.

Set a learning schedule. Don’t just work, get smarter.

An example can be: Listening to one podcast on personal finance during your commute and reading two chapters of a money book every week.

Step 4: A Daily Obsession Feed

What you feed grows. What you starve dies.

Read, listen, and think about your mission daily.

Jesus withdrew to pray daily. Steve Jobs walked to think clearly.

Surround yourself with content, people, and habits that reinforce your mission.

Your obsession must be visible. On your wall. In your phone. In your thoughts.

Create rituals that keep the fire burning, even when motivation fades.

An example can be: 10 minutes daily reading on making money and investing. Watch an inspiring video every morning to maintain an abundance mindset.

Step 5: A Feedback Loop

Obsession without direction becomes burnout.

Schedule regular periods (weekly and monthly) to step back and assess your progress on your mission

Marie Curie published findings early to stay driven. Jesus often did Q&A with His disciples to make sure they understood his teachings.

Ask yourself – What moved the needle in your mission? What didn’t?

Also track inputs, not just your outcomes (e.g. hours worked, pages written, user interviews).

Reflection is the compass that turns obsession into elevation.

An example can be: Reviewing your finances every Sunday night: How much you saved, what you spent on, and how it aligns with your freedom goal.

Five Steps to Obsession

Staying Obsessed Leads to Your Highest Self

Obsession isn’t a flaw. It’s a fast track to your highest self.

When you’re obsessed, you gain clarity about who you are and what truly matters. It forces you to grow and raise your standards. Obsession demands depth and that depth reveals strengths, talents, and power you didn’t know you had.

So, stay obsessed, not for perfection, but for transformation.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning. Please confirm your subscription via mail so the newsletter goes straight into your inbox.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

 

Kita Mindset: How to Stop Being Nervous

The Kita Mindset adopts the lifestyle and mantra of Kita Shinsuke.

A quiet and humble captain of a high school volleyball team. I found this character  when rewatching a sport series – Haikyuu.

“Someone’s always watching, Shin. The gods are everywhere. So someone’s always watching.”

Kita’s grandmother spoke the above statement to her grandson when he was a small child. She believed it was always good to always do the right things. Because “the gods” or someone was watching your waves

Her little boy believed his grandma’s words, transforming it to a lifestyle as he grew up.

Kita Mindset – Do it right and do it every day

This statement becomes a mantra for Kita Shinsuke.

Take care of your body. Tidy up after yourself. Practice gratitude. And you practice what you do.

You do it right and you do it every day.

This is how Kita adopted this mindset and became the captain of the second-best volleyball team in Japan.

Kita’s plays on the court were not polished but they were thorough. More importantly, his philosophy of doing it right made Kita to be a good leader. Kita brought out the best from his team members.

This leads me to talk about a new type of confidence.

Stop Being Nervous

The Kita Mindset – Stop Being Nervous

How to Stop Being Nervous

In a previous article, I shared how confidence helps people continuously stay at the top.

Kita Shinsuke developed his own type and always overflowed with confidence. This was not confidence that says that you are better than others. But confidence that ensures that you won’t mess up.

Kita brilliantly sums it up in a conversation with one of his players:

“I don’t understand why anyone ever gets nervous. You only get nervous because you try to be more powerful than you usually are, right? I mean, when you do day-to-day things like eat or take a shit, you don’t get nervous.”

The Kita mindset goes beyond volleyball. I believe it applies to life too.

Maximize your Kita Mindset with practice, practice, practice.

Practice well enough that you have reason to have faith in yourself.

An example would be a job interview.  From my experience and discussion with others, job interviews are easiest when you truly know what you are doing. As long as you practice a few answers to common questions, there is no need to be nervous.

If it’s something you can do during practice, there’s no reason to get nervous.

Practice and work on something. This can be work, a hobby or something you want. And if you do this, every day, you’ll feel…  great.

There is also something that Kita says that makes so much sense:

“Everything you do on a scale of one to ten. The Geniuses do from one to twenty. Other times, they do a more efficient ten. Or they try new things from A to Z.”

I think it is clearer once you realize this. So be humble enough to realize that the successful people simply do more each day towards progressing in their craft than you do. If you want more, you simply need to do more. And the results will simply follow.

When you have prepared for the big moments, there won’t be no need to be nervous.

Your everyday actions are what make you who you are. Results are just the side effects of what you do.

I’m basically built from my daily routine, and the results are nothing more than a byproduct. I don’t need any applause. I am just going to do what I need to do.

Do what works for you

Have the confidence to find out what works for you.

This is very important. If you feel what you are doing genuinely works for you, don’t worry about someone else thinking it wrong. When you develop confidence in what works for you, there is a feeling of peace.

You get things done so easily.

I like the way Kita also puts it after he becomes the captain of his team:

“The gods are always everywhere. That’s what Grandma would always tell me, but at some point, I stopped caring. It’s not like I’m doing this for the gods. Repetition, being methodical, and being thorough just feels nice.”

I hope you find the confidence to find out what works for you. When you find out (or if you have found it already), please do it right and do it every day.

The more thorough you are, the more pride you take it in… The more fun it becomes.