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Blue Lock Framework: Dying to Self to Become Your Best

The Blue Lock Framework is a ruthless yet brilliant approach to understanding what it takes to improve continually.

Long before this framework existed, Marcus Aurelius made a statement in the second century while he was serving as emperor of the Roman Empire.

Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now, take what’s left and live it properly.

Nearly 1900 years later, the above quote remains extremely valuable and applicable. I will explain how and why with the framework mentioned earlier.

The Blue Lock Framework is a concept from a modern anime titled Blue Lock.

Blue Lock describes a brutal football facility where 300 strikers are locked away from the world, forced to compete in a ruthless system designed to create Japan’s ultimate striker.

The system does this through elimination, ego, and evolution.

At the heart of the story is Yoichi Isagi. He is a determined but unpolished player who learns to harness his unique strengths to rise above his rivals.

The good news is that Isagi transformed from an average player into a monster striker by destroying his old identity and rebuilding himself from scratch.

Blue Lock isn’t just a football anime.

It’s about killing everything that holds you back.

Timidity, people-pleasing, fear of failure, self-doubt. Let it all go. Just like Yoichi Isagi, the journey is about continually growing and evolving into a more focused, self-aware, and mature version of yourself.

The Blue Lock framework isn’t just for football; it’s a blueprint for dominating your field, whatever it may be.

Like Yoichi Isagi, you entered this world with dreams and ambitions, but somewhere along the way, you got comfortable. You might have settled for “good enough.” You started playing it safe.

By adopting the Blue Lock framework, you can “die to self” to become your best self.

And here is how the concept of Blue Lock can apply to you in real life.

1. Recognise that You are a ‘Striker’

The modern dilemma is that most people live as ‘passers’.

They wait for opportunities, rely on others, and avoid the spotlight. But the world rewards ‘strikers.’ It compensates those who take the shot, demand the ball, and refuse to blend in.

You are a ‘striker’ in your own life.

In Blue Lock, strikers are selfish by design. They don’t wait for permission. Strikers seize their moment.

You must adopt the same mindset.

Your dreams, your goals, your success. They depend on you taking action.

No one will hand you the ball. You must demand it.

2. Embrace your ‘Ego’

You can’t be selfless without first being selfish.

In the anime series, Jinpachi Ego is the general manager of the Blue Lock project. He strongly believes only his methods can lead to Japan’s victory in the World Cup. Most importantly, Jinpachi tells the players that becoming the best striker in the world requires one thing: EGO.

With the Blue Lock framework, ego is not arrogance.

It is a burning desire to become number one. Ego is the unshakable belief that you are the one who will make the difference. In Blue Lock, Isagi’s transformation began when he understood what ego truly meant.

Isagi stopped doubting himself. He started trusting his instincts. This is your call to do the same.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be – Lao Tzu

Do you want to grow in your craft, improve your relationships, or build wealth?

First, you must accept that you are the problem. And you are also the solution. You must desire growth enough to change.

The version of you that seeks approval or hides behind comfort must die for the competent, courageous version to rise.

Most people fail not because they lack potential. They fail because they lack ego-driven ambition. Most people don’t possess the kind of hunger that dares to say, I want to be the best.

You must embrace your Ego. Everything else flows from there.

3. Enter the ‘Blue Lock’

Once you recognise you are a ‘striker’ and embrace your ‘ego’, you must step inside the pressure chamber.

Blue Lock was an isolated facility where strikers were cut off from the outside world. Their phones were confiscated and their old lives erased. This extreme environment forced them to focus solely on their evolution.

They had to confront who they were when stripped of all comfort and familiarity.

What is your Blue Lock?

Is it waking up at 5 a.m. to build that business? What about saying no to short-term pleasure so you can build long-term greatness? Is it dropping toxic friendships, avoiding mindless scrolling, or daring to build in public?

Everyone who has achieved something real had to enter their own version of Blue Lock.

You’ll face discomfort, isolation, and rejection. But that is where growth lives. Don’t avoid it.

This is how you commit to the process of dying to your old self.

Enter it. Stay in it. Emerge different.

4. Kill Your Old Self

In Blue Lock, Yoichi Isagi’s greatest enemy wasn’t other players.

It was himself. His indecision. His fear and his passivity.

