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Obsession: 5 Steps to Peak Performance

Obsession is your most powerful lever for achievement, when it’s wielded with intention.

After interviewing ultra-successful individuals for decades, Joe Rogan observed a single trait in all of them. Everyone who is good at something is obsessed with it. They think and talk about that thing all the time. Obsession is the only way you can be great at something.

In simple terms, fleeting enthusiasm rarely moves the needle.

The Problem:

Most people are comfortable, making casual efforts which bring out casual results.

In a world full of distractions, they will always find plausible reasons to scroll, snooze, or switch tasks. This means they stop when things get inconvenient, not when the job is done. Even if they “finish” things, these tasks don’t matter.

Plenty of people work hard but few of them leave a mark.

Marc Andreessen has a famous quote on how to tackle this problem.

“The world is a very malleable place. If you know what you want, and you go for it with maximum energy and drive and passion, the world will often reconfigure itself around you much more quickly and easily than you would think.”

The Solution is Obsession

Become obsessed with whatever you are working on.

You risk being mediocre in a world that rewards obsession. Here is what happens you don’t have obsession:

  • Your goals take longer to achieve or never materialize because you are not obsessed to make consistent efforts.
  • If you’re not deeply engaged, your work will lack excellence or innovation.
  • Habits like distraction or avoidance become ingrained in your life over time.

Obsession

The key isn’t vague motivation but a clear, five-part framework you can put to work today:

  1. Define a compelling mission that pulls you forward
  2. Build routines and environments that lock in focus
  3. Establish a deliberate learning system to sharpen your skills
  4. Anticipate and overcome the pitfalls that derail most people and
  5. Measure your progress to keep the momentum alive.

Follow these steps, and you’ll turn raw enthusiasm into a structured, sustainable obsession that drives real results.

I will explain these steps in detail below, but you must first understand why obsession is important.

Why Obsession Matters

Firstly, Obsession doesn’t mean burnout.

There’s a difference between a healthy obsession and its destructive counterpart. Healthy obsession can mean 90 – 120 minutes of laser focus with two 5-minute breaks. Meanwhile, destructive obsession states you constantly need to skip sleep and social life.

Obsession doesn’t mean you ignore your family, health, or rest.

It means you care deeply. And you show up consistently for what matters most. Obsession is having intense focus during work periods while maintaining boundaries and other life priorities.

There are so many famous people who adopted this form of obsession and stayed at the top of their fields.

CASE STUDY #1: Serena Williams (Obsession with Excellence)

Serena won 23 Grand Slam titles, the most by any tennis player in the Open Era.

From age 3, Serena engaged in training drills for hours. Even during pregnancy, she trained and returned to win Grand Slams. Yet she openly prioritized motherhood and rest, setting boundaries around her career.

Obsession made Serena unstoppable.

CASE STUDY #2: Steve Jobs (Obsession with Simplicity & Design)

Steve made Apple one of the most iconic companies in history and transformed consumer tech forever.

He cared about every detail. From fonts, colors, to packaging. Yet, Steve took long walks to think, set clear boundaries with staff, and valued zen simplicity.

With obsession, Steve Jobs created insanely great products.

CASE STUDY #3: Marie Curie (Obsession with Scientific Discovery)

Marie won two Nobel Prizes in Physics and Chemistry for her work on radioactivity.

She worked with extraordinary dedication in her laboratory, often for 12+ hours daily in dangerous conditions. Marie still balanced this phase with her family life, raised two daughters and maintained close relationships.

Obsession made Marie Curie successful in science and family.

CASE STUDY #4: Jesus Christ (Obsession with His Mission)

Jesus was laser-focused on His divine mission: to seek and save the lost.

He worked from dawn to dusk healing, preaching, and mentoring his disciples. Yet Jesus regularly withdrew for prayer, and maintained close friendships. He also took time for meals and rest with his inner circle.

With obsession, Jesus changed the course of human history and built the most enduring spiritual movement.

