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Clear Thinking: How and Why Do People Make Bad Decisions?

Before you read further, two things must be established:

  1. How you spend our days is how you spend your life. Being Present is all you need to spend yours wisely.
  2. Life is full of challenges. The Solution is to know how to solve problems.

I already wrote comprehensive guides that address the above, but I realised there is still a key missing.

Why do people make bad decisions? Why do some people with the same information consistently perform better than others?

How can you reduce the likelihood of a negative outcome when your life is at stake and increase your chances of being correct?

How can we get better at reasoning?

Finding the Key to Maximising Everyday Situations when Solving Problems

I found a book that answers these questions.

In this book, it states that we need to take two actions to achieve the outcomes we want.

  1. Make room for reason in our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
  2. Consciously use this room to think clearly.

The book is by Shane Parrish (the owner of Farnam Street Blog), and its title is Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Results

This book provides a valuable guide for developing clear thinking skills. You will discover that you have an invincible edge once you have perfected this ability. Clear-headed decisions put you in better positions.

And success will only get better from there.

The Power of Clear Thinking in Ordinary Moments

Your future is determined by what happens in everyday situations.

We are trained to concentrate on significant choices rather than the times when we aren’t even aware that we are making a decision.

However, these everyday occurrences frequently have a greater impact on our success than the major choices. It can be challenging to appreciate this.

Most of the time, the circumstances speak for us.

Because these moments seem so unimportant at the time, we are unaware of it. But as days stretch into weeks and weeks into months, the accumulation of these moments determines how easy or difficult it is to achieve our objectives.

You are in a better or worse position to deal with the future at every moment.

In the end, how you position yourself determines how easy or difficult life will be. Instead of letting circumstances force you to make a decision, a good position enables you to think clearly.

The best people in the world rarely make decisions based on external pressures, which is one reason they consistently make wise choices.

Being in a good position at the beginning is the biggest help to decision-making.

If you can out-position someone, you can outperform them without being smarter than them. When in a good situation, anyone appears brilliant. And when in a bad one, even the smartest person appears foolish.

There are numerous ways to succeed when you are in a good position.

Clear Thinking

Clear Thinking is Key to Proper Positioning

This can be compared to playing Tetris. Playing well gives you a lot of choices for where to place the next piece. But when you’re playing badly, you wait for the right piece.

Many people fail to realise that everyday situations determine your position, and your position dictates your options.

Clear Thinking is the Key to Proper Positioning

You can control your situation rather than let it control you by developing your ability to think clearly.

It makes no difference what position you are in now. Whether you improve your position today is what counts. Every everyday situation presents a chance to either make the future simpler or more complex.

It all depends on how clearly you’re thinking.

The Enemies of Clear Thinking

If you don’t know when to use reason, it’s a waste.

For instance, this is a moment after something triggers you, but before you react. In that tiny window, you have two options:

  1. Pause and think rationally.
  2. React automatically.

The problem is that our automatic behaviour often makes things worse.

For example:

  • Someone criticises your work → you immediately get defensive and argue back
  • You see a scary news headline → You immediately share it and panic
  • Someone cuts you off → You assume malice on their part.

Therefore, the first step in improving our results is to teach ourselves to recognise the right decisions in the first place and to take a moment to clear our minds.

Because it entails resetting our ingrained biological defaults that have developed over many centuries, this training takes a lot of time and effort.

However, mastering the everyday events that shape the future is not only feasible but also essential to success and reaching your long-term goals.

Avoid the High Cost of Losing Control

Any situation is made worse by irrational reactions.

The time and effort you invest in correcting your unintentional mistakes come at the expense of achieving your desired results.

There is a big benefit to focusing more of your energy on reaching your goals rather than increasing your problems.

Because in the end, the person who develops clear thinking skills puts more of their total effort toward achieving their goals than the one who doesn’t.

However, if you are unable to control your automatic behaviours (or defaults), you have little chance of thinking clearly.

Recognising the Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

Many things work against rational thought.