Eventually, Isagi’s breakthrough came when he realised his “team-first” mentality was a weakness disguised as a virtue. He had to kill the people-pleaser, the one who passed instead of shooting. Isagi ‘killed’ the version of himself who prioritised being liked over being effective.

The secret of life is to “die before you die” — and find that there is no death. – Eckhart Tolle

This is how real transformation happens – through the death of who you used to be.

In Blue Lock, every match is an elimination round. You either evolve or you’re gone. And that’s how life is, too.

Every level of growth demands a version of you to die.

You can’t be a confident entrepreneur and still carry the insecurity of your student days. If you are still being emotionally unavailable, you can’t be a good partner. You can’t be financially free while living with a poverty mindset.

Stop protecting the version of yourself that got you where you are.

The Benefit of the Blue Lock Framework

That person was perfect for getting you this far, but they’ll be the anchor that keeps you from going further. Identify the comfortable habits, the safe choices and the people-pleasing tendencies. Once identified, all these need to die.

You must consciously kill the older version of yourself.

That might mean letting go of beliefs, habits, and identities. And even people. The death of your old self is the birth of your true self.

If you think this is not true, ask Jesus Christ.

5. Compete Ruthlessly (Against Yourself)

The Blue Lock framework is not about being better than others.

It’s about being better than your previous self. Every single day. Isagi didn’t win because he had raw talent.

Isagi Yoichi won because he was obsessed with evolving.

He analysed every loss. Studied every opponent. Broke down his strengths and weaknesses.

That’s what made him dangerous.

You, too, must develop that inner hunger to dominate your past. Yesterday’s wins mean nothing if you’ve become complacent today. Audit your habits, track your goals and compete with your own performance.

Compete ruthlessly against yourself.

6. Develop Your ‘Weapon’

Every successful player in Blue Lock discovered their unique weapon.

For Isagi, it was spatial awareness. Speed was Chigiri Hyoma’s unique weapon. For Bachira, it was dribbling.

What is your weapon?

Without a weapon, you’re just another average person trying hard. With a weapon, you become irreplaceable. In real life, your weapon could be your voice, your storytelling, your coding skills, your leadership, or your grit.

Discover it. Refine it. Own it.

You don’t need to be good at everything.

You just need to be elite at one thing and valuable in a few others. Stop trying to fix all your weaknesses. Instead, identify your one natural advantage and develop it to an extreme level.

What’s the thing you do that makes others say, “I wish I could do that”?

What feels effortless to you but difficult for others? That’s your weapon. Now sharpen it until it’s lethal.

You don’t rise by copying.

You rise by mastering what’s uniquely yours. Your evolution begins the moment you realise your edge. Then you go all in.

7. Adapt or Perish

In the anime, the Blue Lock system constantly rearranged teams and rankings.

The rules always changed. New systems, new teammates, new challenges. Players who couldn’t adapt were eliminated.

Why? To prevent comfort and encourage adaptability.

For instance, every time Isagi got comfortable, something shook him. He had to adapt or perish. Isagi’s greatest strength wasn’t any physical ability – it was his capacity to evolve rapidly.

When the game changed, he changed with it. When his weapon became predictable, he developed new ones. Isagi became a genius of adaptability.

Adaptability is the ultimate survival skill.

You must design your life the same way. Comfort kills ambition. If your daily routine feels too easy, you’re not growing.

Set goals that scare you.

Chase dreams that stretch you. Join rooms where you feel like an underdog. Have systems ready for everything.

Stay curious about new methods, tools, and approaches. Be ready to abandon what you know when it stops working.

Your ability to reinvent yourself is your greatest asset.

8. Collaborate to Dominate

Great teammates share your vision and push you to be better.

In the later episodes of Blue Lock, players begin to realise something profound. You don’t become great alone. Even the world’s best striker needs team dynamics to shine.

But here’s the twist: you must first become complete alone.

In Blue Lock, rivals aren’t enemies. They’re catalysts. Bachira, Nagi, and Rin were rivals who pushed Isagi to evolve.

Work on yourself until you’re not a burden to any team.

Then find your tribe. Form alliances. With the Blue Lock framework, you collaborate not from lack, but from strength.

Find people who are better than you.

Study them. Compete with them. Let them destroy your ego so you can rebuild it stronger.