Develop a Healthy Obsession

Now that you see how legendary figures harnessed obsession, let’s break down exactly how you can build the same momentum in your own life.

Five Steps to Obsession

To have obsession is to develop intense focus during your work periods while maintaining broader life priorities.

And once you become obsessed, you can reach the top of your field.

This leads to step one.

Step 1: A Compelling Mission

Obsession begins with Clarity.

Choose a goal that excites you deeply, emotionally charged and meaningful.

Jesus had the “Kingdom of God.” Musk has “multi-planetary civilization.”

Why obsess over something if it doesn’t truly matter?

Write down what you want and why it deeply matters.

An example can be: Having 100,000 Dollars in investments to achieve financial freedom and build stability.

Step 2: A Designed Routine

Obsession shows up in your calendar.

Block out specific, distraction-free time daily or weekly for deep work on your mission.

Serena Williams cut non-tennis activities during training seasons.

Also, build rituals. Make it as simple as possible.

Use the same time, same place and the same tools.

An example can be: Every Sunday evening, do a quick budget review to track income, expenses and progress towards your mission. Use 2 Hours every morning to develop your highest-leverage skill

Step 3: A Learning System

Obsession thrives on mastery.

Create a method for continuous skill development within your focused time.

Kobe Bryant watched hours of game footage. Chimamanda Adichie studied great writers.

This can be deliberate practice routines, regular feedback from mentors, tracking specific metrics. Or it can be studying the work of masters in your field.

Build a system that makes learning inevitable. Books, podcasts, mentorships, courses. Stack them around your goal.

Set a learning schedule. Don’t just work, get smarter.

An example can be: Listening to one podcast on personal finance during your commute and reading two chapters of a money book every week.

Step 4: A Daily Obsession Feed

What you feed grows. What you starve dies.

Read, listen, and think about your mission daily.

Jesus withdrew to pray daily. Steve Jobs walked to think clearly.

Surround yourself with content, people, and habits that reinforce your mission.

Your obsession must be visible. On your wall. In your phone. In your thoughts.

Create rituals that keep the fire burning, even when motivation fades.

An example can be: 10 minutes daily reading on making money and investing. Watch an inspiring video every morning to maintain an abundance mindset.

Step 5: A Feedback Loop

Obsession without direction becomes burnout.

Schedule regular periods (weekly and monthly) to step back and assess your progress on your mission

Marie Curie published findings early to stay driven. Jesus often did Q&A with His disciples to make sure they understood his teachings.

Ask yourself – What moved the needle in your mission? What didn’t?

Also track inputs, not just your outcomes (e.g. hours worked, pages written, user interviews).

Reflection is the compass that turns obsession into elevation.

An example can be: Reviewing your finances every Sunday night: How much you saved, what you spent on, and how it aligns with your freedom goal.

Five Steps to Obsession

Staying Obsessed Leads to Your Highest Self

Obsession isn’t a flaw. It’s a fast track to your highest self.

When you’re obsessed, you gain clarity about who you are and what truly matters. It forces you to grow and raise your standards. Obsession demands depth and that depth reveals strengths, talents, and power you didn’t know you had.

So, stay obsessed, not for perfection, but for transformation.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning. Please confirm your subscription via mail so the newsletter goes straight into your inbox.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

 

Father Figure: 5 Traits That Define True Fatherhood

The diaries of the family of a famous politician from the 18th Century were discovered.

In one of the entries, a father and his son went on a fishing trip and wrote their experience in their diaries.

For that day’s entry, the father wrote: “Went fishing with my son, a day wasted.”

For that same day’s entry, the son wrote: “Went fishing with my father today, the most glorious day of my life.”

This striking contrast reveals a profound truth.

The Role of a Father extends far beyond Biology.

Becoming a father is often grounded in a biological role. He is the male who contributes genetic material (sperm) that combines with an egg to create children.