This includes emotions like anger or fear, cognitive biases, social pressure, stress, or simply being in a hurry.

These “autopilots” try to skip that pause and push you straight into automatic reactions.

However, there are four major autopilots.

  1. The Emotional Autopilot: We react based on how we feel instead of what’s true.
  2. The Ego Autopilot: We get defensive when our ego or status feels attacked.
  3. The Social Autopilot: We go along with what everyone else is doing.
  4. The Comfort Autopilot: We stick with what’s familiar with and avoid change.

The “autopilot” metaphor captures how these responses happen automatically, without conscious control. It’s just like a plane on autopilot flies without the pilot actively steering.

Each represents a different way our minds switch to automatic mode instead of engaging our rational, deliberate thinking.

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

The Four Enemies of Clear Thinking

These autopilots frequently overlap with one another; there are no distinct boundaries between them. Unforced errors can be caused by either one alone, but when they combine, the situation rapidly deteriorates.

The best outcomes in the real world are obtained by those who master their autopilots. They simply know how to manage their ego and temper rather than allowing them to control them.

It’s not that they don’t have either. They constantly position themselves favourably for tomorrow because they can think clearly in everyday situations today.

The Emotional Autopilot

Even the most intelligent people can become foolish due to their emotions, which prevent them from thinking clearly.

For instance,

  • You can’t act in your own best interests when you’re angry at a competitor.
  • You also act impulsively and cut off your thought process out of fear of missing an opportunity.
  • Sometimes, you distance yourself from possible allies when you become outraged at a criticism and react defensively.

The list is endless.

Watch out if you find yourself in any of these situations! Most likely, the emotional autopilot is in charge.

The Ego Autopilot

We are prompted by the ego autopilot to defend and enhance our self-image at all costs.

Our ego tempts us into believing we are more than we actually are. It wants us to appear successful rather than being successful.

The ego causes us to prioritise preserving or enhancing our perceived position in a social hierarchy rather than expanding our knowledge or skill set.

When left unchecked, the ego autopilot has the potential to transform confidence into arrogance or even overconfidence.

For instance, after gaining some knowledge from the internet, we become arrogant. Everything appears to be simple. We consequently take chances that we might not be aware of.  But if we want the outcomes we want, we must fight this kind of undeserved confidence.

Undeserved confidence created by the ego autopilot simply rushes us to bad decisions and blinds us to risk.

How the Ego Autopilot Sometimes Affects Us at Work

Having others rely on us for every decision makes us feel significant and indispensable.

This is one reason why people find it difficult to empower others at work. Having them rely on us gives us a sense of strength and necessity. We feel more powerful the more people rely on us.

Nevertheless, this stance frequently backfires. We gradually become prisoners of the conditions we have created. Because when it takes more and more work to remain in one spot, we get closer to the limit of brute force. Things are bound to break eventually with this type of mindset.

The Ego Autopilot Chooses Feeling Right Over Being Right

We are compelled by the ego autopilot to prioritise feeling right over being right.

Nothing feels better than being correct, to the point where we will unwittingly rearrange the world into artificial hierarchies to preserve our beliefs and improve our self-esteem.

Most people live their lives believing that they are correct and that others who disagree with them are incorrect. We confuse the way the world is with how we would like it to be. We assume that the world operates the way we want it to.

Here are some ways to know if the Ego Autopilot is in charge:

  • You find yourself putting a lot of effort into how you are perceived.
  • Sometimes, you frequently feel like your pride is being damaged
  • You read a few articles on a subject and believe you are an expert,
  • At certain times, you constantly try to prove yourself correct and find it difficult to admit your mistakes
  • You find it difficult to say “I don’t know,”
  • You’re constantly jealous of others or feel like you never get the credit you deserve.

Be on guard! Your ego is in charge in these moments.

The Social Autopilot

The social autopilot encourages conformity.

It persuades us to adopt a viewpoint or conduct just because others do. The desire to fit in, the fear of being an outsider, the fear of being ridiculed, and the fear of disappointing others. These are all examples of what is meant by the term “social pressure.”