Learn to see every person who outperforms you as a gift.

Because they’re showing you your next level. This is how you turn competition into cooperation. This is how legends are made.

Develop Your Blue Lock Framework

To embrace the Blue Lock Life, you must:

  • Recognise you are a ‘Striker’ – Take charge of your destiny.
  • Embrace Your ‘Ego’ – Choose to want more for your life.
  • Enter the Blue Lock – Commit to a space where you prioritise purpose and growth.
  • Kill your Old Self – Let go of limiting beliefs and identities.
  • Compete Ruthlessly (against yourself) – Level up daily against your former self.
  • Develop Your Weapon – Know your unique skill. Max it out.
  • Adapt or Perish – Chase pressure. Kill complacency.
  • Collaborate to Dominate – Build with others from a place of power.

By following these eight principles, you can adopt a Blue Lock framework that focuses on destroying your limitations, maximising your unique strengths, and continuously evolving to reach levels you never thought possible.

The Blue Lock framework isn’t about being the best when compared to others. It’s about being the best version of yourself.

And remember this:
“To find your highest self, you must first destroy who you were told to be.”

Become your own ultimate striker in the game of life.

The Blue Framework

 

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Father Figure: 5 Traits That Define True Fatherhood

The diaries of the family of a famous politician from the 18th Century were discovered.

In one of the entries, a father and his son went on a fishing trip and wrote their experience in their diaries.

For that day’s entry, the father wrote: “Went fishing with my son, a day wasted.”

For that same day’s entry, the son wrote: “Went fishing with my father today, the most glorious day of my life.”

This striking contrast reveals a profound truth.

The Role of a Father extends far beyond Biology.

Becoming a father is often grounded in a biological role. He is the male who contributes genetic material (sperm) that combines with an egg to create children.

But as time goes on, the role of fatherhood then extends to adoptive, or social responsibility for raising and caring for a child.

This means there are different types of fathers.

Biological fathers, adoptive fathers, stepfathers, foster fathers, spiritual fathers. At the heart of these roles lies the profound original model: The Father Figure.

Becoming, or having, a father figure… This is where the real work is.

And I will explain why.

Who is a Father Figure?

A Father Figure represent the original image of fatherhood that transcends biological connection.

They embody the fundamental qualities and roles that define true paternal guidance. Father figures protect and provide not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically.

They embody mentorship, helping younger ones navigate life’s complexities through direct instruction and modelling.

Most importantly, a Father Figure reveals fatherhood as a profound responsibility rather than merely a genetic relationship.

There is much to learn from these figures and how to identify them in your life.

Speaking of learning, one of the modern era’s most insightful singer-songwriters, Jon Bellion, recently released an album titled ‘Father Figure.’ This album is a promise to his sons, echoing the devotion shown by those who shaped him.

Throughout this article, I’ll use some of his powerful lyrics to illustrate the key traits of a true Father Figure.

Stay with me on this.

The Five Traits of a Father Figure

Whether examining earthly relationships or divine guidance, a father figure consistently exhibits five fundamental traits:

Provision. Presence. Patience. Perseverance. Protection.

Let’s break it down.

  1. Provision

If you’re in his way, then I’m on my way, oh

Don’t shoot that boy down, He stays in the clouds (Hе does)

– Jon Bellion, DON’T SHOOT.

A father figure provides before you even know what you need.

He works long hours, skips comforts, and shows up consistently. Your earthly father figures may not have everything, but they give everything they have to those in their care. They know that provision goes beyond money and things – they also give time, attention, and love.

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19

God, our heavenly Father, provides even more. He gives us breath, purpose, and grace every day. Divine provision shows us that God gives us everything we need, even when we don’t deserve it.

With a Father Figure, you feel safe because someone considers your needs before you even voice them.

  1. Presence

Lord, it’s tough to hold my son and be here in the moment.

I need to keep him safe, tell me which direction this world is going…

He said a present father is worth way more than a perfect dad

– Jon Bellion, MY BOY

Being there means more than just showing up in the same room.

Earthly fathers who truly understand presence put down their phones, look into their children’s eyes, and listen. They show up because they know their attention is a gift.

A Father Figure create memories by simply being fully there in each moment.