But as time goes on, the role of fatherhood then extends to adoptive, or social responsibility for raising and caring for a child.

This means there are different types of fathers.

Biological fathers, adoptive fathers, stepfathers, foster fathers, spiritual fathers. At the heart of these roles lies the profound original model: The Father Figure.

Becoming, or having, a father figure… This is where the real work is.

And I will explain why.

Who is a Father Figure?

A Father Figure represent the original image of fatherhood that transcends biological connection.

They embody the fundamental qualities and roles that define true paternal guidance. Father figures protect and provide not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically.

They embody mentorship, helping younger ones navigate life’s complexities through direct instruction and modelling.

Most importantly, a Father Figure reveals fatherhood as a profound responsibility rather than merely a genetic relationship.

There is much to learn from these figures and how to identify them in your life.

Speaking of learning, one of the modern era’s most insightful singer-songwriters, Jon Bellion, recently released an album titled ‘Father Figure.’ This album is a promise to his sons, echoing the devotion shown by those who shaped him.

Throughout this article, I’ll use some of his powerful lyrics to illustrate the key traits of a true Father Figure.

Stay with me on this.

The Five Traits of a Father Figure

Whether examining earthly relationships or divine guidance, a father figure consistently exhibits five fundamental traits:

Provision. Presence. Patience. Perseverance. Protection.

Let’s break it down.

  1. Provision

If you’re in his way, then I’m on my way, oh

Don’t shoot that boy down, He stays in the clouds (Hе does)

– Jon Bellion, DON’T SHOOT.

A father figure provides before you even know what you need.

He works long hours, skips comforts, and shows up consistently. Your earthly father figures may not have everything, but they give everything they have to those in their care. They know that provision goes beyond money and things – they also give time, attention, and love.

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19

God, our heavenly Father, provides even more. He gives us breath, purpose, and grace every day. Divine provision shows us that God gives us everything we need, even when we don’t deserve it.

With a Father Figure, you feel safe because someone considers your needs before you even voice them.

  1. Presence

Lord, it’s tough to hold my son and be here in the moment.

I need to keep him safe, tell me which direction this world is going…

He said a present father is worth way more than a perfect dad

– Jon Bellion, MY BOY

Being there means more than just showing up in the same room.

Earthly fathers who truly understand presence put down their phones, look into their children’s eyes, and listen. They show up because they know their attention is a gift.

A Father Figure create memories by simply being fully there in each moment.

“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” – Zephaniah 3:17

God’s presence is even closer and surpasses this earthly model. He never leaves, even when the world feels quiet. Our Heavenly Father reminds us we are never truly alone, even in our darkest times.

Because some of the best love is felt, not spoken.

  1. Patience

So can we decide
That we’ll give this one more try?
And we’ll get it right, yeah, we’ll get it right this time

– Jon Bellion, GET IT RIGHT

A father is patient even when you mess up again and again.

He doesn’t yell when you drop the ball; instead, he helps you pick it back up. Earthly fathers try to guide gently. They know growth takes time.

“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:9

God exemplifies perfect patience. He waits for us when we drift and welcomes us back with open arms. His patience with us shows perfect love that never gives up, even when we mess up again and again.

Real love doesn’t give up when progress is slow.

  1. Perseverance

If the higher I fly is the further I fall

Then why love anything at all?

– Jon Bellion, WHY

A father figure never gives up, no matter how hard things get.

On earth, father figures continue to love, guide, and support even when it feels like nothing is working. These fathers understand that raising children is a marathon, not a sprint. They stay committed for the long journey.

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” – Hebrews 10:23

God’s love never stops chasing us, even when we run the other way. His perseverance teaches us that His love endures through every season of our lives.

The strength of a Father Figure becomes most evident when he refuses to walk away.

  1. Protection

If less of me will give you more, I’m strangling my pride

Light of my life, lay down my life

– Jon Bellion, RICH AND BROKE

A father’s ultimate responsibility is to keep his children safe from harm.