We are encouraged by the social autopilot to delegate our ideas, opinions, and results to other people.

It’s simple to justify doing something when everyone else is doing it. There’s no need to stand out, accept accountability for results, or think independently. Simply put your mind on autopilot and go to sleep.

The social autopilot also makes us show off our “good” opinions to get approval from others, especially when it costs us nothing to do so.

Disengage from the Social Autopilot to Stand Out

We fear rejection, mockery, and being treated like idiots because of the social autopilot.

Most people tend to accept the social norm because they believe that the risk of losing social capital outweighs any potential benefits of doing otherwise. Fear prevents us from taking chances and realizing our full potential.

Although there is occasionally wisdom in following the crowd, the big lie of the social autopilot is to mistake the group’s comfort for proof that your actions will produce better outcomes.

If you’re doing the same work as everyone, the only way to outperform is to put in more effort than anyone else.

Shamelessness is Necessary for Success.

You could perform worse if you try something different, but you could also completely alter the game. No doubt, you will achieve the same outcomes as everyone else if you follow their lead.

At the beginning, follow everyone else’s lead if you lack the knowledge necessary to make your own decisions. But you’ll need to think clearly if you want better-than-average results. Additionally, thinking clearly means thinking on your own.

It’s sometimes necessary to defy social norms and act in a way that differs from what others are doing. It’s going to get uncomfortable, so be prepared.

Be Different and Be Correct

The fact that other people agree or disagree with you makes you neither right nor wrong. You will be right if your facts and reasoning are correct.

– Warren Buffett

Doing something different isn’t enough to succeed; you also need to be correct.

You must think differently to act differently. You will stand out as a result, but change only occurs when you are prepared to think for yourself, do what no one else is doing, and take the chance of appearing foolish.

Once you also see that you’ve been following everyone else’s lead, and only because they are already doing it, then it’s time to try something different.

Here are some ways to know if the Social Autopilot is in charge:

  • You frequently worry about disappointing other people,
  • At certain times, you are afraid of being an outsider,
  • You are terrified of being mocked,
  • You find yourself trying to blend in with a crowd.

The Comfort Autopilot

The Comfort Autopilot pushes us to maintain the status quo.

It’s difficult to start something, but it’s also difficult to stop something. Even when change is beneficial, we still oppose it.

Objects never change if they’re left alone. Until something stops them, they don’t stop moving or begin on their own. Human behaviour and our natural tendency to oppose even positive changes can also be explained by this law of physics.

Once our minds are set in a direction, they tend to continue in that direction unless acted upon by some outside force. This cognitive inertia is why changing our minds is hard.

– Leonard Mlodinov

Because we know what to expect and it’s reassuring to have our expectations consistently met, inertia keeps us in unhealthy relationships and unfulfilling jobs.

The fact that maintaining the status quo takes virtually no work is one of the reasons we oppose change. This explains why we become complacent. Building momentum requires a lot of work but keeping it up requires much less.

The comfort autopilot takes advantage of our inclination to stick with tried-and-true methods or norms even when they are no longer the best. The fear that trying something new will result in worse outcomes is another reason why we often resist change.

When it comes to comfort, the “zone of average” is a dangerous place. It’s the moment when everything is functioning so smoothly that we don’t think any adjustments are necessary. We’re hoping for a miraculous improvement. They hardly ever do, of course.

Comfort Autopilot is What Causes You to Double Down when you are Wrong

We must adjust when conditions shift.

However, comfort narrows perspectives and drains the will to change our current course of action. It discourages experimentation and course correction and makes it more difficult to envision alternative approaches.

Additionally, comfort keeps us from doing hard things. It gets harder to do the difficult thing we know we should do the longer we put it off.

Avoiding conflict is comfortable and easy.

But the more time we spend avoiding the conflict, the more energy we use to keep avoiding it.

Avoiding a small but challenging conversation soon escalates into avoiding a big and seemingly insurmountable one. Our relationship eventually suffers because of the weight of what we avoid.