“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” – Zephaniah 3:17

God’s presence is even closer and surpasses this earthly model. He never leaves, even when the world feels quiet. Our Heavenly Father reminds us we are never truly alone, even in our darkest times.

Because some of the best love is felt, not spoken.

  1. Patience

So can we decide
That we’ll give this one more try?
And we’ll get it right, yeah, we’ll get it right this time

– Jon Bellion, GET IT RIGHT

A father is patient even when you mess up again and again.

He doesn’t yell when you drop the ball; instead, he helps you pick it back up. Earthly fathers try to guide gently. They know growth takes time.

“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:9

God exemplifies perfect patience. He waits for us when we drift and welcomes us back with open arms. His patience with us shows perfect love that never gives up, even when we mess up again and again.

Real love doesn’t give up when progress is slow.

  1. Perseverance

If the higher I fly is the further I fall

Then why love anything at all?

– Jon Bellion, WHY

A father figure never gives up, no matter how hard things get.

On earth, father figures continue to love, guide, and support even when it feels like nothing is working. These fathers understand that raising children is a marathon, not a sprint. They stay committed for the long journey.

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.” – Hebrews 10:23

God’s love never stops chasing us, even when we run the other way. His perseverance teaches us that His love endures through every season of our lives.

The strength of a Father Figure becomes most evident when he refuses to walk away.

  1. Protection

If less of me will give you more, I’m strangling my pride

Light of my life, lay down my life

– Jon Bellion, RICH AND BROKE

A father’s ultimate responsibility is to keep his children safe from harm.

Earthly fathers protect their kids from physical danger, but they also guard their hearts and minds from things that could hurt them. They create safe homes where children can grow without fear. Good fathers build walls around what’s harmful while opening doors to what’s good and right.

A Father Figure protects with his hands, hearts, and hard choices.

“The Lord is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” – Psalm 91:2

God protects your soul. He covers us in battles we can’t even see. Divine protection reminds us that we have a heavenly Father who watches over us every moment.

Because love instinctively guards the ones it treasures.

How Father Figures Create Lasting Impact

The fishing trip anecdote that opened this email discussion illustrates the powerful difference perspective makes in father-child relationships.

While one saw a wasted day, the other experienced life’s greatest joy.

This contrast must remind you that becoming or recognising a Father Figure (whether in yourself or others) requires intentional commitment to these five essential traits.

When someone embodies the role of Father Figure, they unlock the ability to shape destinies and build confidence in those they guide.

Through provision, presence, patience, perseverance, and protection, these remarkable individuals create ripple effects that strengthen families, communities, and future generations.

Who in your life embodies these qualities? Take a moment to appreciate them.

And consider how you might cultivate these ‘Father Figure’ traits in your interactions.

Cheers.

Zamai.

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Social Wealth: Why Relationships Might Be Your Real Net Worth

Social wealth is the connection to others in your personal and professional worlds.

The more people who love and support you, the more social wealth you have. It’s the depth and breadth of your relationships to those around you. Social wealth is having good friends and family who care about you.

Having a meaningful human connection is important for a fulfilling life.

Prioritising relationships is essential to your happiness and well-being. Fortunately, there is a framework for building Social Wealth through three core pillars: Depth, Breadth, and Earned Status.

This is still a review from Sahil’s book – 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

From his book (now a bestseller), I will share the practical systems and hacks for improving your social fitness and developing stronger connections.

The Core Idea is Prioritising People

Deep, meaningful relationships are the foundation of a wealthy life.

No matter how you focus on your career or financial success, your achievements in other areas will feel empty without strong social connections.

Do you really picture yourself alone on that plane or yacht? What good is the big house if there is no love to fill it?

Human connection is ultimately what provides the lasting texture and meaning in life.

Social Wealth

The Three Pillars of Social Wealth

Your Social Wealth is built across three core pillars.

1. Depth: The Front-Row People

This is the connection with a small, inner circle of people with whom you share deep, meaningful, and durable bonds.

These are your Front-Row People. You can rely on them for love, support, and connection during good times and bad.

How to Build Depth

  1. Be Honest: Share your inner truth and weaknesses and truly listen when others do the same.
  2. Show Support: Be present and supportive during difficult times. Sit in the darkness with those who are struggling.
  3. Have Shared Experience: Engage in positive and negative experiences together. This will strengthen your bonds and build resilience in all your relationships.

