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Everything You Need to Befriend and Persuade Other People

This is the full guide to handling social interactions, building friendships, and inspiring others.

The famous book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” reveals these secrets. It has sold over 30 million copies worldwide and even received recommendations from Warren Buffet. Carnegie’s book is full of timeless wisdom and insights that you can use to bring out the best in your relationships.

How to Get the Most Out of This Guide

  1. Have a strong, burning desire to understand the fundamentals of friendships and relationships
  2. Read each article twice before going on to the next one.
  3. As you read, stop frequently to ask yourself how you can apply each suggestion.
  4. Highlight each key point from every article.
  5. Review this guide each month
  6. Apply these principles at every opportunity. Use this guide as a working handbook to help you solve your daily social problems.
  7. Make a lively game out of your learning by offering your friend some money every time he or she catches you violating one of these principles.
  8. Check up each week on the progress you are making. Ask yourself what mistakes you have made, what improvement, what lessons you have learned for the future.
  9. Keep notes showing how and when you have applied these principles.

Now, Here are the main techniques, so you don’t have to spend hours studying his book. Or tens of other relationship books.

How Everyone Should Optimize Their Relationships

The journey of life is easier with stronger relationships and building more meaningful connections. And it starts by learning the fundamental techniques in handling people.

What Everyone Ought to Know to Bring Out The Best in their Relationships

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Four Quick Ways to Make People Like You

How well-liked you are by others can strongly influence your happiness and success at work. People that are likable are regularly better at influencing others—whether it’s convincing coworkers, winning over ideas, or boosting team spirit. Here are the four quick ways to make people like you.

Be a People Magnet

Be a People Magnet



How To Always Win People Over to Your Side

Being a persuasive diplomat means you can win people over to your way of thinking. You can build stronger relationships with friends, family, and coworkers when you can convince people of your points of view and effectively convey them. Here are the principles you can apply to become a persuasive diplomat.

Win People Over

Win People Over



Avoid These Mistakes to Truly Change People

The role of a leader is to coach, guide and inspire others. To perform this role excellently, a leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. Here are the mistakes you must avoid in performing this role of positively influencing people for good.

Positive Leader

Positive Leader


Positive Leader: Avoid These Mistakes to Truly Change People

The role of a positive leader is to coach, guide and inspire others.

To perform this role excellently, a leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. And there are mistakes you must avoid in performing this role of positively influencing people for good.

Positive Leader

Positive Leader: Avoid These Mistakes to Truly Change People for Good

These suggestions being shared are from the book – How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Over 30 million copies have been sold worldwide, and even recommended by Warren Buffet. Carnegie’s book is full of timeless wisdom and insights that you can use to bring out the best in your relationships.

Now, here are the mistakes you must avoid in exhibiting positive leadership:

MISTAKE #1: Starting with the criticism and fault-finding.

To be a positive leader, you must avoid criticizing the people who look up to you.

If you must find faults, begin with praise and honest appreciation. It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praises of our good points. This makes your leadership more friendly and constructive to those around you.

Avoid the mistake of starting with condemnation and destructive criticism.

MISTAKE #2: Directly calling attention to the mistakes of others.

To be a positive leader, you must call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word ‘but’ and ending with a critical statement. You can easily overcome this by changing the word ‘but’ to ‘and’. This is a more effective way to correct mistakes of other people.

By doing this, you can constructively criticize others and not get hated for it.

MISTAKE #3: Not talking about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

You can expect anybody to instantly understand your perspectives, your judgment, your initiative on specific matters.

This is why you must first share your lessons learned when you found yourself in similar situations It is easier to listen to a list of your shortcomings if the one giving you criticism starts off by genuinely admitting that they are far from perfect as well.

Talk about your own mistakes first.

MISTAKE #4: Giving direct orders instead of giving suggestions.

Most leaders make the mistake of giving the people the opportunity to do things in their own way.

Always give suggestions, not orders. Ask them questions to get their perspectives on how they can perform the stated tasks. Not only does asking questions eventually make your order more appealing, but it also frequently encourages the creative thinking of the people you ask. If they were involved in the decision that led to the issuance of the order, they are more likely to obey it.

Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

MISTAKE #5: Making the other person feel foolish and ashamed.

Do not say or do anything that diminishes someone in their own eyes.

Even if you are right and the other person is wrong, you only destroy their dignity and self-esteem when you humiliate and publicly embarrass people. This in turn negatively influences how people will view your leadership and impact you want to make. Don’t be a sadist.

Always let the other person maintain their social standing and reputation in the eyes of others.

MISTAKE #6: Refusing to celebrate the improvements of others.

The abilities of people wither under criticism and blossom under encouragement.

Make people feel seen and appreciated. Everybody likes to be praised, and when the praise is specific, it comes across as sincere – not something the other person may be saying just to make one feel good. This is how you inspire others to achieve success.