Earthly fathers protect their kids from physical danger, but they also guard their hearts and minds from things that could hurt them. They create safe homes where children can grow without fear. Good fathers build walls around what’s harmful while opening doors to what’s good and right.

A Father Figure protects with his hands, hearts, and hard choices.

“The Lord is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” – Psalm 91:2

God protects your soul. He covers us in battles we can’t even see. Divine protection reminds us that we have a heavenly Father who watches over us every moment.

Because love instinctively guards the ones it treasures.

How Father Figures Create Lasting Impact

The fishing trip anecdote that opened this email discussion illustrates the powerful difference perspective makes in father-child relationships.

While one saw a wasted day, the other experienced life’s greatest joy.

This contrast must remind you that becoming or recognising a Father Figure (whether in yourself or others) requires intentional commitment to these five essential traits.

When someone embodies the role of Father Figure, they unlock the ability to shape destinies and build confidence in those they guide.

Through provision, presence, patience, perseverance, and protection, these remarkable individuals create ripple effects that strengthen families, communities, and future generations.

Who in your life embodies these qualities? Take a moment to appreciate them.

And consider how you might cultivate these ‘Father Figure’ traits in your interactions.

Cheers.

Zamai.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning. Please confirm your subscription via mail so the newsletter goes straight into your inbox.
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. Available on Amazon.
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.

Physical Wealth: Invest in your Health Today

Physical Wealth means working hard to keep your body healthy and strong.

When you take care of your body, it helps you grow in other ways too. It also shows you that you have the power to pursue and make good choices in your life.

This pursuit is grounded in consistent daily actions related to movement, nutrition, and recovery. It’s investing in your present self to become your highest self.

Physical Wealth

Your body is the only house you’ll ever truly inhabit.

So, treating it with care through consistent investment and maintenance is crucial for it to last and serve you well for many years.

P.S.: This is still a review from Sahil’s book – 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

The Three Pillars of Physical Wealth

Achieving physical wealth doesn’t require complex routines; rather, it requires grounding yourself in three core pillars: Movement, nutrition, and recovery.

Achieving these pillars unlocks “easy mode” in the game of life, allowing you to build a vital present and prepare for a better future.

The First Pillar is Movement.

This involves daily body movement through a combination of cardiovascular exercise and resistance training, along with activities to promote stability and flexibility.

Exercise is the most potent tool for enhancing your health span and preventing cognitive and physical decline.

Within movement, there are three primary subcategories:

  1. Cardiovascular Training: Strengthens the heart and blood vessels. It includes:
      • Aerobic: Low intensity (like hiking, biking, jogging) using oxygen to sustain activity, ideal for beginners and often referred to as zone 2 training, where you can hold a conversation.
      • Anaerobic: High intensity, using stored sugars for energy (like sprints, heavy lifting), typically involving short bursts with recovery periods, sometimes referred to as zone 5 training. Anaerobic training is more uncomfortable and recommended after establishing consistency in aerobic activities.
    1. Strength: Use resistance (weights, bands) to build muscle, power, and strength. This is essential for a healthy and enjoyable life.
    2. Stability and Flexibility: Stability is the cornerstone for delivering strength and performance safely and efficiently.

There are three levels for the Movement pillar:

  1. Level 1: Move your body for at least thirty minutes daily.
  2. Level 2: Move your body for at least thirty minutes daily, plus two to three specific cardiovascular training sessions and one to two resistance-training sessions per week.
  3. Level 3: Move your body for at least thirty minutes per day, plus three or more cardiovascular training sessions per week (at least 120 minutes of aerobic and 20 minutes of anaerobic training) and at least three resistance-training sessions weekly incorporating stability and flexibility training.

The Second Pillar is Nutrition

Focus on consuming primarily whole, unprocessed foods to meet major nutrient needs and supplementing as necessary for micronutrients.