Your circle of depth is not limited to family.

Meaningful connections can be found anywhere.

Your circle of closest and irreplaceable people must not be static. It can evolve and change over time as relationships grow or fade. But note this, depth is crucial for a happy and fulfilled life.

Your depth of social wealth provides a foundation of support and love that makes anything possible.

2. Breadth: Belonging to Something Bigger

Your breadth of social wealth is connecting to a larger circle of people for support and belonging beyond your inner circle.

You achieve this by participating in communities or having more individual relationships. Community is very important.  It provides a sense of belonging and connects you to individuals you may not have physically met.

Belonging to communities also lets you connect to something larger than oneself. And communities can be formed around various interests, such as cultural, spiritual, local, or professional affiliations.

How to Build Breadth

  1. Join Local Clubs or Communities: Participate in activities related to your hobbies and interests. It can be book clubs, art clubs, or gyms.
    1. Attend Spiritual Gatherings: Engage in faith-driven activities if you are a spiritual individual. It can be church programs, gospel artistes’ concerts or volunteering for evangelism.
    2. Sign up and join Digital Meetups: You can join online communities that focus on causes you care about.
    3. Coordinate Walks or Hikes: Organise regular outdoor activities with others in your area.
    4. Attend Networking Events: Overcome shyness and attend events that can lead to new connections.

Expanding your breadth of social wealth requires trying new things and being open to the world.

To do this, you must be generous and not expect anything in return. Both are essential for building meaningful connections within a broader network.

The currency of real networking is not greed but generosity.3. Earned Status: Social Currency That Lasts

This is the third pillar of your social wealth.

Earned status is the respect, admiration, and trust you receive from your peers based on your actions and character, rather than acquired possessions or social symbols.

There is a big difference between bought and earned status.

Bought Status is achieved through acquired status symbols such as club memberships, expensive cars, jewellery, or private plane flights.

Earned status is achieved through hard-won treasures like freedom to choose how to spend your time, loving family relationships and purposeful work. It can also be accumulated wisdom, adaptable mind, fit physique, professional promotions, or company sales.

Focus on Increasing Your Earned Status

Lasting, durable satisfaction comes from pursuing earned status.

Genuine respect and admiration (from those whose opinions you value) comes when you focus on improving your earned status.

Bought status is fleeting and provides only temporary social positioning. On the other hand, earned status is durable and lasting, providing a solid foundation for Social Wealth.

Concentrate on what must be earned rather than what can be bought.

This is how you will live a life of abundant Social Wealth.

The Social Wealth Guide: Systems for Success

There are actionable systems for building Social Wealth.

These systems are not one-size-fits-all, so feel free to select those that resonate and align with your personal goals.

First, there are some anti-goals you must avoid. Don’t allow the pursuit of financial success to damage deep connections. Don’t neglect local relationships and community ties.

Now, here are ten Proven Systems for Building Social Wealth

1. Social Wealth Hacks I Wish I Knew at Twenty-Two:

    1. Happiness is direction, not destination; whom you travel with counts.
    2. People are made for love.
    3. Political disagreement doesn’t preclude close relationships.
    4. Happy people love people, use things, and worship the divine; unhappy people do the opposite.
    5. It’s a bad trade to prioritize being special over being happy.
    6. Approach disagreements as a “we,” not a “me.”
    7. Happiness requires generosity in love and allowing yourself to be loved.
    8. Talk to people unlike you to expose yourself to new perspectives.
    9. Treat fighting like exercise.
    10. Focus on relationships, not leaving them to chance.
    11. Expand your time horizon with love.
    12. Entrepreneurs risk their hearts by falling in love.
    13. Say exactly what you mean.
    14. Don’t treat family like emotional ATMs.
    15. Make friendship an end, not a means.
    16. Don’t spread misery.
    17. Put on your oxygen mask first.
    18. Don’t focus on looks and status in others.
    19. Let people know when you think something nice about them.
    20. Tell your partner one thing you appreciate about them every day.
    21. Ask intimidating people what they’re most excited about and then listen closely.
    22. Offer unwavering support during tough times.
    23. Record video interviews with your parents.
    24. Send a book you love as a gift.
    25. Always carry a pocket notebook.
    26. Never keep score in life.
    27. Avoid overly transactional friendships.
    28. Wait twenty-four hours before acting on strong emotions.
    29. Compliment a stranger every day.
    30. Focus on being interested, not interesting.
    31. Do things worthy of stories to tell your kids someday.