We continue to act in ways that don’t lead to our desired outcomes because of comfort. It mostly goes unnoticed in our subconscious until its effects become too difficult to reverse.

Here are some ways to know if the Comfort Autopilot is in charge:

  • You or your team are resisting change or sticking to a particular method just because it’s how you’ve always done it.
  • You find yourself refusing to share ideas in group settings.

Override to Clarity

We can’t turn off our autopilots, but we can reprogram them.

If we want better outcomes, achieve our goals, and find more joy and meaning in life, we need to learn how to override our autopilots when they’re steering us wrong.

The good news is that we can rewire the same biological tendencies that cause us to act without thinking to work in our favor.

Those who have the best environments tend to have the best autopilots.

Sometimes it’s pure luck, and other times it’s a part of a calculated plan. In any case, when everyone else is acting in a certain way, it’s simpler to follow suit.

Creating an intentional environment where your desired behavior becomes the default behavior is a better way to override your autopilots than using willpower.

Joining groups whose autopilots are set to your desired behaviors is an effective way to create an intentional environment.

Clear Thinking comes from Creating an Intentional Environment.

Clear Thinking comes from creating an Intentional Environment.

If you want to read more, join a book club. To run more, join a running club. If you want to exercise more, hire a trainer.

Your chosen environment, rather than your willpower alone, will help reprogram your autopilots toward better choices.

This is the foundation of thinking clearly to avoid making bad decisions.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning. (Please confirm your subscription on the first mail received so the newsletter does not go to junk.)
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

Obsession: 5 Steps to Peak Performance

Obsession is your most powerful lever for achievement, when it’s wielded with intention.

After interviewing ultra-successful individuals for decades, Joe Rogan observed a single trait in all of them. Everyone who is good at something is obsessed with it. They think and talk about that thing all the time. Obsession is the only way you can be great at something.

In simple terms, fleeting enthusiasm rarely moves the needle.

The Problem:

Most people are comfortable, making casual efforts which bring out casual results.

In a world full of distractions, they will always find plausible reasons to scroll, snooze, or switch tasks. This means they stop when things get inconvenient, not when the job is done. Even if they “finish” things, these tasks don’t matter.

Plenty of people work hard but few of them leave a mark.

Marc Andreessen has a famous quote on how to tackle this problem.

“The world is a very malleable place. If you know what you want, and you go for it with maximum energy and drive and passion, the world will often reconfigure itself around you much more quickly and easily than you would think.”

The Solution is Obsession

Become obsessed with whatever you are working on.

You risk being mediocre in a world that rewards obsession. Here is what happens you don’t have obsession:

  • Your goals take longer to achieve or never materialize because you are not obsessed to make consistent efforts.
  • If you’re not deeply engaged, your work will lack excellence or innovation.
  • Habits like distraction or avoidance become ingrained in your life over time.

Obsession

The key isn’t vague motivation but a clear, five-part framework you can put to work today:

  1. Define a compelling mission that pulls you forward
  2. Build routines and environments that lock in focus
  3. Establish a deliberate learning system to sharpen your skills
  4. Anticipate and overcome the pitfalls that derail most people and
  5. Measure your progress to keep the momentum alive.

Follow these steps, and you’ll turn raw enthusiasm into a structured, sustainable obsession that drives real results.

I will explain these steps in detail below, but you must first understand why obsession is important.

Why Obsession Matters

Firstly, Obsession doesn’t mean burnout.

There’s a difference between a healthy obsession and its destructive counterpart. Healthy obsession can mean 90 – 120 minutes of laser focus with two 5-minute breaks. Meanwhile, destructive obsession states you constantly need to skip sleep and social life.

Obsession doesn’t mean you ignore your family, health, or rest.

It means you care deeply. And you show up consistently for what matters most. Obsession is having intense focus during work periods while maintaining boundaries and other life priorities.

There are so many famous people who adopted this form of obsession and stayed at the top of their fields.