Building this pillar doesn’t require extreme regimens but is based on four core principles:

  1. Overall Caloric Intake: Determines body weight and muscle development. Caloric surplus leads to weight gain, deficit to weight loss, and balance to weight stability.
  2. Macronutrients: The major nutrients your body needs are:

Proteins: Building blocks for muscle growth and tissue repair. Prioritise protein intake and aim for a solid source at every meal. Also, target around 0.8 grams per pound of body weight.

Carbohydrates: A primary energy source.

Fats: Energy source supporting cell growth and organ health.

More importantly, focus on the cleanliness of your macronutrient sources. Prioritise whole, unprocessed foods with minimal ingredients.

  1. Micronutrients: Essential vitamins and minerals needed in smaller quantities for healthy body functioning and disease prevention. These must be consumed through diet or supplements.
  2. Hydration: Despite our need for water, many are chronically dehydrated.

The recommended baseline is thirteen cups per day for men and nine cups for women, which should be increased based on activity levels.

There are three levels for the Nutrition pillar:

  1. Level 1: Eat whole, unprocessed foods 80 percent of the time (roughly seventeen out of twenty-one meals per week, assuming three meals per day).
  2. Level 2: Eat whole, unprocessed foods 90 percent of the time. Prioritise daily protein intake (around 0.8 grams per pound of body weight) and overall macronutrient consumption and ensure adequate fluid intake.
  3. Level 3: Eat whole, unprocessed foods 95 percent of the time. Prioritise daily protein intake and overall macronutrient consumption, supplement with key micronutrients as needed for a well-rounded profile and get the recommended amounts of fluid.

The Third Pillar of Physical Wealth is Recovery

Prioritise high-quality, consistent sleep and other recovery-promoting activities.

Sleep is called “nature’s miracle drug” and is often underappreciated. Core strategies for high-quality sleep include:

Amount: Seven to eight hours per night, with a consistent schedule for sleep and wake times.

Environment: A dark, quiet, and cool sleep setting.

Routine: A relaxing evening routine to promote the release of sleep signals. Viewing morning sunlight (5-10 minutes on clear days, 15-20 minutes on overcast days) and low-angle afternoon sunlight helps regulate cortisol and the circadian rhythm.

The three levels for the Recovery pillar are:

  1. Level 1: Seven to eight hours of sleep per night.
  2. Level 2: Seven to eight hours of sleep in an optimised sleep environment (dark, cool, quiet).
  3. Level 3: Seven to eight hours of sleep in an optimised sleep environment, with a fixed sleeping time window and morning/afternoon sunlight exposure to regulate circadian rhythm and improve sleep quality.

Start at Level 1 for each pillar as a baseline for a healthy life in the present and future, then define your goals and work your way up through the levels.

The Three Pillars of Phyiscal Wealth

Now, here are six proven systems for building Physical Wealth:

1. The Physical Wealth Thirty-Day Challenge

This is a jump-start through disciplined daily practices for one month, covering Movement, Nutrition, and Recovery.

It offers three levels (Bronze, Silver, Gold) with increasing intensity.  Track your progress and find an accountability partner.

Bronze: Move 30 minutes daily, eat whole unprocessed foods 80% of the time, sleep 7 hours nightly.

Silver: Execute a weekday morning routine, move 45 minutes daily, eat whole unprocessed foods 90% of the time, increase protein intake (0.8g/lb), sleep 7-8 hours nightly with fixed weekday times.

Gold: Drink 16 oz water upon waking, execute a weekday morning routine, move 60 minutes daily (including 3+ strength sessions/week), eat whole unprocessed foods 95% of the time, hit full macronutrient targets, sleep 8 hours nightly with fixed times, complete one additional recovery method daily.

2. A Science-Backed Morning Routine

Focus on implementing these principles in the first hour of your day for increased energy, focus, and productivity.