2. The Relationship Map (Pillars: Depth and Breadth):

  1. List your core relationships (10-25).
  2. Assess relationships based on if they are supportive, ambivalent, or demeaning, and by their frequency.
  3. Map the relationships on a grid with Relationship Health (demeaning to supportive) on the x-axis and Relationship Frequency (rare to daily) on the y-axis.

Then put your core relationships into these zones:

  • Green Zone: (Supportive, frequent) – Prioritize and maintain.
  • Opportunity Zone: (Supportive, infrequent) – Increase interaction frequency.
  • Danger Zone: (Ambivalent, frequent) – Manage impact or improve interactions.
  • Red Zone: (Demeaning, frequent) – Manage or remove the relationship.

3. Two Rules for Growing in Love (Pillar: Depth):

Rule 1: Understand Love Languages: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Gifts, Acts of service and Physical touch.

Recognize and show love in your partner’s preferred language.

Rule 2: Avoid the Traps (The Four Horsemen): Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling

Use antidotes like gentle start-up, taking responsibility, building appreciation, and physiological self-soothing.

There is also some additional relationship advice you can adopt.

Avoid scorekeeping, maintain separate interests, understand that it can’t always be 50/50, avoid involving non-professional third parties in disagreements, prioritize your spouse, and accept each other without needing approval from others.

4. The Life Dinner (Pillar: Depth):

Have a monthly date with your partner to discuss personal, professional, and relationship progress, challenges, and goals.

5. Helped, Heard, or Hugged (Pillar: Depth):

When someone comes to you with a problem, ask if they want to be helped (solutions), heard (listening), or hugged (comfort).

be helped (solutions), heard (listening), or hugged (comfort).

6. The Four Principles of a Master Conversationalist (Pillar: Breadth):

  1. Create Doorknobs: Use questions or statements that invite storytelling.
  2. Be a Loud Listener: Use sounds, expressions, and body language to show engagement
  3. Repeat and Follow: Repeat key points and add insights or questions.
  4. Make Situational Eye Contact: Deep while listening and organic while speaking.

7. The Anti-Networking Guide (Pillar: Breadth):

    1. Principle 1: Find Value-Aligned Rooms: Put yourself in places where you’ll meet people with similar values and interests.
    2. Principle 2: Ask Engaging Questions: Start conversations with personal questions.
    3. Principle 3: Become a Loud Listener: Focus intently while the other person speaks and listen to understand.
    4. Principle 4: Use Creative Follow-ups: Show effort beyond a typical exchange.

8. The Brain Trust (Pillar: Breadth):

Build a personal board of advisers (5-10 people) with diverse perspectives for feedback and advice.

Focus on their genuine interest in your success. They might each have a particular archetype, such as senior executive, inspirational leader, or contrarian thinker.

9. The Public Speaking Guide (Pillars: Breadth and Earned Status):

During Pre-Event Preparation: Create clear Structure, practice your key moments and study the best speakers you want to emulate.

During Pre-Stage Preparation: Address the Spotlight by confront your worst fears about what could go wrong. Then get into character and eliminate any form of stress.

During Delivery: Cut the Tension with jokes, use big, confident gestures to hype yourself up and move purposefully.

10. The Status Tests (Pillar: Earned Status):

When seeking status, take these two tests:

The Bought-Status Test: Would I buy this if I couldn’t show it off?

The Earned-Status Test: Can the richest person in the world acquire this easily?

Diagram 4: A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love. These things cannot be bought – they must be earned.

Tailor Your Social Wealth to Fit What You Truly Need

The exact levels of social depth and breadth appropriate for an individual can vary by person.

You may be more naturally extroverted and desire high degrees of social breadth and depth. Or you might be more introverted and prefer fewer, deeper connections.

This means if you are a natural extrovert, you need significant breadth and depth of connection to keep loneliness at bay.  If you are a natural introvert, you will need only a few close relationships to do the same.

Your goal is to look at the three pillars of social wealth and know where to improve.

The plan is to prioritise relationships and build a life rich in meaningful connections.

I hope it helps.

Zamai