CASE STUDY #1: Serena Williams (Obsession with Excellence)

Serena won 23 Grand Slam titles, the most by any tennis player in the Open Era.

From age 3, Serena engaged in training drills for hours. Even during pregnancy, she trained and returned to win Grand Slams. Yet she openly prioritized motherhood and rest, setting boundaries around her career.

Obsession made Serena unstoppable.

CASE STUDY #2: Steve Jobs (Obsession with Simplicity & Design)

Steve made Apple one of the most iconic companies in history and transformed consumer tech forever.

He cared about every detail. From fonts, colors, to packaging. Yet, Steve took long walks to think, set clear boundaries with staff, and valued zen simplicity.

With obsession, Steve Jobs created insanely great products.

CASE STUDY #3: Marie Curie (Obsession with Scientific Discovery)

Marie won two Nobel Prizes in Physics and Chemistry for her work on radioactivity.

She worked with extraordinary dedication in her laboratory, often for 12+ hours daily in dangerous conditions. Marie still balanced this phase with her family life, raised two daughters and maintained close relationships.

Obsession made Marie Curie successful in science and family.

CASE STUDY #4: Jesus Christ (Obsession with His Mission)

Jesus was laser-focused on His divine mission: to seek and save the lost.

He worked from dawn to dusk healing, preaching, and mentoring his disciples. Yet Jesus regularly withdrew for prayer, and maintained close friendships. He also took time for meals and rest with his inner circle.

With obsession, Jesus changed the course of human history and built the most enduring spiritual movement.

Develop a Healthy Obsession

Now that you see how legendary figures harnessed obsession, let’s break down exactly how you can build the same momentum in your own life.

Five Steps to Obsession

To have obsession is to develop intense focus during your work periods while maintaining broader life priorities.

And once you become obsessed, you can reach the top of your field.

This leads to step one.

Step 1: A Compelling Mission

Obsession begins with Clarity.

Choose a goal that excites you deeply, emotionally charged and meaningful.

Jesus had the “Kingdom of God.” Musk has “multi-planetary civilization.”

Why obsess over something if it doesn’t truly matter?

Write down what you want and why it deeply matters.

An example can be: Having 100,000 Dollars in investments to achieve financial freedom and build stability.

Step 2: A Designed Routine

Obsession shows up in your calendar.

Block out specific, distraction-free time daily or weekly for deep work on your mission.

Serena Williams cut non-tennis activities during training seasons.

Also, build rituals. Make it as simple as possible.

Use the same time, same place and the same tools.

An example can be: Every Sunday evening, do a quick budget review to track income, expenses and progress towards your mission. Use 2 Hours every morning to develop your highest-leverage skill

Step 3: A Learning System

Obsession thrives on mastery.

Create a method for continuous skill development within your focused time.

Kobe Bryant watched hours of game footage. Chimamanda Adichie studied great writers.

This can be deliberate practice routines, regular feedback from mentors, tracking specific metrics. Or it can be studying the work of masters in your field.

Build a system that makes learning inevitable. Books, podcasts, mentorships, courses. Stack them around your goal.

Set a learning schedule. Don’t just work, get smarter.

An example can be: Listening to one podcast on personal finance during your commute and reading two chapters of a money book every week.

Step 4: A Daily Obsession Feed

What you feed grows. What you starve dies.

Read, listen, and think about your mission daily.

Jesus withdrew to pray daily. Steve Jobs walked to think clearly.

Surround yourself with content, people, and habits that reinforce your mission.

Your obsession must be visible. On your wall. In your phone. In your thoughts.

Create rituals that keep the fire burning, even when motivation fades.

An example can be: 10 minutes daily reading on making money and investing. Watch an inspiring video every morning to maintain an abundance mindset.

Step 5: A Feedback Loop

Obsession without direction becomes burnout.

Schedule regular periods (weekly and monthly) to step back and assess your progress on your mission

Marie Curie published findings early to stay driven. Jesus often did Q&A with His disciples to make sure they understood his teachings.