Praise the slightest improvement and celebrate every improvement.

MISTAKE #7:  Assuming people will always have a bad reputation.

As a leader looking to influence people positively, seek to give everyone a good name.

If you want to improve a person in a certain aspect, act as though that particular trait was already one of their outstanding characteristics. Declare this to them openly and they will double their effectiveness because of your positive belief in them.

Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

MISTAKE #8: Making it difficult for people to correct their mistakes.

Encourage people freely.

Express your belief that the other person can make the necessary corrections. Remind them time and time again that they have a natural gift for this quality. When you do this, that person will practice continually to excel.

Use encouragement and make the fault seem easy to correct.

MISTAKE #9: Forcing the other person to do what you suggest.

Make people glad to do what you want.

Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits to the other person. When doing this, don’t promise anything that you cannot deliver. Be sincere.

Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

That’s all.

It is important to note that these suggestions shared in this article will work only when they come from your heart. This is not a bag of tricks. It’s a new way of life.

If you will inspire and positively influence people with whom you come in contact to a realization of the hidden treasures they possess, you can do far more than change people.

You can literally transform them.

People Magnet: Four Quick Ways to be Liked by Others

To be a people magnet is to acknowledge that your happiness and success at work can be strongly influenced by how well-liked you are by others.

People that are likable are regularly better at influencing others—whether it’s convincing coworkers, winning over ideas, or boosting team spirit. Stronger, deeper connections with others can also be nurtured by your likability, and this results in sustaining friendships and partnerships.

Be a People Magnet

Be a People Magnet

Here are the four quick ways to make people like you:

1. Smile to make a great first impression

First impression matters.

And the quickest way to make a great first impression is to give a wide smile. Smiling makes you look friendly and approachable.

A smile says to the other person, ‘I am glad to see you. You make me happy. I always enjoy your company.”

The clothes you wear is not nearly as important as the expression on your face.


Force yourself to smile when you are first alone. Act as if you are already happy, and this will make you happy as well. You are only happy when you choose to be happy.

Then smile afterwards. Your smile is a way of expressing your kindness. Everyone who sees your smile will feel happier around you too.

2. Remember people’s names to make them feel important.

Do you know the average person is more interested in his or her own name than all other names combined?

Former U.S. President, Franklin D. Roosevelt confirms that remembering names is one of the easiest, most evident, and most significant ways to win people over. When you remember that name and call it easily, you have paid a subtle and impactful compliment to that person.

The ability to recall names is nearly as crucial in social and professional interactions as it is in politics.


If you are hearing a person’s name clearly for the first time, ask – “I am sorry, I did not hear your name clearly, can you say it again?”  If the name is not common, ask the person to spell it out. Then write the name on your phone or a piece of paper.

Make the effort to repeat the name multiple times during the conversation and try to mentally connect it to the person’s features, expression, and overall look. This technique was successfully used by Napoleon the Third.

And it works till now!


The person’s name distinguishes them from others and makes them special.

This means that when we address situations with the person’s name, the information we are providing or the request we are making assumes a special significance. It puts you at a sharp advantage for them to like you. This is what makes you a people magnet.

Recognize the power of a name and understand that the only owner of this particular asset is the person we are interacting with. No one else.

3. Listen deeply and encourage people to talk about themselves.

This is a simple method to improve your conversation skills.

Many people don’t listen deeply, which prevents them from leaving a positive impression. They don’t keep their ears open because they are too worried about what they will say next. Studies show that the most influential people value attentive listeners more than talkers. However, listening skills appear to be more uncommon than nearly any other positive quality.

It is essential that you give the person speaking to you your whole attention. Nothing else is so pleasing as that.

A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation – Dale Carnegie


Be a focused listener if you want to be a good conversationalist. Be interested to be interesting.

Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Invite them to share about their experiences and achievements.

Even the most violent critic will often become gentler and quiet when they are around a patient, understanding listener.

4. Develop a sincere interest in other people.

By showing genuine interest in other people, you can make more friends in one month than you can by trying to pique their interest in you over the course of a year.

If you want to make friends, you must put yourself out there to do things for other people – things that require time: energy, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness. Being genuinely interested in other people not only makes you friends but also fosters a sense of loyalty if you run a business or building a professional career.

This is also the only means for the other ways to work fine for you in the long run.


Speaking with someone about the things they value most is the best way to winning their heart.

Mention the interests of the other person when you speak. Look for things you both have in common, like hobbies or life experiences.  Ask follow-up questions, nod in agreement, and express enthusiasm in the topics they are talking about.

Always bring the focus of the conversation back to the other person.

Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.” – Benjamin Disraeli.

Greet people with enthusiasm and energy as well.

Also use the same mentality when someone calls you on the phone. Say “Hello” in a tone that conveys your happiness that they have called.

This is a fantastic way to build rapport, make them feel valued, and create a more engaging conversation.