The five core principles are:

  1. Wake up: Maintain a consistent wake time (weekdays and weekends, within 30-60 minutes of weekday time).
  2. Hydrate: Drink sixteen ounces of water upon rising (consider adding lemon, electrolytes, or greens powder).
  3. Move: Engage in 30-60 minutes of daily activity (strength, mobility, stretches, or whatever you enjoy).
  4. Get Outside: Expose yourself to natural morning light (ideally during movement) for increased focus, mood improvement, and vitamin D.
  5. Focus: Prioritise and work on your most important tasks for the day.

3. The Movement Plan: A Level 3 Training Plan That Works

This is a template for a training week once you reach Level 3 in movement.

It involves three full-body strength workouts, two sixty-minute aerobic cardio workouts, and one twenty-minute anaerobic cardio workout per week, with a day of rest/light recovery.

The Movement Plan

4. How to Become a Pro Sleeper: Eight Rules for Sleep

Here are basic, science-backed rules for optimal sleep performance:

  1. Keep a regular sleep schedule.
  2. View morning sunlight.
  3. Control your sleep environment (cool, dark).
  4. Avoid food and excessive liquids right before bed.
  5. Avoid caffeine in the afternoons (within eight hours of bedtime).
  6. Cut back on alcohol.
  7. Create a wind-down routine (dim lights, avoid work devices, relax).
  8. Avoid screens before bed (especially in the sleep environment).

5. How to Promote Calm: Science-Backed Breathing Protocols:

Use breathing techniques to manage stress and promote the low-stress recovery state.

An example is the Yerkes-Dodson Law (optimal stress for performance, low stress for recovery) which provides three techniques:

  1. The 4-7-8 Method: Breathing in for 4 seconds, holding for 7, exhaling for 8 (repeat 2-3 times), particularly effective for falling asleep.
  2. The Lion’s Breath: Inhale deeply, stick your tongue out, exhale forcefully with a “Ha!” sound (repeat 2-3 times).
  3. The Physiological Sigh: Two quick inhales through the nose followed by a long exhale through the mouth (repeat 2-3 times), effective for immediate stress reduction.

Stress is a necessary part of life, and learning to harness it to operate in optimal stress for important tasks and low stress for recovery is key to performing at your best.

6. The Common-Sense Diet: Principles and Foods

Here’s a set of eight simple principles for high-quality nutrition:

    1. Eat well most of the time (80-90%), saving indulgences for loved foods.
    2. Prioritise single-ingredient, whole, unprocessed foods.
    3. Stop eating before you’re full (aim for 80% satiety).
    4. Avoid foods that make you feel and perform poorly.
    5. Drink plenty of water, but limit alcohol.
    6. Include whole vegetables, fruits, or both at every meal.
    7. Find a meal frequency that suits your life and avoid dogmatic approaches.
    8. Don’t let your diet prevent you from enjoying life experiences.

The Common Sense Diet

What It Truly Means to Build Physical Wealth

Ultimately, building Physical Wealth is about making investments today that will pay dividends for the rest of your life.

You are Player 1 in your Physical Wealth video game, starting at Level 1 and progressing as you define your goals. Avoiding anti-goals like neglecting fitness, daily movement, and sleep deprivation is crucial.

By implementing these principles and systems outlined, you can build a life of robust Physical Wealth, allowing you to live vitally in the present and prepare for a healthier and more fulfilling future, perhaps even dancing at your eightieth birthday party.

I hope this helps.

Godspeed and Cheers.

Zamai.

Whenever you’re ready, there are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. Become Your Highest Self: Every Sunday, I share actionable tips from successful people on how to master money, mindset and meaning. (Please confirm your subscription via mail so the newsletter goes straight into your inbox)
  2. Fast Track Book: Stay relevant, master new skills, and be ready for whatever life throws at you.  This is the complete roadmap to speed up your learning process and expand the opportunities available to you. (Available on Amazon)
  3. Personal Wealth Maximizer: Take control of your finances and build financial freedom. The Personal Wealth Maximizer give you the exact knowledge and tools to break free from money struggles and build financial confidence.