Ask yourself – What moved the needle in your mission? What didn’t?

Also track inputs, not just your outcomes (e.g. hours worked, pages written, user interviews).

Reflection is the compass that turns obsession into elevation.

An example can be: Reviewing your finances every Sunday night: How much you saved, what you spent on, and how it aligns with your freedom goal.

Five Steps to Obsession

Staying Obsessed Leads to Your Highest Self

Obsession isn’t a flaw. It’s a fast track to your highest self.

When you’re obsessed, you gain clarity about who you are and what truly matters. It forces you to grow and raise your standards. Obsession demands depth and that depth reveals strengths, talents, and power you didn’t know you had.

So, stay obsessed, not for perfection, but for transformation.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning. Please confirm your subscription via mail so the newsletter goes straight into your inbox.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

 

Locked In: 6 Reminders for how to Finish the Remaining Year

For someone to be locked in is an act or instance of becoming unalterable, unmovable, or rigid.

But this is opposite of what we do when it is the middle of the year. Whenever we get to July in any year, there is always the tendency to slow down. Or go with the flow. After all, what was not done from January to June might not happen in July or the rest of the year.

Please don’t think like this. The year is not over. We are in halftime. You still need to maintain momentum. Staying locked in is an important process in doing your best this year.

Stay Locked In

Stay Locked In

I love how Topsy-Kola Oyeneyin (TKO) puts it. This is from her newsletter.

If the first half was challenging or disappointing, that’s okay; it’s an opportunity to start afresh. If it was great, congratulations! Now is the time to build on it – don’t lose focus.  Either way, don’t fixate on the current score; you’re playing for the entire game, not just the half, and the game isn’t over yet.

This is like how football players get to rest for a few minutes after the first half and before the second half begins. In those minutes, their coach comes to encourage his players to ensure they get the victory they need.

It is July, and you are in the same position too. So, before you go back in full gear, here are 7 reminders on how to stay locked in for the rest of the year.

  1. Be consistent

Don’t abandon the goals and dreams you wrote at the beginning of this year.

Keep transforming your goal into simple regular habits by building rhythms and routines that work for you. Create and maintain checklists that break down your goals. Then take notes to measure your progress.

When you consistently work towards a goal, you are more likely to succeed.

2. Maintain Focus

This is what allows you to completely concentrate your entire being on a specific activity to achieve it.

When doing your daily tasks, be present in the moment. Treat everything you do as important. From big things to the little things.  The better you focus when you do the little things, the better you’ll do in big stages.

Stay focused and keep moving forward.

3. Build privately

This is what I call a magical life – build in secret, celebrate in public.

Living a magical life for the rest of the year is learning a secret recipe to success. Your life is hidden in plain sight yet accessible only to a chosen few. Don’t confuse noise for success. Take deliberate quiet actions, rather than announcing your intentions to the world.

This is a rare art form you must learn to adopt.

4. Increase your chances of getting lucky

Life is in cycles and seasons will always come back and go.

This means you will have several opportunities in life to experience breakthroughs. Before these breakthroughs arrive, work hard and learn to recognize and act on opportunities. This is how you create your own luck.

Because Luck happens when preparation meets opportunities.

5. Love People

85% of your financial success comes down to your personality and how you treat people.

Be friendly. Don’t criticize, complain or condemn. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Always show empathy and put yourself in people’s shoes when communicating with them.

Learn to love people, not the way your school mates, novels and movies taught you, but the way your creator tries to teach you everyday.

6. Keep leveling up

You are the main character in your life. Act like it. I love how this quote put it:

Become the greatest your bloodline has ever seen. Then pass it down.

The quest is simple. Improve yourself. Prioritize your health and goals. Take actions daily and build relationships.

That’s 6 already, but there’s a 7th culled from Ecclesiastes 12:13, “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.

The Fear of God is important… to ensure that while you plan on finishing this year strong, you are also looking at the bigger picture (your life) as well.

Stay Locked In, my friend. The world awaits your legacy.